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CROSSDRESSER BODIES

CROSSDRESSER’S BODIES

Crossdresser bodies need a little work and some more than others, mine included! Shapeware is needed for many of us in addition to the hips and breast padding to achieve our feminine shape. I have tried most of them and will continue to but, have found one combination that really works great when used together. Honeylove products came to my attention a while back and was really impressed with their products and great service.

I purchased the high cut panty because like most crossdresser bodies I don’t need the thigh compression. It has a criss cross mid section to compact the tummy as seen on the black tank. The tank also has the compression front shown above in black and the beige tank. I only included the beige picture to show the length which is not clear on the black.

CROSSDRESSER BODY

The combination I use for my crossdresser body starts with my Nude SPANX Thinstinks Girl Shorts.

I purchased them in size 1X so the legs would not be tight but, pads are compressed against my hip. I need the compression because my 20 year old Classic Curves Gel pads are somewhat heavy compared to the foam ones. The shorts keep them firmly in place all day and night without slipping. I don’t feel the weight of the pads because of the constant light pressure against my body.

Once the pads are adjusted I put the tank on along with the PALS silicone breast pads from Super Gel Products. Not quite 20 years old but still kicking and you cant beat the price. I pull the bottom of the tank down all the way then put on the high cut panty. I tuck the tank into the panty which is critical because when tucked in and the panty straps are in place it won’t move. No riding up or down and it feels like a one piece garment and works no matter how long your torso is.

Because all of the garments are compression they eliminate or minimize bulges everywhere. This is the best combination I have found for my crossdresser body and is comfortable to wear. I wore it out in Long Beach in August & September evenings in the high 70’s with no discomfort. The panty and tank are partly made of mesh which undoubtedly helps dissipate the body heat.

You don’t need a bra especially if you order the tank a little tight to hold the breast forms in place. This combination leaves the seams pretty much invisible for a much better look under tight fitting or body con clothes.

My days of tight clothes are behind me but I have lost a little weight so some old stuff fits again along with the stuff that never did but I kept anyway.

crossdresser bodies

I wore a new long jacket over my midi python skirt for a taller thinner look. The jacket kind of hung on me and I spent most of the night pulling the skirt back up to my waist. The good news is that I have to go shopping in a big way. The bad news is I will have to part with some of my old stuff. I am not good at that part.

 

Enjoy!

 

MICKY FINN

CROSSDRESSING BALANCE

Crossdressing balance came into mind this week for several reasons so I thought I would write something on it. Everybody has to balance family time with work time along with other pursuits and crossdressing is no exception. Summer typically results in a crossdressing imbalance for some because warm weather and shorts preclude shaving legs for many. In addition there are lots of activities that crowd out gurly time. Personally I re balance my crossdressing mid September when I try to makeup for lost time dressing during summer. The hair comes off in two weeks and travel plans are being made so next is packing my outfits.

CROSSDRESSING BALANCE

There is more to crossdressing balance than hairy summers in shorts and the beach though. While crossdressing is important its not my only interest hence the need to balance it with the other activities. I just returned from another Duke & Rocco adventure that involved and out of state golfing trip with my BFF Ashley AKA Rocco. I use the name Duke. We traveled through four states playing 5 great golf courses in the process. We have known each other for 30 years after meeting at a Texas “T” Party at lunch with our wives. Since that time we have become great friends and belong to the same crossdressing club.

BALANCING THE CROSSDRESSING

Ashley gets out dressed more than I do because my crossdressing always involves traveling so cost and time are a factor. I achieve crossdressing balance by setting aside a long weekend each month that coincides with the monthly CHIC get together. I can dress 24/7 during that weekend but typically don’t preferring evening over daytime dressing. The exception is when we do a Las Vegas or San Francisco trip where gurly shopping moves up in priority. Its not that we don’t play golf we just alternate golf in the morning followed by dressing that night. The next day we shop en fem followed by dressing, dinner and many times a show. You can see the balance golf, gurly shopping, dinner & show.

crossdressing balance

 

COMPARMENTALIZING YOUR CROSSDRESSING

Crossdressing balance and compartmentalization also apply to myself and others I have known. In my case I compartmentalize my crossdressing with an all or nothing mind set. If I am going to crossdress it is all of nothing dressed completely head to toe. Its once a month and fully dressed or not at all. I know others who wear panties or other women’s garments under their male attire to work or other daily activities. They say its the feeling or sensation of the garment against their skin they enjoy. Me too but, its just going to make me want to dress so I avoid wearing them.

Wives and girlfriends also appreciate balance and compartmentalization because it gives them a better insight into what is going on and what to expect. It also lets them plan around or with your activity.

Micki Finn

CROSSDRESSING DIVA LAS VEGAS

Cross Dressing 101 is a page I created for those who are new to crossdressing to guide them along the journey of going out en fem. However it is written to include anyone interested in picking up some techniques they might not be aware of.  Cross Dressing 101 will get you ready but the decision to go out. It’s a decision only the cross dresser can make for themselves. Having said that sometimes a little push is needed to get them across the threshold which can be intimidating. Some years back there were conventions that you could attend in large hotels where you could dress in your room. Then you could venture downstairs to meet new friends. There was no Cross Dressing 101 back then so you just went downstairs no matter how bad you looked.

CROSSDRESSING 101 HELP

Thankfully there was always somebody that looked worse than you but the good news was there was a fix. In those days there were several hundred crossdressers all in the same hotel. That many captive prospects made it very profitable for vendors to set up shop. Once you made it downstairs to the vendor area you would start with Jim Bridges (Hollywood studio makeup artist) for makeover. Jim would strip off what makeup you had which was most likely all wrong for your skin type. He would educate you and apply the correct shades based on your age and skin tone. Jim had wigs but if not the right one he would borrow one from the wig ladies to complete your look. When you left Jim’s chair you were looking the best you ever could. Also  armed with instructions on how to do it yourself. I think in most cases you left with the new wig you were wearing (purchased) thanks to Jim. Jim also did seminars on makeup because it was impossible to remember everything he told you during the makeover. From there it was just steps to the jewelry folks to accessorize the outfit you needed to wear that night. Extra large shoes were available and some clothing along with some corset makers.

Cross dresser 101

Unfortunately there are only a handful of events going on now that are similar in some ways but much smaller. The only one that I have attended and would recommend to a cross dresser 101 girl is Diva Las Vegas. It is different from the old convention formats with no vendor area or seminars downstairs but help is available. Their version of cross dresser 101 is to have appointments available at the malls for makeovers and some independent services that cater to cross dressers. The MAC  CROSSDRESSER MAKEUP counter at the mall on the strip is very popular and the artists are great along with being extremely cross dresser friendly. Amy at Just You  is a full service male to female cross dresser store close by where you can get pretty much everything you need.

Diva Las Vegas this year has been re scheduled from the original March dates to October 27 thru Halloween the 31st. Being that Halloween is the official cross dresser holiday it should be fun. There are many wives who attend with their crossdresser husbands who make it a vacation. There is probably no better time for a wife who fears being outed when seen with her crossdresser husband. Halloween is a good to go out with him in costume as a princess or Alvira. Last year I went to the CHIC Halloween party as Captain Morgana (Captain Morgans Rum) and there are many online costume stores to chose from.

CROSS DRESSER 101 VEGAS

The main reason I recommend Diva for crossdresser 101 girls is because of Diva’s Big Sister program. It is intended to help those needing someone to assist them getting around Diva. I have talked with many CD’s that want to attend but don’t know other crossdressers so feel intimidated going out alone. We have all had times like that especially in the beginning if you can remember that far back! The key is to sign up for the event NOW and ask for a big sister when you do. It is first come first served and they go fast so if you want one its better to do it right away.

I think when Las Vegas opens up again there will be a rush like a tidal wave some rooms could be a problem.

Be Safe! Get Dressed Have Fun!

MICKI FINN

CROSSDRESSING HUSBAND

CROSSDRESSING IN PLACE

Crossdressed husband along with crossdressers in general are in a bummer situation right now. The shelter in place restrictions are putting a real crimp in our dressing adventures. For us mature crossdressers it takes us back to the beginning of our dressing career. A time when most of us were pretty much closeted only being able to go out in carefully orchestrated outings. You were doing pretty good to get out a couple of times per year if the planets all aligned.

Crossdresser’s wives have much to deal with in general but in light of the current shelter in place orders you can add a caged lion to her load. When her crossdressed husband cannot let the genie out of the bottle he is apt to be a little irritable. Many a crossdresser’s wife wisely ship him off to a hotel for the night to deal with the she devil in him. There are plenty of rooms available most places but not much fun when you can’t socialize with anyone.

 

Crossdresser husband

HEY WHERE IS EVERYBODY?

Things have kind of gone back a few decades with regard to the ability to go out with today’s restrictions. I don’t know which is worse, being a younger crossdresser and being confined to your house for the first time. Or being an older crossdresser who was in the closet for years then out and about freely then back in the closet again. My view is the latter is the worst situation and I know many agree especially those that were planning on going to Diva Las Vegas this year. The event was cancelled along with the Keystone Conference because of the virus shutdown. I had a first as the Palazzo Hotel cancelled my reservation for last week instead of me cancelling them. They closed the entire hotel and casino which has never happened in Las Vegas.

It’s not helping to have another couple of weeks to wait for the virus to go away. I am an optimist so I am planning my next adventure. I can tell you that this crossdresser husband is going to make it count so Las Vegas will be the likely destination. In the mean time I am making French Manicure fingernails to keep me busy and focused until I can launch again.

Hang in there ladies it will be behind us soon.

Best wished to all and be safe!

 

Micki

CROSSDRESSER NEWS

CROSSDRESSER TRAVELS

It’s been a little while since I posted anything because I have been having too good a time traveling and dressing. Sometimes both at the same time which is always fun and sometimes exciting like my last CHIC dinner in Long Beach. I got ready early because I wanted to take some pictures before going out which deviated from my normal routine. So after getting absorbed with photo fun I realized I had to get going or I would be late for dinner which I was in charge of coordinating. I shut everything down and after summoning UBER I walked out of my room. As my door closed behind me I instantly knew the room key was on the night stand, not in my purse. It’s been years since I have had this happen which I attribute to my routine but I deviated. I opted to continue on to the dinner and deal with the key issue later when there would not be so many people around the Marriott front lobby desk.

The dinner was fun and we stayed a little longer than usual with some of us going to the bar for more drinks. I bid my friends farewell not long after because I had a golf game the next day and needed to be sharp. UBER showed up on time so I was off to me (mam/sir) moment with the night manager. When I walked up to the desk a young fellow greeted me with a hello mam can I help you. I replied in Dukes voice that I left my key in the room and needed another to which he replied with a request for my name and ID. After providing both he looked at my ID handed me a duplicate key and said “good evening sir” I knew it was coming and replied thanks you too.

WEBSITE UPDATES

After having some conversations with the new President of CHIC it was decided that their site needed some updating. I agreed to do it and ended up changing the whole direction of the site with a new format without the blog. I think it is better now with a cleaner look and the addition of the club logo along with the member testimonials. You can check it out at the CHIC website . I had so much fun that I did my website as you can see with a different look and for the first time an official logo.

Enjoy,

Micki Finn

 

CROSSDRESSING FOR CHRISTMAS

CHIC CHRISTMAS PARTY

Crossdressing for Christmas this year was the culmination of the years planning for all the members of CHIC.  I was very pleased to see so many of the members and crossdresser wives wearing gowns this year. The picture below was my contribution for this year and I absolutely loved it.

 

Crossdressing for Christmas

CROSSDRESSED FOR CRHISTMAS

When I saw this dress at Macy’s in November I scrapped my plan to wear the blue cocktail dress I bought earlier in the year. I thought the sequins on one side and not the other looked glamorous. The rhinestone shoe ornaments on my black suede pumps topped off the whole look for me that night.

 

Crossdressing for Christmas

CHIC CHRISTMAS PARTY

This event has pretty much 100 percent attendance for CHIC members and wives. Our party is in the wine cellar private dinning room below the main restaurant. It starts with a hosted champagne cocktail hour with servers passing  a variety of hors d’oeuvres as everyone mingles.

 

PRIVATE DINING

Dinner is a sit down affair with wine donated by a member and started with a pasta ravioli appetizer. Salad followed then the main course with a choice of veal scaloppine piccata, Salmon steak with shaved apple and fennel  or, vegetable risotto followed by an assortment of pastries for each table.

CROSSDRESSED AT CHRISTMAS

After dinner the cameras come out and its picture time for those wanting pictures of them crossdressed at Christmas time. Not everyone wishes to participate so we do it in a special corner of the room away from the rest.

I did not have permission to publish Lady “L”s picture so I covered her face.  It was easier than trying to cut her out and piece the picture back together.

Sadly we must wait until December 2020 to wear our formals again unless something comes up for New Years Eve.

Have a safe fun new year all!

 

Micki Finn

 

 

 

 

CROSSDRESSER CHRISTMAS PARTY

CROSSDRESSER CHRISTMAS PARTY

CHIC Christmas Party for our local crossdressing club is just around the corner. It is the highlight of the year for all the members of the club. The party is dress to impress time from elegant dresses and skirt suits to formal gowns. Some shop all year while others rush to the finish line. My shopping is done and I opted for a formal this year after a dressy suit last year pictured below.

 

Crossdresser Christmas Party

CROSSDRESSING PARTY

CHIC Christmas Party is attended by pretty much every member of the club and member wives make a special effort to attend this event. Because some members live great distances from Long Beach their wives only attend this one meeting. It gives them a chance to catch up with crossdresser wife  friends.

FOOD AND FUN

The evening starts with club sponsored cocktails and hors d’ oeuvres in the bar of the restaurant. The venue is a popular mainstream long Beach restaurant so we are mingling with the general public. It is never a problem and attracts a bit of attention as we are better dressed than most patrons.

Wine and more hors d’ oeuvres await downstairs in our semi private lounge room where the picture above was taken. Around eight or eight thirty we sit for dinner and desert until about 11:30 when the night officially ends. The CHIC Christmas party may end but not the partying as some will head to the bar upstairs or across the street for more libations!

There will most likely be other Christmas Parties going on that night also as in the past. The ladies attending the other party are typically very complimentary of our cross dressed members. They appreciate the time and effort we put into our makeup and hair. Gowns also get a lot of attention being that you usually don’t seem them other than on TV.

The party is just days away and I can’t wait to start the process. Pictures to follow in a few weeks.

Micki      

 

 

CROSSDRESSING IN D.C. WITH THE V.C.

CROSSDRESSING IN D.C. WITH THE V.C.

Crossdressing in D.C. was not on my radar until earlier this year when the Vanity Club planned an event there last month. I am not sure what the head count ended up but I heard somewhere north of 80 people. I was a little intimidated about crossdressing in D.C. having never been there before so not knowing what to expect. One of the local V.C. sisters assured me that D.C. would not be a problem.

CROSSDRESSING IN D.C. DINNING

 

Crossdressing in D.C.

Thursday night we were on our own for dinner and after reaching out to me local sisters Bobby Vans Steakhouse was recommended so I made reservations. My crossdressing in D.C. apprehension ended as soon as I walked in the door when the maitre d smiled and asked if he could help. I told him the reservation was under Micki Finn party of four. He replied wonderful and took us to our table.  My wife joined Ashley & Erica I for a fabulous steak dinner there. It might just have been the best Fillet Mignon  steak I have ever eaten.

BOBBY VANS

Crossdressing in D.C.

Bobby Vans was a good recommendation and it was confirmed when Erica noticed Maria Bartiromo of Fox Business News seated two tables away. She did not look up when I passed her but Erica reportedly got a smile from her. Bobby Vans is just two blocks from the White House so no worries about crossdressing in D.C.

In D.C. with the V.C.

Friday night dinner was with 60 Vanity Club sisters at Federico’s Ristorante  Italiano in nearby Arlington Virginia.

 

The night ended with kareoke singing and partying just up the street at Freddies Beach Bar.

 

Crossdressing in D.C.

Saturday night was the final night of the weekend where I would be pinning my sister Erica. As a new member of the Vanity Club whom I sponsored she received her vanity Club pin.

 

We had an amazing time during our visit to our nations capital.

Enjoy,

Micki

CROSSDRESSER WIFE SUPPORT

CROSSDRESSER WIFE   

Crossdresser wife support for your dressing is truly a gift. My wife has always been a great help with my crossdressing even though she chose not to actively participate in the beginning. Wigs, makeup, shoes, outfits and accessories are areas she has helped me with. Most things I willingly accepted but the short wig took decades for me to buy into.

Crossdressing  Wig

My wig style was pretty much shoulder length through most of my dressing career. Like a caring  crossdresser wife support she was constantly suggesting the shorter ones but I never liked how they looked on me. That changed a couple of years ago when we returned to our hotel from the CHIC Christmas Party. She took off the short wig that she was wearing and asked me to put it on. She wanted to  see how it looked on me as it was a complimentary color. I knew what she was up to but put it on anyway. She teased it up a little higher than she wore it and the look on my face said it all. I loved the way it looked but, the wig cap was too small for me. The two wins for her was I now was ready to explore the Micki in short hair concept along with she one the argument.

Godiva’s Wigs

I was fortunate to discover Godiva’s Secret Wigs online because they are great quality and come in large cap sizes. I have purchased several large cap wigs from them but what I call a short wig they refer to as medium which, refers to the length. The two wigs below come in large cap size but are medium length.

Freedom in Nutmeg F color
Trixie in Creamy Toffee color with roots

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

For a Traveling T Girl like myself there is a wonderful advantage to these wigs. I pack them in a large zip lock freezer bag with the wig turned inside out. When I arrive at the hotel I open them up, hold them upside down by the tag and shake hard 3 times. I style them later when I go out with my long fingernails. It only takes a couple of minutes and has cut down my time getting ready. 

Crossdreser wife support
Trixie wig Creamy Toast R (with roots)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

On trips where my wife accompanies me she takes over on the styling which always looks better than mine but, she has been at it longer.

She has also bought me numerous Betty Boop figures over the years because she knows Betty was my first love as a child.

Crossdresser wife support

Maybe Betty was the influence that made me dress in the 1st place.

If so,

Thanks Betty!

 

 

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