Tag: Crossdresser Wife

CROSSDRESSER’S MEET CIVILIANS

CROSSDRESSER’S MEET CIVILIANS

Crossdresser’s interact with civilians from time to time and some more than others. If you go out in public crossdressed like I do meeting civilians is a certainty. You may not have a conversation experiencing only eye contact but you need to think about how to handle it. Long ago I took the look them in the eye and smile approach which has always served me well. Last Friday night was no exception but the outcome surprised me just the same. Seven of us were in town for the monthly Saturday night CHIC meeting so we we headed over to a favorite restaurant for dinner. Like our other venues it is a mainstream upscale restaurant where we are definitely in the minority. That said, we are well known by the owner and staff which sends a signal to the other patrons that we are accepted. COOL!

BFF Ashley, my guest Sherri and I arrived via UBER greeting Mario the owner out front when we arrived. After we hugged I introduced him to Sherri who had never been there before. Then we joined the others who were at the bar but opted to go to the table early due to lack of bar seating available.

I followed the hostess to our table taking a seat at the end looking out the window to the courtyard. There was a 50ish couple seated at the window in my field of vision so eye contact with the woman was inevitable. It was time for a crossdresser interaction with civilians.  I smiled at her several times but she was expressionless. It was more like she was observing rather than communicating with her eyes so I got involved with my group conversation. Her male companion looked over once then looked away with no expression obviously unimpressed. In situations where I don’t have a feel for what the civilian is thinking I end the contact.

Crossdresser's interact with civilians

Conversing with my gurlz I lost track of time when I was surprised by a gentle touch on my shoulder. The expressionless woman was telling me how she loved my hairstyle and how great a choice it was for me. She told me how the color was perfect and the cut was flattering for me. I thanked her for her compliments and she said good night. Even though it started a bit mysterious my crossdresser interaction with civilians worked out wonderfully.

The picture above was taken Friday night back at our hotel where Sherri and I went to the patio bar for a nightcap. It was taken by two ladies we met on the patio as we were leaving. That makes two crossdresser interactions with civilians in the same night. This encounter was different because although I saw them sit behind us with two other younger women we had no contact. I was not even aware that the younger ones had left. When we stood up they spoke to us and I was so surprised I don’t even remember what they said.  They were curious about us and had questions which we did our best to answer. We pretty much covered everything heterosexual married crossdresser, DRAG QUEENS, Gay, Transgender’s Transsexual’s my club CHIC. They left very well informed civilians.

Saturday night it was more crossdresser interactions with civilians but nothing like Friday. I received compliments on my new wig debuting on that night but not on a par with the night before.

Crossdresser's interact with civilians

The wig I am wearing above Saturday night is actually darker in the back than Friday’s. Its deceptive because both of them are very light in the front so they look very similar.

Saturday night was special though on several levels beginning with our group being larger than normal with 20 attendees. We took up the whole west end of the restaurant with a long table. I have intentionally blurred the faces of those who have not given permission to post pictures of them. Seven of the attendees were wives accompanying their crossdresser husbands.

Crossdresser's interact with civilians

When I sat at the bar before dinner it was next to the same woman I did a year ago. She naturally remembered me DUH! I stand out but I remember her because she was Asian with an accent and a low voice. Both crossdresser civilian interactions with her were challenging because of my hearing and her accent but we did well.

So in two consecutive nights I had three wonderful crossdresser interactions with civilians. It was very rewarding and I went to bed with a smile on my face that night.

Enjoy,

 

CROSSDRESSER NAILS

CROSSDRESSER NAILS

Crossdresser fingernails are a must have to achieve that fabulous female presentation. They add that extra unmistakable feminine touch which completes your elegant look.  For many years I used a process where I glued my nails on with DAP Contact cement featured on my CROSSDRESSER FAKE FINGERNAILS PAGE. It worked well for the most part but there were some drawbacks. Recently I read an article on crossdresser nails written by one of my CHIC Sorority sisters Erica. She shared a process she uses to attach her nails using press on gel tabs that stay on for days. I was intrigued because years ago I used Sally Hansen press on tabs that lasted minutes so I dumped them.

This old dog might be able to learn a new trick and be well served to give her process a shot. I ordered some and took them with me to Las Vegas last week. I wanted to try them out but brought my contact cement with me just in case.

crossdresser nails

CROSSDRESSER FINGERNAIL TEST

I put them on Monday night and was really impressed with the holding power of the gel tabs. Not one problem with lifting or loosening throughout the evening. I decided to leave them on all night because we were going shopping the next day and see how many got through the night. In the morning they were all there just as tight as the night before.

So far so good but putting on my shape wear, butt pads, and breast forms would be a real test. No problems at all although putting on make required some adjustments to my routine. I was actually ready ahead of schedule getting ready then went to lunch and shopping. Back at the hotel I changed clothes to go out that evening and my crosssdresser fingernails were intact. I even was complimented by a gentleman at the bar over my lovely nails.

Crossdresser Fingernails

I’m hooked Erica’s process for crossdresser fingernails and tossed my contact cement after ordering more tabs. I have also updated my CROSSDRESSER FAKE FINGERNAILS page to show my new technique.

Thank you Erica!

crossdresser fingernails

 

CROSSDRESSING ISOLATION

CROSSDRESSING ISOLATION

Crossdressing isolation is common in most of our stories but the pandemic has exacerbated the problem. For us more seasoned crossdressers it was especially hard having known it growing up. Then finally letting the genie out of the bottle later in life. Now with the pandemic we were being thrust back into the bottle again. Crossdresser isolation for younger people was possibly worse because they did not know what to expect. They were being shoved into the bottle for the first time.

Besides the not crossdressing there was the lack of socializing in general because of the shutdowns. losing human interaction impact is still being calculated especially with the younger less mature kids. Social gatherings were difficult if not impossible even with family members.

Crossdressing isolation was less of a problem for my sorority sisters in CHIC who are a crafty bunch. We only missed two club meetings the entire pandemic because restaurants in Long beach reopened with the same restrictions everyone else had. They would not do groups larger than 6 people and had outside seating only. So three of us made reservations for 6 people each at the same time with no problems until we showed up. The manager figured out that something must be up when 12 crossdressers and 6 wives show up at the same time. Not to mention that they instantly became friends chatting their heads off. Tonya asked if we could be seated together but he refused saying that would be an illegal group. Even though there were about 20 other diners on the patio seated at tables of four we did not push it.

CHIC had to cancel our Christmas Party like everyone else that year but member Tonya was determined to pass out the gifts she bought for everyone. She was wearing a long coat most of the evening until she started playing Santa Baby on a recorder. She then dropped the coat to reveal her Santa Clause dress and put on her hat.

crossdressing fun
Santa Baby

 

That broke the ice with the civilian customers seated on the patio with us. From then on it was 3 crossdresser groups combined with 20 civilians for a total party. Crossdresser isolation was a bit more manageable after that night and we were fortunate to have so many restaurants in Long Beach with outside dining.

Unfortunately crossdressing isolation never improves for those who never go out. They settle for dressing alone in the basement. Some are lucky enough to dress in a hotel room when traveling on business but its still a lonely existence. Some are married and have never told their wives out of fear she will leave while others have a DADT (Don’t ask don’t tell) arrangement. Still others have an agreement with the wife to lie to her about the CD’s outings. I read a post on Kandi’s Land blog yesterday where lying and DADT were being discussed. It reminded me how lucky I am. My wife has known since we met and has been on many trips with me to conventions and weekend trips with other couples.

Thinking about the subject prompted me to add some content to my CROSSDRESSER HUSBAND page. I thought it might be helpful for wives to know that crossdressers have many interests other than girly stuff. Crossdressing is only a part of them and there is much more going on that is more mainstream. The wife who reads that page is going to have to believe me. I knew all of the people whose occupations and sports that I reference on the page. I have found it truly fascinating over the years that so many of these guys have done and do such cool stuff. The fun thing is nobody who knows them would ever guess they wore dresses. After seeing them in civilian clothes and then dressed as a woman I know I know more crossdressers than I am aware of. I would never have suspected any of these guys crossdressed. I’m betting the same goes for all of us especially the wives. They may have known one at work or school and had no clue.

I hope possibly if a wife reads my page she will gain something from it that helps in some way.

 

Enjoy,

 

CROSSDRESSER GROUP OUTINGS

CROSSDRESSER GROUP OUTINGS

Crossdresser group outings are always fun not only because you are with your sorority sisters but because sometimes your group is well received by the other restaurant patrons. Saturday night the ladies of CHIC went to a place I have been before but left after dinner not going into the bar afterward. This meeting the bar was almost empty after dinner, so we decided to have some drinks. This night’s restaurant I am very familiar with having been both there and their other location. In the past I would not have recommended going there because their clientele I thought would not be open to us gurlz. That has all changed and they actually look forward to us coming with our group of 18 to 20 ladies. Truth be told I think we are sort of free entertainment, but everyone treats us very well. We always enjoy our outings there. Sports are huge at this place and there are memorabilia from both college and professional sports as you see in the picture below. Makes me feel like such a jock standing there.

Crossdresser group outings are great but the duos are many times more enjoyable than the big group. I think it’s because you are more approachable when there are only two of you. The bigger group is sometimes intimidating for the public. Friday night before the club meeting there were just two of us. My BFF Ashley and I and she took this picture in the hotel lobby before dinner. We went to the same restaurant that we had the CHIC Club Christmas Party in December. We had a great relaxing dinner not rushed in any way by our server. He understood that we don’t see each other that often.

As always, I’m looking forward to our next sorority meeting in a few weeks.

ENJOY,

 

CROSSDRESSER TRAVELING

CROSSDRESSER TRAVELING

Crossdresser traveling is fun especially when you have back to back outings with friends. I keep looking for ways to make the task easier and a little better organized. In a previous post I showed my three different colored bags for eyes, foundation and misc. It worked pretty well but I was always going back and forth between them which wasted time. I started looking for a way to improve my crossdresser traveling experience and hopefully reduce the time to get ready by eliminating some moves. After perusing Amazon (where else) I found a bag that looked promising and bought it.

 

CROSSDRESSER TRAVELING

In order to replace my three bags an extra large bag was needed so it holds everything in one place. It eliminated the extra time and steps back and forth retrieving needed items. The left picture is the first level when you open the case with eye shadow in the mesh zippered pockets on top. 3 large pockets just below that then a mesh pocket for large flat items like false eyelashes.

When the zippers below the large flat pocket are opened they expose the lower portion of the case pictured to the right. I did not use the partition system than came with the case but some plastic boxes instead. That allows me to open them and place on the counter when needed then put back in the case. I am able to do all of my makeup and hair without moving more than one step in either direction.

I am still tweaking how and where everything goes but have reduced my get ready time again by about 45 minutes to an hour.

The small plastic boxes are from Office Depot or Staples and come in many different sizes but I picked these because they fit well in the case. They fit better when the lids are placed in different directions so they offset and seat better in the case.

 

Enjoy,

 

 

 

MATURE CROSSDRESSING ADVENTURES

MATURE CROSSDRESSING ADVENTURES

Mature crossdressing adventures adventures are something that I look forward to each month. In addition to my monthly CHIC club meetings I occasionally sneak in a trip to Las Vegas or somewhere fun. This month I was able to put together a mature crossdressing adventure with my BFF Ashley in Las Vegas. We took advantage of the weekday rate at the Palazzo Resort for a few days of shopping. The Fashion Show Mall with tons of stores is right across the street from the Palazzo. Its a quick safe walk over the bridges to the mall and we usually start with lunch at one of the many restaurants there.

Over the last year I have been more and more disappointed with what stores were offering and this trip was the worst yet. The Fashion Jewelry section was desolate with displays half or more empty. Ashley pointed out that the inventory is probably sitting on a ship offshore waiting to be unloaded. The clothing and shoe situation wasn’t much better with the displays spread farther apart to disguise the lack of inventory. On a positive note my wife was happy I spent very little money again this trip.

I made up for the lack of shopping with my mature crossdresser adventure dinner excursion to Majordomo Monday night. I have wanted to go there for sometime for the steaks but ended up ordering Chilean Sea Bass.

mature crossdressing adventure

One of the hostesses was kind enough to snap this picture for me at the restaurant entrance.

Tuesday night at Del Frisco’s Double Eagle restaurant was another bucket list place for me. I had been to the one in Dallas but never the Las Vegas location so I was looking forward to it. Dallas was VERY conservative when I was there in the 90’s but I did not know what to expect with Las Vegas. It looked like the same thing in Vegas because everybody was nicely dressed due to their dress code requirements. Not really sure how conservative the patrons were but we were treated very well received and given a nice booth. Our servers very professional and attentive with the food very good. It was nice to be at a place where we were not the only well dressed women in attendance.

  Photo of Del Frisco's Double Eagle Steakhouse - Las Vegas, NV, United States

We very much enjoyed the food and service at Del Frisco’s and I am sure we will be back for another mature crossdressing adventure.

 

ENJOY!

 

CROSSDRESSER SOCIAL CLUB

CROSSDRESSER SOCIAL CLUB

Crossdresser social clubs were once fairly prevalent but have declined consistently year over year since they heyday of the 1990’s. That said there still seems to be considerable interest in them based on my website clicks. CROSSDRESSER CLUBS ranks # 6 in popularity over the other pages and posts. I am very curious as to why clubs have vanished if there is so much interest in them.

CROSSDRESSER SOCIAL CLUB

Last Saturday was my crossdresser social club CHIC’s monthly meeting and we had 16 of us attending. That number includes 5 wives who are always part of the fun. We had the whole upstairs floor of the restaurant for the group which was great because there are no time limits on us.

In the picture below I am wearing a navy jacket with a multi white / navy skirt outfit . The jewelry I am wearing was featured in a previous post and was made from two necklaces from Macy’s.

CROSSDRESSER SOCIAL CLUBS

crossdresser jewelry

Crossdresser socializing is what CHIC is all about and some of our outings lend themselves to it better than others. This weekend being upstairs with 6 booths to choose from allowed some to table jump during the evening. That allows for sitting in small intimate groups and socializing until the dinner gets served. Because we have no time constraints it allows for more socializing afterward also. This month we had a new applicant so the upstairs table hoping allowed all of the members and wives an opportunity to meet the prospect. The small group allows others at the table to hear the answers of others questions and formulate their own accordingly.

When dinner concludes we usually have a contingent of members go down to the bar below and mix with the civilians. Its something I look forward to because we are well accepted and I have had some very nice conversations there. Crossdresser socializing is not restricted to just other crossdressers. I had to pass this month though because I was not feeling up to it but look forward to next time we go there.

 

Happy Thanksgiving!

 

 

 

 

CROSSDRESSING SAFETY

CROSSDRESSING SAFETY

Crossdressing safety should be a top priority when going out in public especially if you venture out alone. Things are far better today than decades ago. However the world will never run out of A-Holes so always be careful. Friday night I was going out to dinner in Long beach by myself so I picked a restaurant that I know the owner and most of the staff. I always use UBER for my transportation for both my crossdresser safety and avoiding a DUI. I do love my Cosmo’s and Friday was no exception both during and after dinner. The place I went has a piano player so I sat at the bar listening to the music after dinner. The couple seated down the bar started talking with me and we chatted for a while. They invited me to go to another bar down the street with one of the servers I knew. In the interest of crossdressing safety I declined but they were persuasive so I agreed to go for just one drink. You guessed it that turned into two and I was feeling no pain. I did not finish the second drink thanked them for their generosity and headed for my hotel. Even though I deviated from my normal crossdressing safety rules I knew the area I was in. It was only two blocks to the hotel through a very busy entertainment area called Pine Ave. The police heavily patrol the area to keep a lid on things so I felt safe. I walked quickly past everyone and reached the hotel in a couple of minutes safe and called it a night. If I had it to do over again I think I would politely decline the offer and call UBER.

 

crossdressing saftey

 

I paired my new black jacket from CHICO’s with a favorite red skirt. Really like the jacket which is made from a heavy material that conforms to your body when you wear it.

Saturday night was our monthly CHIC dinner and crossdressing safety was no problem at all because the restaurant was across the street from my hotel. MY BFF Ashley gave me a ride to the restaurant so I only had to walk back across the street to my hotel after the dinner. I was a good girl Saturday and limited my drinks to three for the whole night and was back at the hotel by 11PM.  Some of the other members invited me to join them at the Irish Pub two blocks away but I steadfastly refused. I did offer to have one more at my hotel bar but they were set on the pub so we said good night.

 

crossdressing safety

It turned out to be a very wise move because I would have walked back from the pub barefoot. My wife is always telling me to wear something other than black all the time. I went through my closet and dug out my cream colored jacket. I’ve had it for a couple of years but it was an impulse buy and I never had a plan for it. I paired it with a copper mix skirt and bone pumps that perfectly matched the jacket along with a bone purse. I received a lot of compliments and my wife is pleased I ventured out with no black on. The barefoot part comes in with the pumps because I have not worn them in quite a few years. I checked the heel tips which were worn but still looked to have a bit of life left on them. Not so! The first one broke off in the restaurant and the second when I crossed the street to the hotel. I never heard of anybody breaking two heels on the same night but I did it. Fortunately I have extra tips and am an expert at replacing them.

 

Enjoy!

MAINSTREAM CROSSDRESSING

MAINSTREAM CROSSDRESSING

Mainstream crossdressing is something I only dreamed of when I was a young crossdresser. Actually fantasy is probably a more accurate term because it occupied my mind mostly while awake. Leaving the house dressed did not really start until my mid 30’s. It was still something you could be arrested for so was an irregular occurrence. My mainstream crossdressing only existed on business trips and consisted of driving around late at night then back to the motel. I think it was in the late 80’s when I made my first mainstream crossdressing trip In Dallas Texas.

MAINSTREAM CROSSDRESSING THE 1ST TIME

mainstream crossdressing

While at one of the beloved Texas “T” Parties friends insisted that a friend and I join them for dinner. We assumed it would be a Gay restaurant which was the typical (SAFE) destination in those days especially in Texas. I knew I was in trouble as the city lights faded behind us but hoped maybe dinner was in Houston. Nope! They reserved a very nice steakhouse in a suburb of Dallas filled with regular folks. Not my idea of a perfect place for a paranoid CD to do mainstream crossdressing. Everything went well when they seated us at a nice table until we took our seats. There were crossdresser wives with us so I let them decide who sat where and I guess one of them hated me because I ended up directly under the spotlight. Its the perfect place for a CD who rushed to get ready and not ecstatic about her presentation that night preferring a dark corner of the restaurant.

My first time mainstream crossdressing was an education as the guys I was worried about in the restaurant really did not want to look at us. It was the women they were with that kept looking at us all night. They kept pointing us out to the poor guys who obliged them with a brief glance then back to their meal. The staff was very nice to us and when we left their was no gallows or rope tied into a hangman’s noose so it was all good. Then again maybe the fact that we pulled up our friends new Rolls Royce Silver Shadow that night made a difference. The first and only time I have ridden in one but it was cool. So it was two firsts that for me that night mainstream crossdressing and the Rolls.

MAINSTREAM CROSSDRESSING TODAY

Fast forward to today and mainstream crossdressing is very common especially in big cities. Last weekend I met with 5 other CHIC members for dinner Friday night at a favorite place in Long Beach. We had two wives and 4 crossdressers for dinner and had a fun night eating inside for a change. I reserved a private room in the back of the restaurant which gave us a relaxing unhurried atmosphere to socialize in.

MAINSTREAM CROSSDRESSING WITH THE PUBLIC

I got a pleasant surprise when GG acquaintance came back to say hello after noticing me walk through the bar. I had just come in from going outside to take a picture for this article. She had not been around for a couple of years so it was good to know she was doing fine.mainstream crossdressing

I intentionally blurred her face because I did not have her permission to put her picture online. I liked the picture of me so I included it.

This post was getting a little long so the rest of the weekend will follow shortly.

 

 

PUBLIC CROSSDRESSING

PUBLIC CROSSDRESSING

Public crossdressing is being done more and more as CD’s become increasingly comfortable being seen in the open. Years ago most preferred the relative safety of Gay bars or DRAG clubs. Pretty much all of my dressing is done at mainstream venues whether they be stores, restaurants or bars. The world is pretty tolerant if not accepting of crossdressers now especially the younger folks.

PUBLIC CROSSDRESSING FOR DINNER

This month our Friday night group went from 7 to 4 because of last minute scheduling conflicts. I arrived first and opted to sit in the bar so I could people watch. It was a bit cool to sit outside and you see eveyone that comes in. The owner Mario is an old friend and came to sit with me until the others arrived. We talked about how long he has known our club CHIC along with his successful restaurant. It has been 25 years since we started doing public crossdressing at his first restaurant and he expressed his gratitude for our support over those years. I thanked him for being there for us too. Many a beginner went to his restaurant for their first outing en fem and was made to feel comfortable. We have gone to his restaurants through good times and bad and are especially enjoying his current success.

PUBLIC CROSSDRESSING WITH THE PUBLIC

Many times I have walked into a restaurant alone public crossdressing to rendezvous with friends and had patrons take notice of me. Most don’t have too much reaction some smiling while others sort of take it in then look away. Some though give kind of a WHAT IS THAT DOING HERE look then check to see if others noticed me also. My favorite outcome to this situation is when the bartenders and servers notice I have arrived and great me warmly by name. Often if the owner is around they come over and shake hands or hug me again calling me by name. The reason its my favorite public crossdressing is the negative folks figure out the only person with a problem with this crossdresser is them so maybe they are the one out of step.

 SATURDAY NIGHT

Saturday night we had a much bigger group for dinner with 18 club members total. Our group was seated upstairs due to our size but it worked out well because we had the whole upper level. The only drawback was upstairs is all booths so we were in many small groups. Around 10 PM most went on their way but a few of us descended the stairs to the bar for more cocktails and public crossdressing. Once in the bar seating was scarce so I went to the ladies room to freshen up and get ready for a picture.

public crossdressing

When I left the restroom I had to walk behind the owner who was seated at the end. I did not want him to back into me when I said hello so once directly behind him I put my hands on each of his upper arms then said hi in my deepest Trace Atkins voice. He spun around laughing and shook my hand vigorously asking how I was doing. I said great chatted for just a minute and moved on to my group. A few minutes later my folks were commenting on some guys who rolled their eyes and said some negative things about our group. The bartender heard it and was upset then spoke with the owner. The next thing I knew two of the three left and the one left behind felt bad and wanted to buy us a round of drinks. The owner told them we did not need his drinks and just to be nice.

PUBLIC CROSSDRESSING SUCCESS

It is important in closing to note that each of the restaurants mentioned above are places I have gone public crossdressing to for decades. The relationships with owners and staff are based respect for them and their business. We always dress appropriately, act lady like, spend lots of money and tip well. We are never loud, obnoxious, crude or do anything that could negatively impact the business.