This is kind of a back to back post coming only one day behind the other one but I have been quiet for awhile. I just returned from a trip to one of my most favorite cities San Francisco with my BFF Ashley. We met up with two of my Vanity Club sisters Kelli and Diane that live in town for dinner at Waterbar. The company, the restaurant, the food, especially the table were great as was the service.
I don’t do pictures too often but this one taken in the hotel lobby with the bar in the background. I bought the Moto jacket this last summer but had the skirt already and fortunately the zippers matched.
For years my wife and others suggested my wearing a shorter wig for various reasons and a few decades back I purchased one from a wig store ostensibly for my wife. (WINK WINK) The woman dutifully sold me the one I liked in the wrong size and color for me but, then again it was for my wife right? I took it home, tried it on and scared the hell out of myself. Had I been honest with the sales person she might have told me that a jet black page boy would show every wrinkle in my pale skin not to mention it was too small. She would have measured my head for the correct size and chosen a color to compliment my skin tone but I would have been embarrassed to tell her it was for me back then so I did it the hard way. Also the wig was parted down the middle so the hair covered part of my eyes and the curved ends kept falling in my mouth. I tried again some years later with a color that was better but the style looked like a football helmet on me.
Fast forward 30 years and I found one that I liked so I bought another one in a different color. The style is Freedom by Godiva’s Secret Wigs located in Southern California but they have a website.
What I like about the wig besides the cut is it comes in a large size (23 inch diameter) which gives me the length I want. The nape down the back is is about 2.5 inches and there is enough hair on top to style it high. Increased height adds length to my face and gives the appearance of narrowing it. The wig is also their own brand and very good quality. It is the only brand that they sell.
I have been wearing high heels for many years and pretty much putting up with the pain along with having my foot look like a boat when I take them off . My toes are smashed together in a triangle like the bow of a boat and bent upward until I walk a few feet barefoot. A couple of years ago I discovered Vivian Lou Insoles which are shown in the picture below.
The clear gel pad going from the arch to just shy of the heel shifts you weight back from the ball of your foot to the heel more evenly distributing it.
Vivian Lou insoles help a great deal but the old ice trick makes the shoes even more comfortable. I wrote about this a couple of years ago on my other site www.chicladies.org but have recently made a discovery that makes it even better. I was getting ready to go to a Vanity Club outing in Atalanta and had two new pairs of pumps to wear.
I inserted the zip lock plastic bags with the corner deep into the toe of each shoe pushing it in with my finger making sure it was all the way in. Then I filled the bags about a third of the way full with water and put them in the freezer over night. I did this three times on one shoe and the other needed a fourth time putting them on in between to check the fit. When the water froze each night it expanded gently stretching the shoe a little each time. The shoes pictured above are satin but the ones I did multiple times were black kid and black patent leather.
I travel every month to various places and most of the time bring Ms. Micki with me along with everything that she needs to be girly. Staying in hotels has its advantages like room and maid service but some drawbacks also. Typically I leave the room in the morning as Duke doing guy stuff returning around 3:00pm to become Micki. When I leave the room at around 6:00pm with my heels clicking down the hall hair and makeup perfect I definitely look different. It used to bother me a great deal that the maids would see my wig stands on the dresser which, is the only hint that Duke and Micki are sharing a room. I was worried they might tell other staff and snicker about a crossdresser in the room when they saw me as Duke but not so much any more.
I discovered these hangers on Amazon and tried them out on my last trip.
They go together quickly and disassemble quickly storing flat for shipping.
Maids don’t go into closets or open drawers so the wigs are out of site hanging in the closet. Wives traveling with crossdressers will appreciate the privacy also.
This post is a first for me in an attempt to review a book now online and in book stores. I found it authentic and believable but, am concerned about people generalizing who she is versus crossdresser’s like myself and many others like me are. In my case heterosexual crossdresser who dresses a couple of times per month. Married with children, grand children and all that. I know Jenner has many children but you need to read the book to learn about that.
The book gives a fascinating look into what goes on in someones mind versus their outward appearance. I remember in 1976 when Bruce won the Decathlon he was America’s hero and made his country proud. I am sure I am not alone in envying his looks and his life, the guy was a stud. I was sure he was bedding different women 7 days a week especially when he went to Hollywood but Caitlyn sets the record straight with a very different account.The book has many other surprises based on my and other peoples assumptions about Bruce Jenner.
We are the same age and grew up in the post WWII era but on different coasts. Being a crossdresser in those days was a very lonely existence because there was really nothing readily available on the topic and nobody spoke of it. We were totally alone with our thoughts and desires. I never heard the term DRAG QUEEN until I was 22 which, was about the time I read something about a Transvestite in a magazine.
She explains in the book pretty much what we all went through as most crossdresser’s starting at an early age with Mom’s stuff and in her case an older sister in her teenage years. The guilt, shame and self loathing she describes are a familiar story for many of us. We were raised by men who fought in WWII just a few years before and survived it’s horrors. They were tough and expected the same of those they fathered, coached and mentored teaching us to be men. We could never bear their disgust and being thought of as a sissy. It is one thing to self loath but quit another to experience being loathed by someone you loved and respected.
Caitlin’s decision to start her transition to become the woman she feels she needed to be is where the similarity ends. Although much of what Bruce did through the years parallels most crossdressers experience the decision to become Cailtlyn is where it ends. Most crossdressers don’t have desires like hers and are content to manage their urges to dress like women.
I hope that people understand the difference between the two groups especially loved ones of crossdrerssers such as wives, children, girlfriends, parents and friends. Crossdressing does not necessarily lead to a sex change. The majority of cross dresser’s live normal lives indulging their desire to dress in women’s clothing part time.
I recommend the book to anyone interested in crossdressing or sex reassignment surgery because it is a well written interesting story and enjoyable read especially if you think she is trying to be the spokesperson for all trans people. She takes some heat on that label given to her by the media.
For many crossdresser’s summer means presenting a fuzzier version of your girly self opting for pants to cover your legs instead of skirts. For married crossdresser’s sometimes it is not optional and it is best to comply. Shaved legs might not bother the crossdresser but wives have very valid concerns. Bare legs would be obvious and she would probably decline invitations for BBQ’s and other outdoor activities which is not fair to her not to mention if kids are involved.
Depending where you live the summer might only last a couple of weeks and then you can go back to your smooth hairless look. Trust me your lady will really appreciate it and besides most women these days are wearing jeans or some other form of long pants so this is your chance to look CHIC.
In my case she is not the one who decides my stopping shaving my legs and other areas. I am an outdoor person and enjoy outdoor sports and other activities during the summer months. I want to enjoy myself without being concerned about people noticing shaved legs.
Don’t get me wrong I think about dressing the whole summer time but, when the weather cools and the days grow shorter there is a little bounce in my step that turns into a sway once the heels go on. I usually have a little coming out party sort of by taking a trip to San Francisco for a couple of days shopping and partying en fem. Immersion therapy I call it after my summer dry spell.
For those who share my situation cheer up it won’t be too much longer and can still shop online during summer.
This new shapewear garment is the next evolution of the Veronica line! It’s an outstanding piece of work as the testimony from Robyn Michaels states.
I cannot begin to tell you how I much I love the new Veronica 6 Open Bottom Girdle. But I will try!
I love the romance and feminine glamour of vintage fashions from the 1950s and 1960s, especially my preference for wearing garter style stockings rather than pantyhose or thigh highs. The new Veronica 6 has everything girls like us could want with an open bottom girdle. The six garters keep the seams of my vintage nylon stockings nice and straight which is important for making a good impression when out clubbing and dancing the night away. And the visual effect that the padding provides makes every dress style that much more alluring and feminine.
And I must admit to a greater sense of confidence in my appearance when wearing the Veronica 6 when out at more public places like restaurants and events. Even women take notice of the “curves in all the right places”. And the look is very “natural” and not artificial looking at all. The attention to detail (delicate lace trim at the hem of the girdle) also was noticed and greatly appreciated by a gentleman admirer who appreciates a girl who dresses to impress.
The Veronica 6 open bottom girdle is pin-up perfect, too! Classic glamour from Classic Curves International…what more could I ask for?