We have all done it, everyone pretty much starts out that way unless someone dresses you as a joke or experiment. Most of us indulged in our fascination with women’s clothes all by ourselves. Many men will always be crossdressing alone away from prying eyes and the possible negative repercussions of others.
21ST CENTURY CROSSDRESSING
Thankfully there is much more acceptance of crossdressing today and there isn’t the stigma that existed in years past. I go out today to all kinds of mainstream businesses and entertainment venues without getting much more than a glance. It wasn’t always that way though.
I grew up crossdressing alone and just had an article published in SisterHouse based on my early crossdressing experiences. Actually lack of experiences would be more accurate combined with lack of knowledge of crossdressing. You can follow this link the the article GROWING UP ALONE. Tasi says it is somewhat sad in the beginning which is true but don’t feel sorry for me I have moved far beyond that time.
I am firmly invested in 21st century crossdressing and only look back only to share with others especially the younger ones what it could have been like for them.
Forget about using the ladies room you were more worried about being the scourge of the community and shunned by virtually everyone. Mothers would not want their children playing with you and you would never get invited to a birthday party. If discovered you would be immediately mistrusted and you’re motives questioned. It was against the law to impersonate a female in public and you could be arrested. I guess they assumed you were trying to trick some unsuspecting lad into being attracted to you.
Follow the link to SisterHouse for more growing up in mid 20th century California and crossdressing alone.
Crossdresser wives sometimes accompany their husbands out in public in fact some are quite comfortable doing it. Last weekend a group of CHIC members all rendezvoused in San Francisco for weekend of fun crossdressing. There were 5 crossdressers and 3 wives joining their crossdressed husbands.
The Redwood Room
Tonya (seated) and I are posing with the big chair in the Redwood Room near Union Square. Both our wives were with us but were camera shy but not us. We had just come out of the Redwood Room at the Clift Hotel after enjoying a nightcap. It was our first night in town and we enjoyed a leisurely dinner at Jardinière with other crossdressers wives and their husbands.
We were there a total of 3 days and dined at The Big 4 on Friday night and Farallon on Saturday night. All of us Crossdressers and crossdresser wives went to see Beach Blanket Babylon after dinner.
The days were spent shopping for most of the ladies at Macy’s, Nordstrom, Sephora and other lady destinations. All of the stores are Trans friendly and go out of their way to give you the help you need. This is especially true trying on clothes in the changing rooms where sales clerks will find an empty room for you. They will also check on you to see if you need a different size so you don’t have to keep getting dressed in between trying clothes.
I do not dress during the days when my crossdresser wife joins me for outings. It is part of the compromise we worked out decades ago because she is more comfortable under cover of night. However I do shop dressed during the day on outings that my crossdresser wife does not attend which, is the majority of the time.
Traveling T Gurl
I go to San Francisco several times each year in addition to Las Vegas, Seattle, Portland and other cities without her so I get plenty of shopping in throughout the year.
Passable vs. Acceptable is the question that prompted me to update my CROSSDRESSER PASSING IN PUBLIC page. Summer is almost behind us and my thoughts have drifted toward getting dressed again after a summer of doing guy stuff.
Micki is planning a new road trip and in that process security is always an important factor. Because passing is something I am not able to do. I don’t attempt to pass as a woman when I am dressed en fem. Micki made a decision many years ago that it is not practical for me to pull it off.
PASSABLE VS. ACCEPTABLE
That is not to say that I don’t put a maximum effort to look as glamorous and feminine as I can. I just chose not to attempt to deceive people into thinking I was a real woman.
The real me is far more interesting and fun than the hybrid I would be creating. Given the choice of being passable vs. acceptable as a crossdresser I choose acceptable crossdresser.
Most importantly there is no guarantee that I will be accepted when out and about which is why I take precautions to minimize my risk of danger.
We started day three with lunch at the Cheesescake Factory inside Macy’s on Union square with the rest of Northern California. They are very crossdresser friendly and food is good, quantities are large, and everybody knows it hence the crowd.
After lunch we split up to do some strategic shopping but other than some MAC foundation we struck out. That means we either have everything or they just did not have the merchandise appealing to us. Most likely it is between seasons so they are letting the inventory shrink.
Ashley did go to Lens Crafter’s on Market st. a very crossdresser friendly store and got some new lenses for her super lady like glasses. The place is great and they treat you with respect and dignity not to mention they know how to pick great glasses for crossdressers.
We headed down to Nordstroms again crossdresser friendly but, did not have any luck there either, not even shoes! Oh well, more money for dinner!
At 4ish we headed back to our hotel for a glass of wine before going upstairs to create the magic.
Dinner was at 7:30Pm so we met at the downstairs bar for my nightly warm up Cosmo.
Far and away one of my favorite places to eat in San Francisco for dinner. Farallon has a menu of primarily seafood that changes both seasonally and nightly.
Again they are crossdresser friendly and know us here. The general manager greeted us warmly when we arrived before taking us to an amazing table.
The East Coast scallop’s were huge and cooked to perfection and we both ordered them.
CHOCOLATE CREAM TART lavender cream & blackberries
Yours truly overdressed sitting at the bar after our amazing dinner.
Day 2 of my crossdressing San Francisco trip started slow because I had some work to do so I worked in my room until noon then, got some lunch down the street. We only planned on shopping in Union Square area so we could do that in one day Saturday. Ashley was getting in around 2 then would be getting ready until around six.
We met in the European Bar downstairs for cocktails (Read Cosmo) at 6:00PM. Tonight we were having dinner at Boulevard restaurant in east San Francisco at 7:30PM so we had plenty of time to relax before calling UBER.
Boulevard has become a favorite for both Ashley and myself along with everyone we have taken there. The hostess greeted us warmly and took us to our table in a great location.
Ashley ordered the Angus Filet Wood Oven Roasted Uptown Succotash with Fava & Romano Beans Vidalia Onion & Truffle Vinaigrette White Sweet Corn & Summer Truffle Hushpuppy Roasted Beef Jus with Summer Savory
I chose theBerkshire Pork Prime Rib Chop Wood Oven Roasted Caraway Spaetzle, Sauerkraut, Bacon & Gruyere Blueberry Apple Butter with Smoked Cinnamon Tokyo Turnip & Wood Oven Spring Onion Roasted Pork Jus with Apple Balsamic
Both entre’s were outstanding which is part of why we love the place. The other is the decor of the more than a century old building.
I would be remiss if I failed to note that the service at Boulevard is excellent and we are always treated as elegant ladies with never a missed pronoun. We have several staff that we make a point to speak with regardless of who is serving us that night.
Needless to say we look forward to our next evening at Boulevard which is already in the planning stages for San Francisco this fall.
San Francisco is one of my favorite crossdressing destinations and I was able to squeeze a trip in this month. Summer always creates problems with my dressing schedule so this was a last minute deal. My BFF Ashley flew up to meet me for the weekend but I was on my own for Thursday night.
Thursday afternoon my early fight got me to the hotel around 2:00PM. My luggage shipped ahead so it was waiting. After a quick lunch it was back to my room to start the magic. Plenty of of time for my 7:30 dinner reservation at Jardiniere in downtown San Francisco.
I finished the process early enough to visit the European Bar overdressed as usual downstairs to get them warmed up for my Cosmo.
Just after 7:00PM I broke out my phone and ordered my UBER Coach to Jardiniere for dinner.
I have been going to Jardiniere crossdressed for a long time alone and with others and it is one of my favorites.
They know me there so it is no problem dining alone in my cozy booth upstairs. I started with the Warm Bread Salad then followed with the chicken padron, meyer lemon, eggplant, black garlic.
Jardiniere caters mostly to the San Francisco theater crowd so by 7:30 they are off to the performance and the restaurant is not so busy. The slower pace gives me time to interact with the servers and have an unhurried meal.
I skipped desert preferring to head back to my hotel for my night, night Cosmo. The alarm went off at 5:00AM that morning so I wanted to make it an early night getting some rest for the shopping extravaganza Friday.
Day’s two and three will follow this post with more San Francisco fun dining and shopping adventures.
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Overdressed is a term heard often when people contemplate going somewhere and have concerns about how others will be dressed. Crossdresser’s are no exception and you here it all the time especially when people are going to Trans or Crossdresser events.
Activities like shopping and where you will be going typically dictates what you will be wearing. Shopping at the mall in Las Vegas in hot temperatures sees thongs, shorts, tank tops or short sleeve blouses. Unfortunately some “T” people wear the same thing to dinner like so many non “T” people do.
I very seldom go out shopping when I travel largely because most of my shopping is done on the internet. I also hate daylight preferring night time lighting which is much softer. Besides I can buy anything I want in DUKE mode and nobody cares.
Therefore I live for the night and overdress to my hearts content. I looked like a parade float when I went to Diva Las Vegas this year but did not care. I have been dressing up not down since I was a little boy and have no plans to stop now. Being dressed to the hilt is what I enjoy so that’s the way its gonna be. I accept the label of Glamour Pussproudly!
Last weekend I went out in Long Beach Friday, Saturday, Monday and Tuesday nights and overdressed every single night.
Friday night I met friends at a very hip mainstream restaurant in downtown Long Beach.
Saturday night was our CHIC club meeting night so I joined 14 other members at a different main stream favorite.
Monday & Tuesday nights I went solo at favorite pubs on Naples Island near Long Beach.
I did not fool anyone not passable and do not care nor did anyone else. My Uber driver greeted me opened the car door and took my hand when I exited the car. Present like a lady, act like a lady, and be treated as a lady.
Crossdressing has been around since the beginning of time and most everything that you read about the experience comes from someone born after 1950. I’m Dressed you’re not is a look back at the adventures and friendships formed over 6 decades of being out and about. It is based on the experiences of John whom I have always known by her fem name Lane. Lane recently turned 92 years young and is still buzzing along.
I first met Lane at a CHIC meeting almost 20 years ago and immediately assumed she was the real deal. I figured she was married to one of the crossdresser’s attending the meeting. It was not until someone introduced me that I found out the she was one of us. In addition she was one of the founding members of CHIC (Crossdresser’s Heterosexual Intersocial Club) and it’s first president.
The book jumps around somewhat but, the most important point is the long term (Non Sexual) crossdressing special relationships. It describes friendships between the people in the book. It is not written like a who done it mystery novel but, rather a collection of stories about what is was like dressing as a woman in the 1940’s, 50’s 60,70’s’ 80’s and through the 1990’s.
Most books on this subject written today are from Baby Boomers and start in the 1960’s at the earliest. Lane gives a 92 year olds perspective on what it was like to go out in public fully dressed as a women in the pre 1980’s era. Crossdresser’s in those days you could be locked up in jail for impersonating a female. Crossdresser’s just going to a club dressed as a woman was all you had to do to be arrested and prosecuted. Being caught dressed resulted in many divorces, lost jobs and ruined lives.
Younger readers might want to ponder that for a while!
The world assumed that you were trying to fool an unsuspecting men into sex otherwise why would you dress like a woman? Thankfully the world has changed today and things are far better for those who cross dress.
Cross Dresser dressing in the heat of summer is always a challenge. Summer is just around the corner and I discovered something pretty much everyone can benefit from. Ladies from the warmer states will appreciate this neat little invention when out in the hot weather. The light weight liner fits inside your wig and a peel off sticky strip holds it in place against your forehead. Call it a cross dresser head gasket! (I could not resist) They inventor says it pulls the perspiration away from your body and absorbs it. With thin construction you don’t even know it is there.
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You can also wear it in your golf cap when living in macho mode to keep the sweat out of your eyes. Helmets, hard hats, pretty much anything that you wear on your head when it is hot out.
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Laverne Cummings passed away tragically this week in Las Vegas after being hit by a car. I did not know her but knew of her from the once every couple of years discovery of magazines with DRAG articles.
In the last century very little was published and what was you found in Men’s Magazines. I saw Laverne Cummings in several and she was an inspiration to my crossdressing.
Getting caught by adults looking at those magazines was bad news in those days. Gawking at Female Impersonators would result in a trip to the shrink or a priest to straighten you out.
By the time I got to Finocchio’s Laverne Cummings was nowhere to be found. It was the mid 1990’s I think and the club as going down hill.
There was certainly nothing of Laverne’s caliber performing that night.
By the time I was old enough to drink actually, before on a couple of occasions. I saw the shows at the famous Queen Mary in Studio City California. Located just over the hill from Hollywood they had some gorgeous ladies performing there but I don’t remember seeing anything like Laverne Cummings.
There were others that I discovered once in a great while in magazines and it was one similar to this where I first heard the term Transvestite.
So I finally knew i was not alone and had a label to boot!
I have to thank Laverne for her inspiring a little boys imagination so long ago that maybe someday I could look like her.
It never happened but I have had a great time trying and she gave me inspiration and a goal.
I will drink a Cosmo in her memory next time I am at DIVA in Las Vegas and another in San Francisco.