Mature crossdressing is the focus of my site, but any crossdresser will find valuable information inside. Mature crossdressing still makes up a sizable chunk of the crossdressing world out there but no longer the largest. That said we might just be the most active given our free time and, in many cases, financial freedom. Mature crossdressers are enjoying their new freedoms now that society has evolved to be more accepting of crossdressers in general.


Mickifinn.com is dedicated to helping other less experienced crossdressers become the beautiful lady they want to be avoiding the costly errors along the way. I want them to look their best, feel their best, and gain the confidence to go out in public enjoying the experience. I am not talking about being a passable crossdresser though. That is in the eye of the beholder of which I have no control. You can read more of my thoughts on passing in my PASSING CROSSDRESSER page.


There are 3 posts published regarding the crossdresser wife or crossdresser wives. Mature crossdressers that are heterosexual probably have or have had at least one crossdresser wife. If so, they appreciate that wonderful woman who helps along the way.


Because this whole site pretty much deals with crossdressing men many of whom are husbands I have not done any posts on mature crossdressing husbands. There is a dedicated page to CROSSDRESSING HUSBANDS.


I did not expect age to be an issue with crossdressers, but age does make a difference. Depending on when in life you started it has an influence on the mature crossdressers style of dress. This is not an absolute however especially for fetish crossdressers. The majority of MATURE CROSSDRESSERS I have encountered over the years dress pretty much their age-appropriate plus or minus a decade. There are exceptions for those who look younger because of FACE TAPING or plastic surgery.

There are two posts on mature crossdressing MATURE CROSSDRESSER’S


Other posts such on FACE TAPING or makeup also apply in that I wrote them based on my experiences and techniques as a mature crossdresser.


The term cross dresser is my preference because it simply implies that you have crossed over dressing in the other genders clothing. It does not preclude crossing back to your original gender. I am a heterosexual cross dresser comfortable in my body and have no desire to change my sex. Transvestite is a more clinical term and takes you down the psychology road, which is boring, so I won’t go there. The most popular term these days is sort of an umbrella term Transgender.  I am not fond of it because for the last twenty years I keep hearing different definitions. Trans or Transiting implies a destination which is typically associated with the desire to change sex.


Finding then joining a crossdresser group was a turning point in my journey as a heterosexual crossdresser.  Mature crossdressers are more likely to join social clubs for companionship and social interaction. For some reason the younger a crossdresser is the less likely they are to join a club. There are many advantages to joining a social club such as help with makeup, wigs, clothing, hip and breast padding etc. In addition, there is help with going out in public whether it is the first time at all or just to a mainstream dinner establishment.


You will find techniques of interest to cross dresser’s that I have learned from others in addition to discoveries made on my own. Mature crossdressers will discover some tricks to make you look younger. None of the techniques you will find on this site are to be construed as a recommendation in any way shape or form. It is what I do myself and it is up to you to decide if it works for you. Starting with CROSSDRESSING 101 FOR THE BEGINNER where you can find what you need to get going. It is intended to provide information on how to get started crossdressing but those already dressing might benefit from it also. From there you can explore more on the site depending on your level of experience.


Cross dressing is an art and a lot more than standing in front of a mirror in a dress. This page GETTING CROSSDRESSED, and the ones attached will give you information on cross dressing. From building a feminine silhouette complete with sexy curves to ideas on what to wear. It will take you in the direction of passing as a woman in public if that is your goal. Whether you pull that off will depend on many factors some in your control and some not. The PASSING CROSSDRESSER page will give you my thoughts on passing.


Cross dresser makeup advice is the most sought-after information I have experienced over the years. Makeup techniques for crossdressers differ from genetic women because the male face typically has masculine features.  Things like square jaws and beard shadow need to be disguised to make them appear more feminine. Contouring is a great way to hide male features by using darker foundation colors to create the illusion of shadows. They create an illusion with the shape and size of the face. In the makeup pages you will see a lot of information along with some links to professional artists that I have learned from.


There is more to looking like a woman than makeup though and there are pages that deal with the feminine form. They describe padding that give the cross dresser the curves needed to look feminine. In order to look your best, you need the proper female proportions. There are guidelines to discover what that is in the FEMININE SHAPE FOR CROSS DRESSERS section. Once you have determined your dress size you will know what padding to buy to accomplish it. This is a very important decision because it is probably the single most expensive investment for crossdressers. If you get the padding correct you will possibly be able to purchase women’s clothes off the rack. That will avoid having to have a seamstress alter your clothes. If you can find a good one, they are expensive adding to the cost of your clothes.

My Goal

My hope is that you find this information helpful and that you achieve great results that you are happy with. That way you can get cross dressed and confidently go out and have fun. It took me decades to figure out what was not shared with me about cross dressing. I can easily say I spent thousands of dollars invested in the wrong stuff. I wish I had someone who could have told me I look fat! O.K. maybe not fat but my shoulders give me away in that top. It is my gift to you in the hope that it helps you look more feminine. Please share the information or the website address with others to help them along their feminine journey.




  1. Hi Micki
    I love your site. the content is so relevant and as a mature (very) crossdresser or tranny as i prefer to be known, I have experience all of the items mentioned in your various write ups.
    I believe that therapists (rather than trying to work out what went wrong in our childhood) should refer young crossdressers to your site.
    Keep up the awesome work
    Love Candice (South Africa)

    1. Hi Candice,

      Thanks for your support its much appreciated.

      Just think of what the world would look like if people in the world just looked at a guy in a dress and just said nothing. No big deal or as was a popular phrase in the sixties “Different strokes for different folks.”

      Different isn’t bad it’s just different!

      Thanks for reading,


  2. Micki,

    I want to let you know that I really appreciate your experience and perspective that you share with all of us crossdressers! I’ve been a crossdresser for a while and your sharing gives me confidence that I am not alone. 

    It looks like you are planning to go to Diva Las Vegas 2021. Will you be there all week? I’m hoping to make it for a few days,

    Could you email me back so that we can re-establish contact?



    1. Hi Sally,

      I e-mailed to your new address but have not heard anything back from you. Can you give me a response so I know you got it?



  3. Omg I got so excited when I saw long beach lol then to find out it’s not the one near me but way on the west coast lol

  4. Does a cross dresser ever suggest to their wife what type of apparel to where to bed if they plan to do foreplay and her suggesting to him what to wear?

    1. Hello Gene,

      I have no way to answer your question as most couples don’t share intimate details of their love making.

      Thanks for your comment,


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