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CROSSDRESSER GOODBYE

Crossdresser goodbye is something that occurs every day around the world and has been with us forever. I am not trying to be dramatic with this introduction, it’s just that I don’t know any other way to put it. I use the term crossdresser goodbye to address something I have both experienced and observed for many years. When a crossdresser passes away in most cases they just vanish never being heard from again. In my observation their friends are not invited to the funeral. In many cases even made aware of the crossdresser’s passing. I have seen e-mails from people searching for information on a crossdresser who stopped responding to e-mails. They are concerned and reaching out to anyone who might have some information on their friend. Most never know what happened, no crossdresser goodbye just wondering. Being a member of a group or social club where people know each other’s private lives. Especially, if they socialize away from crossdressing makes information more available. I think in the majority of cases the crossdresser simply vanishes, so friends and acquaintances eventually assume they have passed. They deserve better but that’s just the way it is there is no crossdresser goodbye.

Last month I learned of my friend Espy Lopez passed away after a long illness. She was a friend for over 30 years, and I was fortunate to be in the loop of friends who were notified. Espy and I did not have matching tattoos or anything but shared growing up just 6 months apart in Southern California in the 1960’s heyday. In addition to the closeness in age we were both crossdresser’s which created somewhat of a bond. In those days there was no pride, stonewall or anything like today. A guy sharing with another guy that you were a crossdresser created a mutual vulnerability. Both of us were employed in the aerospace industry and would probably lose our jobs if word got out. We met in the early 1990’s when she was assigned to interview me for membership in CHIC where she was a member. We remained friends ever since although seeing less of each other in recent years. It was during that interview when I learned of Espy’s military background of which she was justifiably proud.

 

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During the interview she shared her service as a U.S. Army Ranger in Vietnam, and I believe she said two tours of duty. I remember seeing a picture of her in uniform on a table in her home. Her uniform was covered with emblems and ribbons I am not familiar with. It was clear that she was an accomplished soldier.

Another of her accomplishments was her company Classic Curves international that has been around for over 30 years. She started with hip/ butt pads to give guys curves. Back then crossdressers were using an electric carving knife borrowed from mom or the wife. They carved up a foam furniture seat pad to make hip pads. When I asked her how she figured it out she explained how she used a computer at work to overlay a male image over a female image. It showed where a guy needed padding and how much. She noted that a woman’s shoulders and hips were close in size. She measured your shoulders which is how she knew what to make for you. At first, she had you come to her shop with your favorite dress so she could custom shape the foam pads to you. Putting on protective gloves taped to her arms along with an industrial breathing filter the process began. She turned on the industrial sanding machine and began to contour the foam pad to your shape with fit checks from time to time. You left with an amazing figure. Ever the inventor she kept thinking of ways to improve the product and gel pads came a year or so later. By now she had progressed to using molds to cast the pads in several sizes which fit most guys just fine. I have one of the first sets of gel molded pads that she made in her shop with another invention she conceived to heat the silicone. It looked like one of the old Igloo coolers common on construction sites which was a galvanized steel barrel. Espy modified it to cook silicone and poured me a set of pads on the spot which, I still have and use today.

If you go to her site Classic Curves International, you will see how her company evolved with more clever products over the years. Espy through her company, products, and outreach to others via phone or at one of the many conventions she did make a wonderful contribution to the Trans community.

She will be remembered fondly by myself and others every time we pad up to go out En Fem for an evening out. Espy was a pioneer in the crossdresser padding industry with her veteran owned American made products.

And so goes my crossdresser goodbye to Espy.

 

Thanks to all of you who responded with your crossdresser goodbye thoughts for Espy.

6 comments

  1. I never met or talked to Espy, but I know of her great impact on our world with Classic Curves. She saw a need for us, and she met it. She sounds like a great lady. As long as we still have Classic Curves, and buy pads from them, we are in a small way, honing her memory as a fellow crossdresser, and as long as we can breath air in countries that are free we honor her service a Ranger. May Espy Rest In Peace and the memory of her accomplishment will live on.

  2. Espy was great! So friendly, helpful. We never met but over the phone for many years. Her curves made my small frame truly believable and launched many years of enjoyment.

  3. Thank you Micki , as you know Espy and I had a lot in common , she was the one that got me into the club as well , I remember meeting her at Esprei in port angeles many years ago , as a ranger she always adapted and over come any situation, none of us escape the angel of death my she Rest In Peace

    Susie

  4. I never had a chance to meet Espy but we did communicate in chat rooms where she was friendly and thoughtful in our talks. She will be missed. Thank you for your service to our country and to the CD/the community. RIP

  5. I too, met Espy in a similar way. I will never forget standing in her garage at her house as she measured me for my Classic Curves. She made me feel like “a normal person” as we both had had similar macho work experiences and our crossdressing in common. I had not seen Espy in a few years and as she fell away I never got to say goodbye. With a social media account I notice how this happens as we have freinds and eventually we find that they dont reply anymore and we send out the call of are you ok only to find that they are no longer with us. Its really unfair for the left behind and not being able to let the one who is on to another place that we cared for them and had enjoyed their company, camraderie, and sisterhood. To echo Micki, Espy the Pioneer in USA Veteran made products. ”HOOAH” Soldier! “HUA,” an acronym for “heard, understood, acknowledged.” RIP my freind and one of my first crossdressing mentors.

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