Crossdresser rendezvous are still very common with gurlz in various places getting together in both large and small groups. It seems over the years that its more the latter as people’s lives drift apart. Crossdresser clubs sadly are on the decline making it a bit more challenging to meet new friends. This month’s adventure had only 3 of us Friday night and from 3 different states all rendezvousing in Long Beach. Things are much safer now so you can go out in smaller groups without being harassed but you still need to be aware.Â
A crossdresser rendezvous with a small group works better if you have familiar surroundings. We picked our regular hangouts for both nights on this trip. The neighborhood is a mix of commercial and residential and one of the streets is one way and police cars pass by often.
Another nice thing about doing a crossdresser Rendezvous for out-of-town gurlz is that the local gurl or gurlz act as the host in most cases. They pick a safe comfortable place for the meeting so everyone can relax.
Our crossdresser club CHIC will be celebrating our 50TH anniversary in 2025 and many members have moved out of state over the years. They continue their membership but don’t attend more than a few meetings each year. Others travel for business or have the means to travel to meetings more regularly, so crossdresser rendezvous are more frequent.
There are larger crossdresser rendezvous typically held at conventions like DIVA LAS VEGAS held in October in Las Vegas. It’s a great place to establish contacts with others who crossdress but there are all kinds of other folks attending too. Many attendees have been coming for over 10 years and look forward to seeing old friends.
Unfortunately, there are only a few large crossdresser gatherings each year today. In the early to mid 90’s there were several to choose from each month. San Francisco, Los Angeles, Denver, Dallas, Atlanta, Boston, Harrisburg, Las Vegas and New York just to mention a few. Now I think it’s just Boston, Harrisburg and Las Vegas remaining.
DIVA I believe is the largest of the conventions still going and is a less structured event held in October just before Halloween this year. To meet others, you need to sign up for as many events as possible because they are scattered around town. Some might be happening at the same time so choose carefully.
The event is reasonably priced and it’s a good way to venture out for beginners. Especially with their BIG SISTER program designed for beginner’s or just timid folks.
Crossdresser nails are a must have to achieve that fabulous female presentation. They add that extra unmistakable feminine touch which completes your elegant look. For many years I used a process where I glued my nails on with DAP Contact cement featured on my CROSSDRESSER FAKE FINGERNAILS PAGE. It worked well for the most part but there were some drawbacks. Recently I read an article on crossdresser nails written by one of my CHIC Sorority sisters Erica. She shared a process she uses to attach her nails using press on gel tabs that stay on for days. I was intrigued because years ago I used Sally Hansen press on tabs that lasted minutes, so I dumped them.
This old dog might be able to learn a new trick and be well served to give her process a shot. I ordered some and took them with me to Las Vegas last week. I wanted to try them out but brought my contact cement with me just in case.
I put them on Monday night and was really impressed with the holding power of the gel tabs. Not one problem with lifting or loosening throughout the evening. I decided to leave them on all night because we were going shopping the next day and see how many got through the night. In the morning they were all there just as tight as the night before.
So far so good but putting on my shape wear, butt pads, and breast forms would be a real test. No problems at all although putting on make required some adjustments to my routine. I was actually ready ahead of schedule getting ready then went to lunch and shopping. Back at the hotel I changed clothes to go out that evening and my crosssdresser nails were intact. I even was complimented by a gentleman at the bar over my lovely nails.
Vegas crossdressed is always an adventure and this week’s trip was no exception, think crowded! When I first decided to make the trip, Easter did not enter my mind, but I wish it had. Everyplace was crowded even during the high wind warnings on Monday. Going outside in Vegas crossdressed had an additional challenge this week, WIND. After spending some time Monday night doing my hair getting my newest wig just right. The wind restyled it for me which I call hair by hurricane. Our plan was to take UBER from the Cromwell Hotel Valet which is sheltered from the wind to the lower level of the Forum Shops also sheltered. UBER moved their drop off point and refused to go down below so we had to walk out in the open. Fortunately, I was able to get my hair almost back to the way I had it before we made our grand appearance at The Palm Restaurant. We had a great dinner with a booth on the side about the middle of the restaurant facing everyone.
Being in Vegas crossdressed is pretty well accepted and even though we are overdressed people seem to be fine with it. Tuesday, we went to the mall for some shopping but found very little of interest. We rendezvoused at the Bound Bar in the back of the Cromwell Hotel for a drink before dinner. We met a nice young couple from Birmingham England who came to Vegas to get married earlier in the week. The wife gave us tons of compliments on our looks and had no clue when my BFF Ashley showed up that was a CD.
They bought our drinks and we chatted for a while before heading off the Del Frisco’s for dinner. I love Del Frisco’s but was disappointed with our table which was in sort of a overflow dinning room. The atmosphere is better in the main dinning room across from the bar which has a better vibe. The food was still great and our servers exceptional even remembering us from a previous visit.
Wednesday night our Vegas crossdressed adventure broke in a new restaurant off the strip called Piero’s Italian Cuisine. Its where some of the movie Casino with Sharon Stone and Robert Din Ero was filmed. The Cosmo’s are lethal and the food fantastic with very generous portions in addition to a very good server JR. He took very good care of us throughout the evening.
After dinner the two lovely hostesses were kind enough to take a bunch of pictures of me as we left.
Mature crossdressing adventures are something that I look forward to each month. In addition to my monthly CHIC club meetings, I occasionally sneak in a trip to Las Vegas or somewhere fun. This month I was able to put together a mature crossdressing adventure with my BFF Ashley in Las Vegas. We took advantage of the weekday rate at the Palazzo Resort for a few days of shopping. The Fashion Show Mall with tons of stores is right across the street from the Palazzo. It’s a quick safe walk over the bridges to the mall and we usually start with lunch at one of the many restaurants there.
Over the last year I have been more and more disappointed with what stores were offering and this trip was the worst yet. The Fashion Jewelry section was desolate with displays half or emptier than usual. Ashley pointed out that the inventory is probably sitting on a ship offshore waiting to be unloaded. The clothing and shoe situation wasn’t much better with the displays spread farther apart to disguise the lack of inventory. On a positive note, my wife was happy I spent very little money again this trip.
I made up for the lack of shopping with my mature crossdresser adventure dinner excursion to Majordomo Monday night. I have wanted to go there for some time for the steaks but ended up ordering Chilean Sea Bass.
One of the hostesses was kind enough to snap this picture for me at the restaurant entrance.
Tuesday night at Del Frisco’s Double Eagle restaurant was another mature crossdressing adventures bucket list place for me. I had been to the one in Dallas but never the Las Vegas location, so I was looking forward to it. Dallas was VERY conservative when I was there in the 90’s but I did not know what to expect with Las Vegas. It looked like the same thing in Vegas because everybody was nicely dressed due to their dress code requirements. Not really sure how conservative the patrons were but we were treated very well received and given a nice booth. Our servers very professional and attentive with the food very good. It was nice to be at a place where we were not the only well-dressed women in attendance for our mature crossdressing adventures
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We very much enjoyed the food and service at Del Frisco’s and I am sure we will be back for another mature crossdressing adventure.
Crossdressing DIVA21 is behind us now and I think the organizers of DIVA Las Vegas did a great job pulling it off after last years was cancelled. I’m not sure about the headcount but there seemed to be quite a few crossdressers there. Even though there were two events going on at the same time DIVA Las Vegas and Wildside there was no conflicts. I think the highlight of both events was the costume party Saturday night where both groups attended together. I attended as a military officer which looked like a general but had Sargent stripes so I’m quite sure.
CROSSDRESSING DIVA21 COSTUME PARTY
Crossdressing DIVA21 was different this year because it was changed from Spring to Fall and landed right on the Halloween weekend. I think the most fun I had was sitting at the back bar with the civilians dressed like a general. I got lots of compliments on my costume, but nobody saluted me.
CROSSDRESSING DIVA21 1ST NIGHT
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My 1st night crossdressing DIVA21 was Thursday and after shopping in the afternoon I came back to the hotel and changed for dinner. Cleaver & Butchered was the restaurant and they had about 20 of us there. They gave us our own room in the back and the food and service were very good. The only downside was they would only do two checks for 20 people so the girl sitting to my left had to try and decipher who had what and collect the cash for the ten people on our side of the table. The good news was the count came out on the money, so we tipped a bit extra.
I’m still working on my photography skills and made the mistake of having the bar manager take this shot of me wearing a favorite suit. I had to tweak the colors and lighting because the background was too dark to show the suit. The lights in the cabinet behind me confused the camera, I think. The suit is still a favorite and will try again to take a picture with a better background.
CROSSDRESSING DIVA21 2nd NIGHT
The second night of crossdressing DIVA 21 I had dinner with 7 of my CHIC sisters at Giada’s in the Cromwell Hotel. I’ve been there before with good and bad results but, this time they were great. Our waiter was very attentive, and the food was awesome with my friend Tonya getting the fresh made pasta. When I say fresh, I mean like in Italy where they don’t use the dry stuff but make from scratch every day, Tonya loved it.
That night for crossdressing DIVA21 I wore my new snakeskin jacket from Venus over a black sleeveless sweater dress. It was a good choice as a got a lot of compliments on it. Surprisingly it was not uncomfortably hot which, I was concerned about in that the fabric does not breath. I guess having an open front gave it the needed ventilation.
I’m looking forward to the mask mandates ending possibly with the new therapeutics currently going through approvals. Wearing a mask indoors not only is uncomfortable but it really screws up your hair. I solved the makeup \ lipstick smearing issue with my MAC lipstick and my mask basket. Unfortunately, I have not gotten around the mask steaming up glasses and making you face sweaty.
Crossdresser photos are very popular with some crossdresser’s and avoided by others. I was one who resisted them until I launched my blog which pretty much requires them to get any interest. Because of my lack of enthusiasm for pictures I never developed good skills in taking them shooting many to yield a few good ones. One big problem with my crossdresser photo’s attempts was lighting and focus especially with my iPhone. Most pictures came out grainy at night unless I used the flash indoors. I was told that the iPhone had a feature that automatically makes decisions on lighting. I bought a small camera to haul around with me which was better but a hassle to carry around just for a few crossdresser photos.
By chance I received an e-mail announcing the iPhone 13 with 3 versions to choose from. The  iPhone 13 pro grabbed my attention because of the new camera that:
Reveals more detail in dark areas.
Captures 47% more light.
Optical image stabilization for better photos.
I took the bait and ordered the 13 pro hoping for better crossdresser photos. The picture below was taken with flash indoors in elevator lobby of my hotel.
I’m standing in front of a mirror that takes up the entire wall with two recessed lights above. I have done this before but discarded the crossdresser photos because of poor lighting and grainy detail. Every picture I took with the iPhone 13 Plus came out just like this one clear and sharp.
I’m still playing with the phone discovering other cool stuff but what was immediately noticeable was the battery life. It’s incredible much, much, better than my previous model iPhone. The only downside at this point is my Amazon Music does not work in the car until Apple fixes the bug in the operating system.
Crossdresser accessories are where the fun begins for me because I like to experiment. I like to think of my dressing style as classic, but I am also trying new things to see how I like the look. Eyelashes are great crossdresser accessories for putting some glam in your style for the night and my latest discovery I am in love with. I bought my first pack of magnetic eyelashes as an experiment about 9 months ago. I had used the Ardell glue on lashes for decades but never mastered the technique for putting them on. So, I tried some magnetic ones and liked them right away. I did not care for the assortment though because half of them is too radical for my conservative style. About 6 months ago I discovered a 7-set package for around $10.00 on Amazon and a company called GXO BEAUTY. These were great for day to evening crossdresser accessories and thankfully I bought more before they ran out of stock. I don’t know if they will ever be back, so I went on the hunt again.
Not one to wait and see I went back to Amazon searching for a replacement with all one style instead of the assortment. It wasn’t long before I found something even better although a little more expensive with 2 fewer pairs. They are a different crossdresser accessory more on the glamorous side and they look so pretty on. I especially like the way they taper from the inside getting longer as the go to the outside of the eye. The Arishine magnetic lashes
Jewelry accessories are a mainstay of every woman’s closet and are used to define her look for the day. Finding jewelry off the rack for crossdresser accessories can be a challenge. It can be done though with a little work and an imagination. Pictured below are two necklaces I bought on sale along with some needle nose pliers and lobster clasps. My intention was to make a larger necklace to fit me along with a bracelet and some earrings. It takes two of each style necklace in order to have enough links to make all three items.
I always end up making changes along the way like with the blue and gold set below. I decided to dump the bracelet idea with this project because the links are not very strong. This is sometimes an issue when converting necklaces because they are designed to be worn around the neck. Weight is a concern, so they are sometimes made light to be more comfortable. There isn’t much chance they will snag on something and break. This necklace was designed to look heavy, but the backs are hollowed out to make them lighter. Odds are I would be lucky to get a couple of wearing’s out of it before noticing it fell off somewhere.
I had better luck with the silver necklace below which was heavier material so I could make all three items. The bad news is that the earrings are too heavy, and I will look like Dumbo by the end of the night.
I have not made up my mind yet what to do with this set which I am probably not going to wear. Possibly I will just toss it into my jewelry making box and incorporate the links into a future project. I never stop looking for closeout sales on jewelry and can pick some of it up for about $10.00 per necklace. I buy the earring hooks and lobster caws at Michael’s craft store in person or on Amazon online.
Crossdresser style varies greatly in our community and reflects differing tastes depending on motivations along with the occasion. Motivation we all are familiar with based on each one of our internal driving forces. Style in my opinion over the years is connected to puberty to some degree. In my case while I became fascinated with women’s clothing around 6 or 7 years old I did not understand why so just looked and liked. I never heard of a crossdresser and did not know I was one so I had no crossdresser style. That all changed when I matured and took a greater interest in women. I say women because I was more attracted to a well dressed lady than a girl who dressed her age. In those days virtually all women who worked wore nylons and high heels so there was much to look at. My crossdresser style is based on that period which fortunately blends with today’s fashions.
The above picture was taken last Friday night wearing a blouse from White House Black Market with a gray skirt. The pumps are 3 1/2 inch and the whole outfit could have been worn to work in the 1960’s. When shopping I look for classic looks that will always be in style. Its very cost effective to be able to wear your clothes for years so I tend to spend more on quality items for my crossdresser style. Friday night we were going to a new restaurant in a conservative neighborhood with a jazz club in the bar. I have been there dressed as Duke before but never Micki so I chose my outfit not wanting to stand out. We had a great time and were very well accepted.
Saturday night we were going to a familiar restaurant and our group was small enough that we could fit into a private room. I am very comfortable there so I wore a red jacket, navy skirt, and navy pumps. Both the skirt and pumps are classic but the jacket with zipper accents is newer however, the jackets classic cut I think will be in fashion years from now.
DIVA LAS VEGAS is just 10 weeks away and all kinds of crossdresser styles will be on display there. Everything from trashy, to flashy, to conservative all will be there. Crossdresser style based on fetish will most likely be there also but I don’t know if puberty influences fetish desires. I have noticed that fetish dressers don’t seem to be restricted by there age. They tend to wear what the want where they want. That pretty much fits with modern day Las Vegas so I don’t expect to run into and conservative fetish dressers.
The important thing is to have fun in Las Vegas and I am sure all will regardless how they are dressed.
Mature crossdressingLas Vegas is something that has grown on me since the COVID crisis made so many challenges in our lives. Until recently California has been locked down, so it has not been an option for me, but Las Vegas is mostly open except for shows. I rarely see younger crossdressers in town but that might be due to different preferences for hotels and restaurants. As a mature crossdresser in Las Vegas, I prefer venues that are less noisy than I did when I was younger.
My favorite hotel is the Venetian or the Palazzo because the rooms are awesome, the service is great and for restaurants you don’t have to leave the resort to get great high-end establishments. You can also walk across the street to the Fashion Show mall which has Macys, Nordstrom’s, Dillard’s, Saks Fifth Avenue, Neiman Marcus along with a ton of other stores. I have found them all very accommodating of crossdressers especially the makeup ladies at MAC and Laura Mercier.
Being a mature crossdresser I Las Vegas during the pandemic has created a different experience both on the strip and in the casinos because I believe you are a little more passable with a mask on. People can only see your eyes on your face, so a lot of the male features are under the mask. In truth though I think as time goes on people care less and less about crossdressers being out and about. The younger people are the less they care or possibly they are just preoccupied with their own lives. The result is a more enjoyable experience for mature crossdressers in Las Vegas and for crossdressers in general.
What has now become a typical experience for this mature crossdresser in Las Vegas is to freely walk around both the Venetian and Palazzo casinos often having a drink at the bar by myself ad playing video poker. This trip I dined alone Friday night at Ruth Chris and was treated as a lady the whole time with the staff never missing a pronoun.
CUT STEAKHOUSE
Ashley joined me for Saturday night at the Cut steakhouse in the Venetian, Sunday at Lavo in the Palazzo, then finally at Delmonico again at the Venetian. A pleasant enjoyable experience at all of them especially because they were somewhat slow and did not rush us.
DELMONICO STEAKHOUSE
We invested several days shopping at the Fashion Show mall across from the resort and I personally
broke a record for spending. I spent less than $100.00 total for the two days not finding anything I liked.
A mature crossdresser in Las Vegas sometimes finds that over the years they have bought at least one of everything. That was not the case 20 years ago when a shopping trip to San Francisco required a tractor trailer rig to haul it all. People dressed much better in those days, so stores had tons of tailored suits (my fetish) each time I visited the selection was new.
Vegas crossdressing has been occurring for me more frequently than I ever expected. Crossdressing Christmas parties like mine with CHIC will probably be cancelled if they have not already been. It is a huge disappointment for all the members. I think its the first time it has happened in the clubs 46-year history. The gowns will spend another year in the closet unless somehow an excuse materializes to wear them before next Christmas. I mitigated my disappointment by taking advantage of great rates at the Venetian Resort in Las Vegas for 4 nights and 3 full days.
I arrived early enough on Wednesday to get ready and go to CHICA in the Venetian side of restaurant row. Chef Lorena Garcia created a unique Latin American menu for the restaurant. They treated me wonderfully with a great table and service with the manager buying me a Cosmo.
VEGAS CROSSDRESSING DAY 2
Thursday morning, I was off to the Fashion Show Mall across the street for some Vegas crossdresser shopping. I had a quick lunch at Maggio’s Italian restaurant before I started. I only came away with one jacket which was disappointing as I had high hopes for a big haul. The fact that I found so little could mean that I already have so much. That is a pretty accurate statement in truth. Everything was either the wrong cut for me or I had something almost like it. Vegas crossdressing and shopping is great fun, and they treat you very well helping with trying on outfits and sizing questions.
The day ended up being very special because a CHIC member friend Tonya with her wife were going to be in the Las Vegas area. They joined me for dinner Thursday night at the new Bugsy & Meyer’s Steakhouse located in the Flamingo Hotel. A great dinner with good friends and laughs all around. After dinner we retreated to the bar for after dinner drinks.
VEGAS CROSSDRESSING DAY 3
I was moving a little slow Friday morning, so I met them for a late lunch before they left for home again at Chica’s. After saying our goodbyes, I was on my own again for dinner, so I went back to my room to get ready. Friday’s dinner was back to Smith and Wollensky’s steakhouse in the Grand Canal Shops within the Venetian Resort. While I was eating alone that night it wasn’t lonely because I had the same server as BFF Ashley, and I had in June when we were there for the Vegas reopen. She has a great personality and is as chatty as I am, so we had a great time. She even had me judge the Cosmo contest between the two bartenders working that night. That was fun!
VEGAS CROSSDRESSING DAY 4
Saturday, I opted not to crossdress during the day in that I covered every inch of the mall Thursday afternoon. The plan was to go get a messy burger as Duke then cruise the canal shops for something interesting. Didn’t find anything in the shops and opted for a messy chicken sandwich instead of the burger.
Saturday night was a change for dinner also after so many steak houses Italian food sounded pretty good, so it was Canaletto located on the Grand Canal overlooking St. Mark’s Square. The food was awesome with the beef mushroom risotto followed by Cannoli Siciliani for desert and of Cosmo’s a plenty.
Now that I have crossdressed in Vegas over 20 times I have come to the opinion that nobody their cares, provided you act like a lady. Wearing a mask has made it interesting because people can only look at your body and mostly your eyes. If your eye makeup looks good, they will probably take notice and keep going. Everywhere I went the proper pronouns were used and the people I met were very nice. It kinda makes me wonder if I am fooling them for a while but, I always let the cat out of the bag with my voice. Whether they were fooled or not they treat me great so who cares? My favorite encounter was walking down the long hall from my room (See picture above) to the elevator when a 30ish woman was walking straight toward me. I reached the elevators first and pushed the button wondering if she was going to follow me into the elevator. She did but said nothing to me then the elevator stopped at every floor going down with nobody getting on. I commented to her that somebody is getting their kicks out of pushing all the buttons on every floor. She nodded and then I noticed her looking me over from head to toe. When she looked back at my face she said “Damn you look good” and I thanked her.
