Category: Long Beach Crossdresser

CROSSDRESSING WITH FRIENDS

CROSSDRESSING WITH FRIENDS

Crossdressing with friends is something that I always look forward to. Especially because most all of them are members of my crossdressing club CHIC. Although the ages of members vary the common interests of crossdressing and wives bridge the age gap. Our August regular club meeting had a small turnout due to vacations and the same applied to the Friday night gathering. There were only three of us crossdressing with friends on Friday night, but it was really special. Natasha & Meridith joined me at one of our regular restaurants. What made it special was that although I have known them for many years we were always in a large group. With so many people participating in the conversation it limits what you really learn about people.

crossdressing with fiends

Friday nights crossdressing with friends Natasha and Meridith gave me an opportunity to learn more about them on a personal level. Knowing the restaurant owner pays off because they gave us a great table in the bar area and did not rush us. Besides comparing notes on our crossdressing evolution and other personal experiences growing up were shared. It always fascinates me when you reach the level of trust with crossdresser friends that you feel comfortable sharing your personal life. Sometimes I am very surprised at people’s backgrounds and experiences because I only knew them from crossdressing. That does not give you any indication of who they are the other 29 days of the month.

Crossdressing with friends who present very well in public does not give any clue about their life away from crossdressing. I won’t divulge Natasha’s details but others I have known had very interesting stories. Over the years I have been crossdrerssing with friends who were airline pilots, military officers, surgeons, lawyers, television actors, radio show hosts, policemen, firefighters, scientists, Engineers, construction workers, and teachers just to name a few. What’s remarkable is how similar each of our stories are regardless of where you lived as a child.

This personal interaction with crossdressing friends is what makes belonging to a club so rewarding for myself and the other members. Many of the friendships in CHIC have lasted decades.

   

ENJOY,

crossdressing with friends

CROSSDRESSER HEALTH CONCERNS

CROSSDRESSER HEALTH CONCERNS

crossdressers health concernsCrossdresser health concerns or, how does a crossdresser deal with needing medical care. The answer may be obvious depending on if you have insurance or not. Where I am going with this is, do you tell your doctor about your crossdressing? In my case I only did it once after securing her word she would not share anything we discussed. Sure, over the years I had health concerns but because I shaved my body, they had to wait until summer when things grew out. The older I got the more dangerous this approach became because crossdresser health concerns are no different than non-crossdresser concerns. The older you get the more doctors you meet so I needed to have a plan for possible lack of hair questions. 

I have wondered over the years just exactly how the HIPPA laws work with crossdressers health concerns. The Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act of 1996 (HIPPA) The short answer is you have a level of privacy protection provided by HIPPA. The law covers many areas, and I chose not to read the whole thing, but you can by following this link HIPPA. I took an easier route and asked one of my trusted crossdresser friends who is a doctor.

Below is my question.

If you tell your doctor that you are a crossdresser are they and staff bound to secrecy? I am fine but, in the past, I have delayed physicals and dermatologist exams until my hair grew out. I’m thinking that going forward that is going to be a bad idea cuz I ain’t got that much time left on the calendar of life. 

She told me they cannot divulge your medical information including shaved legs since you crossdress. Doctors in general are professional and will not judge. If you are that worried, you can ask them not to put it in your chart.

So, the crossdresser health concern plan now is to shave year-round. Should the question come up, I will answer that it’s not important! If I’m uncomfortable I will ask them not to put it in my chart.

It’s possible that I am paranoid about all this but if it helps just one person it’s worth writing.

CROSSDRESSER RENDEZVOUS

CROSSDRESSER RENDEZVOUS

Crossdresser rendezvous are still very common with gurlz in various places getting together in both large and small groups. It seems over the years that its more the latter as people’s lives drift apart. Crossdresser clubs sadly are on the decline making it a bit more challenging to meet new friends. This month’s adventure had only 3 of us Friday night and from 3 different states all rendezvousing in Long Beach. Things are much safer now so you can go out in smaller groups without being harassed but you still need to be aware. 

crossdresser rendezvous

A crossdresser rendezvous with a small group works better if you have familiar surroundings. We picked our regular hangouts for both nights on this trip. The neighborhood is a mix of commercial and residential and one of the streets is one way and police cars pass by often.

Another nice thing about doing a crossdresser Rendezvous for out-of-town gurlz is that the local gurl or gurlz act as the host in most cases. They pick a safe comfortable place for the meeting so everyone can relax.

Our crossdresser club CHIC will be celebrating our 50TH anniversary in 2025 and many members have moved out of state over the years. They continue their membership but don’t attend more than a few meetings each year. Others travel for business or have the means to travel to meetings more regularly, so crossdresser rendezvous are more frequent.

There are larger crossdresser rendezvous typically held at conventions like DIVA LAS VEGAS held in October in Las Vegas. It’s a great place to establish contacts with others who crossdress but there are all kinds of other folks attending too. Many attendees have been coming for over 10 years and look forward to seeing old friends.

Unfortunately, there are only a few large crossdresser gatherings each year today. In the early to mid 90’s there were several to choose from each month. San Francisco, Los Angeles, Denver, Dallas, Atlanta, Boston, Harrisburg, Las Vegas and New York just to mention a few. Now I think it’s just Boston, Harrisburg and Las Vegas remaining.

DIVA I believe is the largest of the conventions still going and is a less structured event held in October just before Halloween this year. To meet others, you need to sign up for as many events as possible because they are scattered around town. Some might be happening at the same time so choose carefully.

The event is reasonably priced and it’s a good way to venture out for beginners. Especially with their BIG SISTER program designed for beginner’s or just timid folks.

Enjoy,

 

crossdresser fingernails

CROSSDRESSER GOODBYE

CROSSDRESSER GOODBYE

Crossdresser goodbye is something that occurs every day around the world and has been with us forever. I am not trying to be dramatic with this introduction, it’s just that I don’t know any other way to put it. I use the term crossdresser goodbye to address something I have both experienced and observed for many years. When a crossdresser passes away in most cases they just vanish never being heard from again. In my observation their friends are not invited to the funeral. In many cases even made aware of the crossdresser’s passing. I have seen e-mails from people searching for information on a crossdresser who stopped responding to e-mails. They are concerned and reaching out to anyone who might have some information on their friend. Most never know what happened, no crossdresser goodbye just wondering. Being a member of a group or social club where people know each other’s private lives. Especially, if they socialize away from crossdressing makes information more available. I think in the majority of cases the crossdresser simply vanishes, so friends and acquaintances eventually assume they have passed. They deserve better but that’s just the way it is there is no crossdresser goodbye.

Last month I learned of my friend Espy Lopez passed away after a long illness. She was a friend for over 30 years, and I was fortunate to be in the loop of friends who were notified. Espy and I did not have matching tattoos or anything but shared growing up just 6 months apart in Southern California in the 1960’s heyday. In addition to the closeness in age we were both crossdresser’s which created somewhat of a bond. In those days there was no pride, stonewall or anything like today. A guy sharing with another guy that you were a crossdresser created a mutual vulnerability. Both of us were employed in the aerospace industry and would probably lose our jobs if word got out. We met in the early 1990’s when she was assigned to interview me for membership in CHIC where she was a member. We remained friends ever since although seeing less of each other in recent years. It was during that interview when I learned of Espy’s military background of which she was justifiably proud.

crossdresser goodbye

During the interview she shared her service as a U.S. Army Ranger in Vietnam, and I believe she said two tours of duty. I remember seeing a picture of her in uniform on a table in her home. Her uniform was covered with emblems and ribbons I am not familiar with. It was clear that she was an accomplished soldier.

Another of her accomplishments was her company Classic Curves international that has been around for over 30 years. She started with hip/ butt pads to give guys curves. Back then crossdressers were using an electric carving knife borrowed from mom or the wife. They carved up a foam furniture seat pad to make hip pads. When I asked her how she figured it out she explained how she used a computer at work to overlay a male image over a female image. It showed where a guy needed padding and how much. She noted that a woman’s shoulders and hips were close in size. She measured your shoulders which is how she knew what to make for you. At first, she had you come to her shop with your favorite dress so she could custom shape the foam pads to you. Putting on protective gloves taped to her arms along with an industrial breathing filter the process began. She turned on the industrial sanding machine and began to contour the foam pad to your shape with fit checks from time to time. You left with an amazing figure. Ever the inventor she kept thinking of ways to improve the product and gel pads came a year or so later. By now she had progressed to using molds to cast the pads in several sizes which fit most guys just fine. I have one of the first sets of gel molded pads that she made in her shop with another invention she conceived to heat the silicone. It looked like one of the old Igloo coolers common on construction sites which was a galvanized steel barrel. Espy modified it to cook silicone and poured me a set of pads on the spot which, I still have and use today.

If you go to her site Classic Curves International, you will see how her company evolved with more clever products over the years. Espy through her company, products, and outreach to others via phone or at one of the many conventions she did make a wonderful contribution to the Trans community.

She will be remembered fondly by myself and others every time we pad up to go out En Fem for an evening out. Espy was a pioneer in the crossdresser padding industry with her veteran owned American made products.

And so goes my crossdresser goodbye to Espy.

Thanks to all of you who responded with your crossdresser goodbye thoughts for Espy.

CROSSDRESSER NAILS

CROSSDRESSER NAILS

Crossdresser nails are a must have to achieve that fabulous female presentation. They add that extra unmistakable feminine touch which completes your elegant look.  For many years I used a process where I glued my nails on with DAP Contact cement featured on my CROSSDRESSER FAKE FINGERNAILS PAGE. It worked well for the most part but there were some drawbacks. Recently I read an article on crossdresser nails written by one of my CHIC Sorority sisters Erica. She shared a process she uses to attach her nails using press on gel tabs that stay on for days. I was intrigued because years ago I used Sally Hansen press on tabs that lasted minutes, so I dumped them.

This old dog might be able to learn a new trick and be well served to give her process a shot. I ordered some and took them with me to Las Vegas last week. I wanted to try them out but brought my contact cement with me just in case.

crossdresser nails

CROSSDRESSER NAIL TEST

I put them on Monday night and was really impressed with the holding power of the gel tabs. Not one problem with lifting or loosening throughout the evening. I decided to leave them on all night because we were going shopping the next day and see how many got through the night. In the morning they were all there just as tight as the night before.

So far so good but putting on my shape wear, butt pads, and breast forms would be a real test. No problems at all although putting on make required some adjustments to my routine. I was actually ready ahead of schedule getting ready then went to lunch and shopping. Back at the hotel I changed clothes to go out that evening and my crosssdresser nails were intact. I even was complimented by a gentleman at the bar over my lovely nails.

Crossdresser Fingernails

I’m hooked Erica’s process for crossdresser nails and tossed my contact cement after ordering more tabs. I have also updated my CROSSDRESSER FAKE FINGERNAILS page to show my new technique.

Thank you, Erica!

crossdresser fingernails

 

CROSSDRESSER FRIENDS

CROSSDRESSER FRIENDS

Crossdresser friends are rare but a treasured part of my crossdressing over the years. I have made some special friends that have helped me with my presentation along with my confidence. That has been very rewarding experience and I have benefited greatly from it. I feel an obligation to give something back by passing along some things I have learned or discovered to improve my look. The picture below was taken outside one of my favorite restaurants in the Naples section of Long Beach. I have had the jacket for a year or so but did not wear it out until after I had it tailored. It really makes a big difference when it fits better which, I obsess about. Inexpensive clothes can look much better when tailored to compliment your female shape.

crossdrersser presentation

This last weekend was very enjoyable as I got to see a long-time crossdresser friends Susie. I have not seen for a couple of years because she moved from the area out of state so it’s a trek now to dress in Long Beach.

Susie pictured below opted for a more casual look with denim pants and a casual biker style jacket.

crossdresser friends

Also joining us was crossdresser friends Sherri who was visiting for the weekend and came to the CHIC meeting as my guest. She has very limited experience going out in public, so we planned a fun weekend for her. Friday night she joined Susie and me with two other CHIC member crossdresser friends for a private room dinner at a favorite spot. After her initial exposure Friday night, it was off to Spaghettini Saturday night. It’s a very popular mainstream restaurant in Orange County. It was a very crowded and Sherri did great strolling confidently into the bar while we waited for our room to be ready. There were sixteen of us crossdresser friends, so we had to have a private room called the Board Room.

Crossdresser presentation varies depending on the event you are going to or the restaurant you are dining at. The pictures of me both above and below are very dressy compared many of my other crossdressing friends dining that night. Both the crossdressers in our group as well as many genetic women patrons were also dressed nicely. That sai

d the majority were dressed more like Susie pictured above.

I always over dress because blending in is not my goal and I dress to please myself not others. If I like the way I look it makes me feel good and is worth the effort. The jacket I am wearing was a great find and fit like it was tailored right off the rack. Lucky Me!

Pictured behind me on the right is the private dining room that we had at Spaghettini Saturday night.

 

Enjoy,

 

CROSSDRESSER GROUP OUTINGS

CROSSDRESSER GROUP OUTINGS

Crossdresser group outings are always fun not only because you are with your sorority sisters but because sometimes your group is well received by the other restaurant patrons. Saturday night the ladies of CHIC went to a place I have been before but left after dinner not going into the bar afterward. This meeting the bar was almost empty after dinner, so we decided to have some drinks. This night’s restaurant I am very familiar with having been both there and their other location. In the past I would not have recommended going there because their clientele I thought would not be open to us gurlz. That has all changed and they actually look forward to us coming with our group of 18 to 20 ladies. Truth be told I think we are sort of free entertainment, but everyone treats us very well. We always enjoy our outings there. Sports are huge at this place and there are memorabilia from both college and professional sports as you see in the picture below. Makes me feel like such a jock standing there.

Crossdresser group outings

Crossdresser group outings are great but the duos are many times more enjoyable than the big group. I think it’s because you are more approachable when there are only two of you. The bigger group is sometimes intimidating for the public. Friday night before the club meeting there were just two of us. My BFF Ashley and I and she took this picture in the hotel lobby before dinner. We went to the same restaurant that we had the CHIC Club Christmas Party in December. We had a great relaxing dinner not rushed in any way by our server. He understood that we don’t see each other that often.

Crossdresser group outings

As always, I’m looking forward to our next sorority meeting in a few weeks.

ENJOY,

 

CROSSDRESSER PERCEPTIONS

CROSSDRESSER PERCEPTIONS

Crossdresser perceptions go both ways which is to say how we perceive those we interact with along with how they in turn perceive us. The Friday before our monthly CHIC meeting I went to dinner with my BFF Ashley at a restaurant in Orange County California. Historically we have avoided it for many years because Orange County was a pretty conservative area and we felt uncomfortable going there. We did not really know what the crossdresser perceptions would be with the mainstream clientele conservative or not. We went once before in November, and it went well so we did it again this month.

Photo of Spaghettini - Seal Beach, CA, United States. Welcome to Spaghettini!  We can't wait to serve you.

I arrived by myself via UBER very early and was cheerfully greeted by the hostesses using all the proper pronouns. That is notable in that I always use my male voice when dressed. The hostesses took it all in stride and continued calling me Mam. They offered to seat me early in the area that I had requested on my reservation, but I declined. I sat in the chair pictured lower right side above on a busy Friday night. I got to see the public’s crossdresser perceptions of me. Those who reacted were positive and those who didn’t seemed indifferent going about their business. It’s safe to say everybody notices me because I dress for myself so its way different from casual California lifestyle.

Crossdresser perceptions

Not many women wear a black velvet suit with an embroidered flower on the jacket and high heels on a Friday night. I think their crossdresser perceptions of me was positive regardless of if they approve. I got several compliments on my outfit from women I encountered. Our server was very attentive without being a bother and did not rush us to order or leave after dinner.

Saturday night was the CHIC meeting at one of our regular places in Long Beach and we had a private room, so crossdresser perceptions weren’t possible. I have been there so many times I don’t even think about it because its predictable. The crowd is getting younger as time goes on and they are typically more accepting of crossdressers. Should they have any questions the restaurant owner and his staff know all of us very well and can fill them in on our story. I requested outside dinning because some in our group are very concerned with the Omicron. They moved us inside to a private room. The high for the day was 61 and the low expected in mid 40’s which in Long Beach. That can be very cold being just blocks from the ocean.

Crossdresser perceptions

The picture above was taken in the lounge section of the room we were in Saturday night. My wife has been encouraging me to stop wearing so much black, so I wore brown tones this month.

Crossdressing in public has come a long way over the years and the perception of us has changed to a far more positive one. The other ladies and I of CHIC always try to present the best possible image when out in public for positive crossdresser perceptions.

 

Have fun!

 

 

 

CROSSDRESSER SOCIAL CLUB

CROSSDRESSER SOCIAL CLUB

Crossdresser social clubs were once fairly prevalent but have declined consistently year over year since the heyday of the 1990’s. That said there still seems to be considerable interest in them based on my website clicks. CROSSDRESSER CLUBS ranks # 6 in popularity over the other pages and posts. I am very curious as to why clubs have vanished if there is so much interest in them.

CROSSDRESSER SOCIAL CLUB

Last Saturday was my crossdresser social club CHIC’s monthly meeting and we had 16 of us attending. That number includes 5 wives who are always part of the fun. We had the whole upstairs floor of the restaurant for the group which was great because there are no time limits on us.

In the picture below I am wearing a navy jacket with a multi white / navy skirt outfit. The jewelry I am wearing was featured in a previous post and was made from two necklaces from Macy’s.

CROSSDRESSER SOCIAL CLUBS

crossdresser jewelry

Crossdresser socializing is what CHIC is all about and some of our outings lend themselves to it better than others. This weekend being upstairs with 6 booths to choose from allowed some to table jump during the evening. That allows for sitting in small intimate groups and socializing until the dinner gets served. Because we have no time constraints it allows for more socializing afterward also. This month we had a new applicant so the upstairs table hoping allowed all of the members and wives an opportunity to meet the prospect. The small group allows others at the table to hear the answers to other questions and formulate their own accordingly.

When dinner concludes we usually have a contingent of members go down to the bar below and mix with the civilians. It’s something I look forward to because we are well accepted, and I have had some very nice conversations there. Crossdresser socializing is not restricted to just other crossdressers. I had to pass this month though because I was not feeling up to it but look forward to next time we go there.

 

Happy Thanksgiving!

 

 

 

 

CROSSDRESSING AT DIVA21

CROSSDRESSING AT DIVA21

Crossdressing DIVA21 is behind us now and I think the organizers of DIVA Las Vegas did a great job pulling it off after last years was cancelled. I’m not sure about the headcount but there seemed to be quite a few crossdressers there. Even though there were two events going on at the same time DIVA Las Vegas and Wildside there was no conflicts. I think the highlight of both events was the costume party Saturday night where both groups attended together. I attended as a military officer which looked like a general but had Sargent stripes so I’m quite sure.

 

CROSSDRESSING DIVA21 COSTUME PARTY

 

crossdressers at DIVA21

 

Crossdressing DIVA21 was different this year because it was changed from Spring to Fall and landed right on the Halloween weekend. I think the most fun I had was sitting at the back bar with the civilians dressed like a general. I got lots of compliments on my costume, but nobody saluted me.

 

CROSSDRESSING DIVA21 1ST NIGHT

 

My 1st night crossdressing DIVA21 was Thursday and after shopping in the afternoon I came back to the hotel and changed for dinner. Cleaver & Butchered was the restaurant and they had about 20 of us there. They gave us our own room in the back and the food and service were very good. The only downside was they would only do two checks for 20 people so the girl sitting to my left had to try and decipher who had what and collect the cash for the ten people on our side of the table. The good news was the count came out on the money, so we tipped a bit extra.

I’m still working on my photography skills and made the mistake of having the bar manager take this shot of me wearing a favorite suit. I had to tweak the colors and lighting because the background was too dark to show the suit. The lights in the cabinet behind me confused the camera, I think. The suit is still a favorite and will try again to take a picture with a better background.

 

CROSSDRESSING DIVA21 COSTUME PARTY

 

CROSSDRESSING DIVA21 2nd NIGHT

 

The second night of crossdressing DIVA 21 I had dinner with 7 of my CHIC sisters at Giada’s in the Cromwell Hotel. I’ve been there before with good and bad results but, this time they were great. Our waiter was very attentive, and the food was awesome with my friend Tonya getting the fresh made pasta. When I say fresh, I mean like in Italy where they don’t use the dry stuff but make from scratch every day, Tonya loved it.

 

crossdressers at DIVA21

 

 

That night for crossdressing DIVA21 I wore my new snakeskin jacket from Venus over a black sleeveless sweater dress. It was a good choice as a got a lot of compliments on it. Surprisingly it was not uncomfortably hot which, I was concerned about in that the fabric does not breath. I guess having an open front gave it the needed ventilation.

I’m looking forward to the mask mandates ending possibly with the new therapeutics currently going through approvals. Wearing a mask indoors not only is uncomfortable but it really screws up your hair. I solved the makeup \ lipstick smearing issue with my MAC lipstick and my mask basket. Unfortunately, I have not gotten around the mask steaming up glasses and making you face sweaty.

I’ll keep working on that one.

Have fun!!