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CROSSDRESSING ALONE

CROSSDRESSING ALONE

We have all done it, everyone pretty much starts out that way unless someone dresses you as a joke or experiment. Most of us indulged in our fascination with women’s clothes all by ourselves. Many men will always be crossdressing alone away from prying eyes and the possible negative repercussions of others.

21ST CENTURY CROSSDRESSING

Thankfully there is much more acceptance of crossdressing today and there isn’t the stigma that existed in years past. I go out today to all kinds of mainstream businesses and entertainment venues without getting much more than a glance. It wasn’t always that way though.

GROWING UP

I grew up crossdressing alone and just had an article published in SisterHouse based on my early crossdressing experiences. Actually lack of experiences would be more accurate combined with lack of knowledge of crossdressing. You can follow this link the the article GROWING UP ALONE.  Tasi says it is somewhat sad in the beginning which is true but don’t feel sorry for me I have moved far beyond that time.

GROWN UP

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I am firmly invested in 21st century crossdressing and only look back only to share with others especially the younger ones what it could have been like for them.

Forget about using the ladies room you were more worried about being the scourge of the community and shunned by virtually everyone. Mothers would not want their children playing with you and you would never get invited to a birthday party.  If discovered you would be immediately mistrusted and you’re motives questioned. It was against the law to impersonate a female in public and you could be arrested. I guess they assumed you were trying to trick some unsuspecting lad into being attracted to you.

Follow the link to SisterHouse for more growing up in mid 20th century California and crossdressing alone.

Enjoy,

Micki

 

CROSSDRESER WIVES IN SAN FRANCISCO

Crossdresser Wives

Crossdresser wives sometimes accompany their husbands out in public in fact some are quite comfortable doing it. Last weekend a group of CHIC members all rendezvoused in San Francisco for weekend of fun crossdressing. There were 5 crossdressers and 3 wives joining their crossdressed husbands.

San Francisco Crossdresser wives

The Redwood Room

Tonya (seated) and I are posing with the big chair in the Redwood Room near Union Square. Both our wives were with us but were camera shy but not us. We had just come out of the Redwood Room at the Clift Hotel after enjoying a nightcap. It was our first night in town and we enjoyed a leisurely dinner at Jardinière with other crossdressers wives and their husbands.

Dining Out

We were there a total of 3 days and dined at The Big 4 on Friday night and Farallon on Saturday night. All of us Crossdressers and crossdresser wives went to see Beach Blanket Babylon after dinner. Crossdresser Micki Finn

Shopping

The days were spent shopping for most of the ladies at Macy’s, Nordstrom, Sephora and other lady destinations.  All of the stores are Trans friendly and go out of their way to give you the help you need. This is especially true trying on clothes in the changing rooms where sales clerks will find an empty room for you. They will also check on you to see if you need a different size so you don’t have to keep getting dressed in between trying clothes.

Compromises

I do not dress during the days when my crossdresser wife joins me for outings. It is part of the compromise we worked out decades ago because she is more comfortable under cover of night. However I do shop dressed during the day on outings that my crossdresser wife does not attend which, is the majority of the time.

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I go to San Francisco several times each year in addition to Las Vegas, Seattle, Portland and other cities without her so I get plenty of shopping in throughout the year.

 

PASSABLE VS. ACCEPABLE FOR CROSSDRESSER’S

PASSABLE

Passable vs. Acceptable is the question that prompted me to update my  CROSSDRESSER PASSING IN PUBLIC  page. Summer is almost behind us and my thoughts have drifted toward getting dressed again after a summer of doing guy stuff.

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Micki is planning a new road trip and in that process security is always an important factor. Because passing is something I am not able to do. I don’t attempt to pass as a woman when I am dressed en fem. Micki made a decision many years ago that it is not practical for me to pull it off.

PASSABLE VS. ACCEPTABLE

That is not to say that I don’t put a maximum effort to look as glamorous and feminine as I can.  I just chose not to attempt to deceive people into thinking I was a real woman.

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Ladies Room Break

The real me is far more interesting  and fun than the hybrid I would be creating.  Given the choice of being passable vs. acceptable as a crossdresser I choose acceptable crossdresser.

Most importantly  there is no guarantee that I will be accepted when out and about which is why I take precautions to minimize my risk of danger.

OVERDRESSED? ABSOLUTLY!

Overdressing

Overdressed is a term heard often when people contemplate going somewhere and have concerns about how others will be dressed. Crossdresser’s are no exception and you here it all the time especially when people are going to Trans or Crossdresser events.

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Activities like shopping and where you will be going typically dictates what you will be wearing. Shopping at the mall in Las Vegas in hot temperatures sees thongs, shorts, tank tops or short sleeve blouses. Unfortunately some “T” people wear the same thing to dinner like so many non “T” people do.

SHOPPING

I very seldom go out shopping when I travel largely because most of my shopping is done on the internet. I also hate daylight preferring night time lighting which is much softer. Besides I can buy anything I want in DUKE mode and nobody cares.

Therefore I live for the night and overdress to my hearts content. I looked like a parade float when I went to Diva Las Vegas this year but did not care. I have been dressing up not down since I was a little boy and have no plans to stop now. Being dressed to the hilt is what I enjoy so that’s the way its gonna be. I accept the label of Glamour Puss proudly!

Overdressed

Last weekend I went out in Long Beach Friday, Saturday, Monday and Tuesday nights and overdressed every single night.

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Friday night I met friends at a very hip mainstream restaurant in downtown Long Beach.

Saturday night was our CHIC club meeting night so I joined 14 other members at a different main stream favorite.

Monday & Tuesday nights I went solo at favorite pubs on Naples Island near Long Beach.

I did not fool anyone not passable and do not care nor did anyone else. My Uber driver greeted me opened the car door and took my hand when I exited the car. Present like a lady, act like a lady, and be treated as a lady.

Get dressed!

             Go Out!

                      Have fun!

Micki Finn

 

COOL HEADED CROSS DRESSER

Cross Dresser dressing in the heat of summer is always a challenge. Summer is just around the corner and I discovered something pretty much everyone can benefit from. Ladies from the warmer states will appreciate this neat little invention when out in the hot weather. The light weight liner fits inside your wig and a peel off sticky strip holds it in place against your forehead. Call it a cross dresser head gasket! (I could not resist) They inventor says it pulls the perspiration away from your body and absorbs it. With thin construction you don’t even know it is there.

CLICK ON THE IMAGE TO GO TO HEADLINE ITS WEBSITE SITE

Cross dresser Wig

You can also wear it in your golf cap when living in macho mode to keep the sweat out of your eyes. Helmets, hard hats, pretty much anything that you wear on your head when it is hot out.

CLICK ON THE IMAGE TO GO TO HEADLINE ITS WEBSITE SITE

Cross dresser Wig

 

 

CROSSDRESSER WIG WASH

Crossdresser wig choices vary but, it is important that you get it right preferably the first time. I didn’t and it took years for me to get to a point where I am finally satisfied with my wig style.

Thinner

I recently changed to a shorter look for several reasons the first of which was the short sides and high top make my head look thinner. Maybe its just my face but the look is thinner which is more feminine.

Styling

The second reason is that short wigs are easier to style making traveling much easier with them. Crossdresser wig washing is also simple to do with my wigs.

The third is better ability to travel under the radar if I want to blend in a little better. I am not talking about passing but, a crossdresser wig can make you stand out from a distance. Big hair and long styles attract  more attention than shorter styles especially blonde and red.

I discovered Godiva’s Secret Wigs last year and ordered a shorter style called Freedom in Nutmeg-F color. I subsequently ordered another in Creamy Toffee-R witch stands for dark roots for a softer look.

Click on the video below for a demonstration on wig care and styling.

 

Just think about being on a crossdressing adventure in Las Vegas when the wind kicks up blowing dust everywhere. When you finally head up to your room your wig is flat and looks dirty. You only have one more day in town and not time to get is cleaned and styled.

If you are traveling with the wig hangers like the ones I use and covered in my post HAVE WIG WILL TRAVEL you could do a quickie wash then hang it in the shower to dry.

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Plastic Wig Hanger

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The great thing about Godiva’s Wigs is that after drying you can just shake them out and easily style them with your fingers,

 

 

CROSSDRESSER CLUBS

 

CROSSDRESSER CLUBS

 

Over the past 15 years or so I have noticed the decline in the number of crossdresser clubs and or support groups around the country. They don’t go out with a lot of fanfare they just seem to fade away, here one day and gone the next. This at a time when the transgender community seems to be growing with numerous websites and magazines coming online. There are many online groups that are easy to join and have few rules in most cases. The main purpose seems to be chatting or exchanging ideas and sharing photos.

ACCEPTANCE

The media has now taken a greater interest in us and transgender characters are being seen in movies and TV. The public in many places is either more tolerant of us or just ambivalent so we are able to go more public places at least in the bigger cities anyway.

If this perception is true and the Tran’s community is growing with many people leaving the safety of their closet and not just dragging the computer in there with them. Then why are the groups dying? One would think that the number of groups would be growing not shrinking.

The question has dogged me for some time now so I thought I would explore some observations with you.

THE PROBLEM

To say that a crossdresser clubs died because people stopped supporting it by attending the meetings and moved on is to state the obvious. The real question is what happened? Why did they stop and where did they go? In some cases the dynamic leadership left first and without it the group withered then faded away. None of the member’s felt the calling to take the helm and steer the way so everything just stopped.

With other groups it seems like the leadership changed the direction of the club which displeased some of the membership who then moved on weakening the club and leading to its eventual demise. Age seems to play a major role also with younger crossdressers preferring other social outlets.

LONGEVITY

So what are the crossdresser clubs who are still alive doing right and are they too shrinking, growing or just maintaining their numbers. From what I can determine most are not growing and are lucky to maintain their numbers replacing those who leave for various reasons. Most are losing members and not replacing them some say because of the new freedoms we have going out. During the 1990’s the general Los Angeles area had 6 crossdressser clubs two were private and four open to anyone. Today there is 1 which is CHIC a private security conscious group. What are the crossdresser clubs who are growing or maintaining doing right?

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The remaining private group of which I am a member is CHIC (Crossdressers Heterosexual Intersocial Club) which started in 1975. It was spun off from Dr. Virginia Prince’s original “Heels & Hose Club” that started some years earlier.

In those days dressing in women’s clothes in public could get you beaten up, murdered or arrested leading to job loss, divorce and in many cases financial ruin. Being labeled as a homosexual was a certainty regardless of if you were doing anything sexual at the time of your arrest. The early founders of CHIC decided that security would play a crucial role in the way the club functioned and how members were brought into the group. The taking of photographs at meetings was forbidden and member’s real names were never used. Guests had to be cleared by board members and the club president in advance of attending a meeting which was typically held in member’s homes.

CHANGE

Fast forward to the present day 43 years later and CHIC is still functioning although the membership has evolved with members coming and going. Security is still paramount even though laws and public opinions have changed so being discovered does not have the same ramifications that it once did. Members just prefer to keep their crossdressing private between them and their wife and in some cases select family members. Just because being a TG is all over television shows and movies does not mean that everyone is accepting and that it could not do damage to your career if your dressing became public knowledge. You may not care but your wife and family usually appreciate your keeping it a closely guarded secret.

SOCIAL

One big difference between CHIC and other crossdresser clubs is that although the club has helped many crossdressers over the years it has not really been a support group, but rather a social club. The emphasis is on fun and comradely operating sort of like a sorority of men dressed as women. CHIC is also like a business selling a product which is a quality crossdressing experience. Meetings are social events and don’t really have a structure and no business is discussed. The quality comes from the people that you will be with, where you will be, security, and what you can expect that evening. Applicants are evaluated based on how they will interact with other members and enhance the CHIC experience for everyone.

MAINSTREAM

Over the years as members moved on so did opportunities for party’s held in member’s homes. This led to reserving banquet rooms in restaurants until meeting attendance dropped below the 25 person room guarantee making it too costly. Most meetings now are held in mainstream public restaurants where CHIC is welcomed and encouraged to come back often. They have been researched in advance and meetings held with the management/owners. The details such as security, bathrooms, valet parking etc. have been agreed upon in advance. Members and wives look forward to an evening out with friends at a nice restaurant with great food all while crossdressed. They experience the same ambiance and atmosphere that they would if not crossdressed

WIVES

Wives are a treasured part of the CHIC experience and their happiness is a important consideration. Without their support the CHIC experience would not be what it is for the members. Members are expected to dress appropriately for meetings and not bring undue attention to themselves and others. Although wives do not have a direct role in the management of the club they have influence and their concerns are always a top priority. If they are supportive of the club and attend often that increases the husband’s opportunity to dress and go out. Although most members are married some wives opt to not attend and single members are welcome.

MEMBERS

CHIC members typically are married, over 45 with children and sometimes grandchildren who have left the house. They have more time and money now to devote to crossdressing and are typically secure in their career. They have interests of all kinds and are typically involved in sports like golf, sailing, surfing, travel, theater, archery, hunting, fishing, flying, just to name a few. Some have many of these sports in common but most of all dressing and looking their best. It is not uncommon for members to see each other away from crossdressing to enjoy some of these interests.

 

For more information on CHIC please go to the website at www.chicladies.org.

A year ago, I joined the Vanity Club which has been around almost as long as CHIC but has a bit different membership criterion. It is not strictly heterosexual and sexual preferences are not considered for membership along with religion and politics. It is just not discussed period. I am still 100% hetero married for over 4 decades but, travel often and wanted to find other like minded classy CD’s without trolling bars. The Vanity Club is bucking the trend and growing attracting many younger members. The club has over 200 members worldwide. Membership is by invitation only and the process is extensive to be invited to join.

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For more information on Vanity Club please go to the website at www.vanityclub.com.

 

The Rose City T-Girls which is primarily an online group from Portland Oregon of about 180 registered members. They gather at various places in Portland and Salem for dinners.

crossdresser clubs

For more information on rose City T-Girls please go to the website at https://www.rosecitytgirls.com

1ST TIME DILEMMA

So over the years positive changes have made it easier for those of us comfortable going out dressed but done nothing for the first timer. Even though it is easy to find a group online they still don’t know who they will be meeting or if they will even show up. Nobody to hold their hand and introduce them to going out dressed unless they attempt to join one of the crossdresser clubs  first.

Looking at the age information available online in addition to my own observations crossdresser clubs seem to be largely made up of Baby Boomers ages 50 to 80 with a few exceptions previously noted. The clubs that evolve with the changes are doing better than others but, still must have something to offer younger members.

CROSSDRESSER CONVENTIONS

Although far fewer in number than they used to be it seems like events like Diva Las Vegas are where CD’s can connect. Diva is loosely  organized and billed as a vacation not a convention but they have a Big Sister program for 1st timers. Big Sisters are accomplished crossdressers willing to take less confident dressers under their wing for guidance.

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For more information go to Diva Las Vegas https://divalas.vegas/

crossdresser clubs

The Keystone Conference in Harrisburg Pennsylvania is on the east coast and  a favorite of many Vanity club girls. It is a conference with speakers, vendors and break out sessions for learning. http://www.keystone-conference.org/

Time will tell but friendship, comradely and the willingness to help others along the journey seems like the right path.

What are you waiting for?

Micki Finn

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

CROSSDRESSER BATHROOMS

2 PEE OR NOT TO PEE

crossdresser bathroom
Ladies Room Break

Using the Ladies room?

Crossdresser bathroom? Not really, it was the  ladies room at the hotel I was staying at and yes I did go in.  The problem never escapes us and is always a delicate situation to handle. Diva Las Vegas is just three weeks away and everyone who attends the event is going to have to make some decisions on where to take care of business. San Francisco, Portland, Seattle and long Beach California are places that I feel comfortable using the ladies room while crossdressed. Crossdresser bathroom doesn’t exist as an option so you have choices to make depending on where you are when the need arises.

Crossdresser Bathroom 

The picture above was taken on the second floor of the hotel in a very low traffic area. My own room is my first preference but if I am away from my hotel I  look for the most isolated ladies room I can find. Most hotels don’t have a crossdresser  bathroom but, if they have banquet or large meeting rooms bathrooms will be close by. If no events are going on the bathrooms are usually open and empty. Gender neutral is a great option but they are few and far between and I have only seen one or two in my travels.

Crossdresser Bathroom

Even if the ladies room is empty when you go in don’t dally, read a magazine, or re do your makeup. In and out is the best approach to avoid problems with women who might take issue with you being there. I am not sure about the laws in Las Vegas so I will try to use my room most of the time just so I don’t have to worry. I don’t pass as a woman and most CD’s don’t no matter how good they think they look so I don’t take chances. Las Vegas has no shortage of meeting facilities so that would be preference number two. I also keep my eyes open when walking around to find suitable places before the need arises

Have fun and be safe,

Micki Finn

HIGH HEEL COMFORT

I have been wearing high heels for many years and pretty much putting up with the pain.  The toes are smashed together in a triangle like the bow of a boat. My toes  are bent upward until I walk a few feet barefoot.

Pain Relief

A couple of years ago I discovered Vivian Lou Insoles for high heels which, are shown in the picture below.

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Toe Relief

The clear gel pad going from the arch to just shy of the heel back shifts your weight back. It moves your weight from the ball of your foot to the heel. It  more evenly distributes your weight over the whole foot.

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Ice them up

Vivian Lou insoles help a great deal but the old ice trick makes high heels even more comfortable. A couple of years ago I wrote about this technique on my other site www.chicladies.org.  Recently I made a discovery that makes it even better. I was getting ready to go to a Vanity Club outing in Atalanta and had two new pairs of high heel pumps to wear.

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I inserted the zip lock plastic bags with the corner deep into the toe of each shoe pushing it in with my finger. Make sure that the corner is all the way in.  Filled the bags about a third of the way full with water and put them in the freezer over night.

I did this three times on one shoe but the other needed a fourth time. I put them on in between to check the fit. When the water froze each night it expanded gently stretching the shoe a little each time. The high heels pictured above are satin but the ones I did multiple times were black kid and black patent leather.

Give it a try it really works!

Micki Finn

BRACELET ENVY

Crossdresser Jewelry

If you are like me there have been many disappointing shopping excursions looking for crossdresser jewelry. Have you ever discovered an awesome bracelet only to find that it only comes in size 7 1/2 inch and won’t fit? Most crossdresers need  your 8 to 8 1/2 inch length to fit their wrist.

It got me to thinking how I could make bracelets that would fit a crossdressers wrist. It occurred to me that it might be easier to just buy a 7 1/2 bracelet and extend it. I knew Michael’s crafts stores could probably fix me up and the did with some rings and lobster claws did the trick.

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The above women’s  bracelet was purchased on sale from Macy’s and I added a ring and lobster claw to make it  crossdresser jewelry.  I carefully pried the split ring open and ran it through the loose lobster claw then closing the ring again. Then I opened the existing lobster claw on the bracelet and clipped it to the ring I just installed on the other claw. The extension gives me almost a 1 inch extension.

You can also buy a bargain sale necklace and cut it into smaller pieces making two bracelets. An 18 inch necklace should make two 9 inch bracelets with room to spare.

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These links were almost 1/8th inch so I had to break out the bolt cutters to split them

2 Braclett

The necklace yielded two 8 1/2 inch bracelets after adding the rings and lobster claws. In some cases you can just clip an additional lobster claw to the existing one to get the length. The added length gives us that little extra and it belongs in every crossdressers jewelry box