Category Archives: Crossdresser

MATURE CROSSDRESSER’S

Mature crossdresser’s are seen more and more out among the mainstream public. The Friday night before our monthly CHIC meeting affords an opportunity for some members to go out 2 nights in a row. Some travel a great distance to attend meetings and like myself get a hotel room for the weekend. Wanda and some others joined joined me for the January Friday B4. She and I are in the lounge of one of our favorite restaurants in Long Beach. The only crossdresser wife attending that night was Wanda’s who took the picture.

Mature Crossdresser's

SEASONED CROSSDRESSING

The member ship of CHIC ranges from 42 to 93 the average being about 60. We are a fun group who look forward to our monthly get together’s. The knowledge attained over decades is willingly passed along to the younger members if they are receptive.

MATURE CROSSDRESSER’S WITH STYLE

Mature Crossdresser
Micki Finn

I like many mature crossdresser’s prefer to dress on the conservative side without being dowdy or fuddy duddy! I love this jacket and skirt combo that I purchased separately and paired together. The look is timeless which is my goal when ever I purchase something. Only dressing a couple of days per month means if I buy something trendy I may only get to wear it once before it goes out of fashion.

MATURE CROSSDRESSER’S POSITIVE IMAGE

I have some shorter skirts slightly above the knee but mostly prefer the hem mid knee. They will always be in style if not fashion and don’t send the wrong message to those I encounter while out and about. The last thing I want is to give the impression that I am available to some boozed up dude looking for action. I always wear the wedding rings my wife bought me in case anyone looks but that doesn’t always deter people.

When I am approached in public it is typically from women curious about my being dressed as a woman. Some notice my ring and inquire whether I am married to a man and some are shocked to find I am heterosexual and married to a woman. I have enjoyed many enlightening conversations with these women and even their husbands on occasion. I am sure the conversations would not happen if I was dressed in a manner that made them uncomfortable.

Micki Finn

MATURE CROSSDRESSERS MAGNIFYING MIRRORS

Mature Crossdresser

Closeups are very popular for some people in the trans world when it comes to selfie photography. Mature crossdresser’s
magnifying mirrors allow for another closeup. The days of simply leaning forward to put you false eyelashes are gone sadly so we seasoned gurlz need technology.

Magnifying Mirrors

Magnifying mirrors are a wonderful aid for those who lack the vision of the younger crossdressers. Over the years I have used a variety of them and had to rig an adjustable mounting system in order to adapt to various challenges. My dressing is done traveling staying in hotel rooms which vary in bathroom layouts so adjustments are needed. Over door hooks, suction cups, and braided cord has suited me well.

Power Suction Cup Mirror

Mature Crossdresser
10X Magnification

I found the JiBen lighted makeup mirrors last year and ordered the 7X and 10X lighted one from Amazon for about $26.00 each. I tried them out this last trip and absolutely love them both. The 10X is perfect for putting on my false eyelashes allowing me to get the corners right. It also works great for putting eyeliner gel in between my eyelashes. Mature crossdresser’s magnifying mirrors make this possible without poking my eye out.

The 7X is better for eyebrow detailing and mascara along with other tasks that don’t need that much magnifying.

Mature Crossdresser's
7X Magnifying Mirror

Both mirrors are lighted using AAA batteries but I did not use them this time. They install on any smooth clean surface like window or mirror by pressing the base against the surface and then rotating the suction grip clockwise. The mirror will suck down on the surface and hold tight for days. When you remove the mirror just rotate the suction grip counter clockwise and the pull the small rubber tab on the back toward you. Thats It!

Enjoy,

Micki Finn

CROSSDRESSER CHRISTMAS PARTY

CHIC CHRISTMAS PARTY 2018

Crossdresser Christmas Parties only come around once a year and some of us start the planning months in advance. Others never stop shopping for that special nights show stopping outfit year around. I am guilty of the latter and are always on the lookout for something special.

This year though it was a favorite beaded suit from my classic closet.

Crossdresser Christmas Party

My CHIC Sister Wanda joined me for this photo at the 43rd annual CHIC Christmas Party at L’Opera restaurant.

The picture above was taken in the Wine Cellar at L’Opera Restaurant in Long Beach. It is a semi private room below the main restaurant elegantly decorated in elegant Italian motif.

CROSSDRESSER

In my 26 years as a member I have attended most of the parties. From my first in a members back yard to the Gable Lombard Suite at the Hollywood Roosevelt Hotel.

This years CHIC Christmas Party had 20 elegant ladies attending including wives. It was a joy watching each one descend down the staircase in their beautiful dresses and gowns. We have had over 40 attend at past parties like the Roosevelt but this year we opted not to invite outside guests. That made it extra special because you knew everybody at the party and we are a pretty close group.

HAPPY HOUR

The evening began with complimentary hot Hors d Oeuvres being passed around by servers. There was also cheese and fruit at a table for seconds. We had limitless champagne during the happy hour with the servers continually refilling your glass.

DINNER

A sit down dinner followed starting with Calamari Fritti appetizer then choices of Veal Osso Buco, Salmon and Chicken Breast. Wine was included with dinner with both white and red selections. Again with attentive servers re filling your never empty glass. Desert was a special treat with an assortment of Petits Fours consisting of Tiramisu, Creme Brulee, Chocolate Mouse.

Dinner was followed by lots of fun conversations and a lot of laughter until almost midnight when most called it a night with a few exceptions. Some continued the party across the street at the Federal Bar until the wee hours.

It was a wonderful night of love with new and old friends from CHIC. I started looking for next years outfit the next day. 

I can’t wait for next year!

   Micki Finn

CROSSDRESSER COLORS

CROSSDRESSER COLORS

Crossdresser colors you say! What is that? Years ago I found out quite by chance at California Dreaming a San Francisco crossdressing event. I was wandering around the vendor area looking at all the wares available when I came upon the Donna Fujii Cosmetics booth. There wasn’t much going on during the day in that most everyone was in the city shopping. As I was talking to the lady in the booth she asked if I wanted my colors done. I replied crossdresser colors? She explained that everyone should know their colors especially crossdressers. 

COLOR CONSULTATION

I sat down in the chair and she explained the difference between cool colors and warm colors. My skin is medium and I was wearing a dark brown wig so while my skin says warm my hair said cool. She started with cool and placed a piece of silver metallic cloth on my shoulder and asked me to look at my face especially my makeup.  She then placed a gold metallic cloth on the other shoulder again asking me to look at my makeup. When she then removed the silver cloth it seemed like my makeup changed looking much more complimentary or  warmer. She advised switching to warm tones like blond wigs and warm palette colors for makeup.

Clothes such as red really pop when worn with a blond wig.

Crossdresser in red
Micki Finn crossdressed in red jacket.

Finding anybody wearing much color is difficult today women, crossdresser’s or anyone else. Yes black is slimming but gets old seeing everyone dressed that way.

HAIR AND MAKEUP

The most important colors to get right are makeup and hair so if possible get the makeup right for your skin then do the wig color and style. The ideal would be to try on wigs dressed with your correct makeup on. Shorter styles are easier to work with because you don’t get distracted with the style and concentrate on the wig color complimenting your makeup. I think you will be surprised pleasantly and please purchase a wig if you take advantage of the Solon’s expertise.

Another possibility is to attend a crossdresser convention / conference where there is a wig stylist exhibiting  but again if at all possible purchase something from them. Diva Las Vegas this spring should have a wig company working with them.

CROSSDRESSING FOR HALOWEEN

CROSSDRESSING FOR HALOWEEN

Crossdressing for Halloween is probably the ultimate fantasy for every crossdresser at least when they first begin anyway. I think like me everyone thinks it would be the safest way to venture out for the first time crossdressed in public. Although I thought of it I went out dressed for many years before finally going to a Halloween party. It was safe given by a crossdresser and her wife in their home. I got ready in my home and my wife sneaked me out the door keeping watch for neighbors.

HALOWEEN 2018

After many years one of the CHIC members threw a Halloween party last weekend, Of course everyone was crossdressing for Halloween. My wife talked me into wearing a “Queen of Harts” costume. She was not attending with me so I was to go alone. That is not a big deal other than I was not staying at a motel. Motels often let you park right outside your door so you only have a few steps to get in the car. I was staying in a high rise Marriott hotel on the 7th floor.

Crossdressing For Halloween

THE ELEVATOR

I have stayed in this Marriott many times and am comfortable with it. The staff knows me and I think they are always interested in what I will be wearing each night I am there. I am always overdressed and I think the ladies approve of my taste.

Saturday night was different because my wife goaded me into getting dressed in my costume at the hotel. That meant I was going to be driving to the party dressed in it. I wanted to rent rent a second room just for that night to get ready but had trouble selling her on the cost.

CROSSDRESSING MARRIOTT

All dressed and ready to go I ventured out of my room and down the hall to the elevator as the Queen of Harts. I was probably only 20 feet down the hall when I heard a door slam behind me. I would have company in the elevator going down and he showed up 2 seconds behind me. Fortunately he asked if I was going to a party and I said yes, to which he said well you look great. I thanked him and we got into the elevator.

Lucky me!

The usually quiet lobby was full of people checking in for a big wedding that night so I gave them something to talk about and left.

The party was about a hour away and was great fun but I left a little after ten. after changing into a more contemporary jacket, skirt and heels.

Another great crossdressing adventure.

Micki Finn

CROSSDRESSING ALONE

CROSSDRESSING ALONE

We have all done it, everyone pretty much starts out that way unless someone dresses you as a joke or experiment. Most of us indulged in our fascination with women’s clothes all by ourselves. Many men will always be crossdressing alone away from prying eyes and the possible negative repercussions of others.

21ST CENTURY CROSSDRESSING

Thankfully there is much more acceptance of crossdressing today and there isn’t the stigma that existed in years past. I go out today to all kinds of mainstream businesses and entertainment venues without getting much more than a glance. It wasn’t always that way though.

GROWING UP

I grew up crossdressing alone and just had an article published in SisterHouse based on my early crossdressing experiences. Actually lack of experiences would be more accurate combined with lack of knowledge of crossdressing. You can follow this link the the article GROWING UP ALONE.  Tasi says it is somewhat sad in the beginning which is true but don’t feel sorry for me I have moved far beyond that time.

GROWN UP

crossdressing alone

I am firmly invested in 21st century crossdressing and only look back only to share with others especially the younger ones what it could have been like for them.

Forget about using the ladies room you were more worried about being the scourge of the community and shunned by virtually everyone. Mothers would not want their children playing with you and you would never get invited to a birthday party.  If discovered you would be immediately mistrusted and you’re motives questioned. It was against the law to impersonate a female in public and you could be arrested. I guess they assumed you were trying to trick some unsuspecting lad into being attracted to you.

Follow the link to SisterHouse for more growing up in mid 20th century California and crossdressing alone.

Enjoy,

Micki

 

CROSSDRESER WIVES IN SAN FRANCISCO

Crossdresser Wives

Crossdresser wives sometimes accompany their husbands out in public in fact some are quite comfortable doing it. Last weekend a group of CHIC members all rendezvoused in San Francisco for weekend of fun crossdressing. There were 5 crossdressers and 3 wives joining their crossdressed husbands.

San Francisco Crossdresser wives

The Redwood Room

Tonya (seated) and I are posing with the big chair in the Redwood Room near Union Square. Both our wives were with us but were camera shy but not us. We had just come out of the Redwood Room at the Clift Hotel after enjoying a nightcap. It was our first night in town and we enjoyed a leisurely dinner at Jardinière with other crossdressers wives and their husbands.

Dining Out

We were there a total of 3 days and dined at The Big 4 on Friday night and Farallon on Saturday night. All of us Crossdressers and crossdresser wives went to see Beach Blanket Babylon after dinner. Crossdresser Micki Finn

Shopping

The days were spent shopping for most of the ladies at Macy’s, Nordstrom, Sephora and other lady destinations.  All of the stores are Trans friendly and go out of their way to give you the help you need. This is especially true trying on clothes in the changing rooms where sales clerks will find an empty room for you. They will also check on you to see if you need a different size so you don’t have to keep getting dressed in between trying clothes.

Compromises

I do not dress during the days when my crossdresser wife joins me for outings. It is part of the compromise we worked out decades ago because she is more comfortable under cover of night. However I do shop dressed during the day on outings that my crossdresser wife does not attend which, is the majority of the time.

Traveling T Gurl

I go to San Francisco several times each year in addition to Las Vegas, Seattle, Portland and other cities without her so I get plenty of shopping in throughout the year.

PASSABLE VS. ACCEPABLE FOR CROSSDRESSER’S

PASSABLE

Passable vs. Acceptable is the question that prompted me to update my  CROSSDRESSER PASSING IN PUBLIC  page. Summer is almost behind us and my thoughts have drifted toward getting dressed again after a summer of doing guy stuff.

passable vs. acceptable

Micki is planning a new road trip and in that process security is always an important factor. Because passing is something I am not able to do. I don’t attempt to pass as a woman when I am dressed en fem. Micki made a decision many years ago that it is not practical for me to pull it off.

PASSABLE VS. ACCEPTABLE

That is not to say that I don’t put a maximum effort to look as glamorous and feminine as I can.  I just chose not to attempt to deceive people into thinking I was a real woman.

passable vs. acceptable
Ladies Room Break

The real me is far more interesting  and fun than the hybrid I would be creating.  Given the choice of being passable vs. acceptable as a crossdresser I choose acceptable crossdresser.

Most importantly  there is no guarantee that I will be accepted when out and about which is why I take precautions to minimize my risk of danger.

SAN FRANCISCO CROSSDRESSING DAY 3

San Francisco Crossdressing Day 3

We started day three with lunch at the Cheesescake Factory inside Macy’s on Union square with the rest of Northern California. They are very crossdresser friendly and  food is good, quantities are large, and everybody knows it hence the crowd.

After lunch we split up to do some strategic shopping but other than some MAC foundation we struck out. That  means we either have everything or they just did not have the merchandise appealing to us. Most likely it is between seasons so they are letting the inventory shrink.

CROSSDRESSER FRIENDLY

Ashley did go to Lens Crafter’s on Market st. a very crossdresser friendly store and got some new lenses for her super lady like glasses. The place is great and they treat you with respect and dignity not to mention they know how to pick great glasses for crossdressers.

We headed down to Nordstroms again crossdresser friendly but, did not have any luck there either, not even shoes! Oh well, more money for dinner!

At 4ish we headed back to our hotel for a glass of wine before going upstairs to create the magic.

Dinner was at 7:30Pm so we met at the downstairs bar for my nightly warm up Cosmo.

FARALLON

crossdresser friendly

Far and away one of my favorite places to eat in San Francisco for dinner. Farallon has a menu of primarily seafood that changes both seasonally and nightly.

Again they are crossdresser friendly and know us here. The general manager greeted us warmly when we arrived before taking us to an amazing table.

crossdresser friendly

The East Coast scallop’s were huge and cooked to perfection and we both ordered them.

Farallon Scallops
Charcoal Grilled Bone Dry Scallops, Massachusetts B r e n t w o o d C o r n R i s o t t o corn bone broth, blackberries & mint.

 Farallon Choclate

CHOCOLATE CREAM TART lavender cream & blackberries

SAN FRANCISCO CROSSDRESSING

Yours truly overdressed  sitting at the bar after our amazing dinner.

I am already planning the next trip.

Enjoy,

Micki Finn

SAN FRANCISCO CROSSDRESSING DAY 2

San Francisco Day 2

Day 2 of my crossdressing San Francisco trip started slow because I had some work to do so I worked in my room until noon then, got some lunch down the street. We only planned on shopping in Union Square  area  so we could do that in one day Saturday. Ashley was getting in around 2 then would be getting ready until around six.

We met in the European Bar downstairs for cocktails (Read Cosmo) at 6:00PM. Tonight we were having dinner at Boulevard restaurant in east San Francisco at 7:30PM so we had plenty of time to relax before calling UBER.

Boulevard

Boulevard has become a favorite for both Ashley and myself along with everyone we have taken there. The hostess greeted us warmly and took us to our table in a great location.

Crossdressing in San Francisco

Dinner

San Francisco CrossdressingAshley ordered the  Angus Filet
Wood Oven Roasted
Uptown Succotash with Fava & Romano Beans
Vidalia Onion & Truffle Vinaigrette
White Sweet Corn & Summer Truffle Hushpuppy
Roasted Beef Jus with Summer Savory 

 

 

Crossdresser Micki FinnI chose the Berkshire Pork Prime Rib Chop
Wood Oven Roasted
Caraway Spaetzle, Sauerkraut, Bacon & Gruyere
Blueberry Apple Butter with Smoked Cinnamon
Tokyo Turnip & Wood Oven Spring Onion
Roasted Pork Jus with Apple Balsamic

Both entre’s were outstanding which is part of why we love the place. The other is the decor of the more than a century old building.

San Francisco Crossdressing

I would be remiss if I failed to note that the service at Boulevard is excellent and we are always treated as elegant ladies with never a missed pronoun. We have several staff that we make a point to speak with regardless of who is serving us that night.

Micki Finn
OVERDRESSED AS ALWAYS

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Needless to say we look forward to our next evening at Boulevard which is already in the planning stages for San Francisco this fall.

Enjoy,

Micki Finn