passing vs. acceptance

Tag: Crossdressing in Las Vegas

PASSABLE VS. ACCEPABLE FOR CROSSDRESSER’S

PASSABLE

Passable vs. Acceptable is the question that prompted me to update my  CROSSDRESSER PASSING IN PUBLIC  page. Summer is almost behind us and my thoughts have drifted toward getting dressed again after a summer of doing guy stuff.

passable vs. acceptable

Micki is planning a new road trip and in that process security is always an important factor. Because passing is something I am not able to do. I don’t attempt to pass as a woman when I am dressed en fem. Micki made a decision many years ago that it is not practical for me to pull it off.

PASSABLE VS. ACCEPTABLE

That is not to say that I don’t put a maximum effort to look as glamorous and feminine as I can.  I just chose not to attempt to deceive people into thinking I was a real woman.

passable vs. acceptable
Ladies Room Break

The real me is far more interesting  and fun than the hybrid I would be creating.  Given the choice of being passable vs. acceptable as a crossdresser I choose acceptable crossdresser.

Most importantly  there is no guarantee that I will be accepted when out and about which is why I take precautions to minimize my risk of danger.

OVERDRESSED? ABSOLUTLY!

OVERDRESSED? ABSOLUTLY!

Overdressing

Overdressed is a term heard often when people contemplate going somewhere and have concerns about how others will be dressed. Crossdresser’s are no exception and you here it all the time especially when people are going to Trans or Crossdresser events.

overdressed crossdresser

Activities like shopping and where you will be going typically dictates what you will be wearing. Shopping at the mall in Las Vegas in hot temperatures sees thongs, shorts, tank tops or short sleeve blouses. Unfortunately some “T” people wear the same thing to dinner like so many non “T” people do.

SHOPPING

I very seldom go out shopping when I travel largely because most of my shopping is done on the internet. I also hate daylight preferring night time lighting which is much softer. Besides I can buy anything I want in DUKE mode and nobody cares.

Therefore I live for the night and overdress to my hearts content. I looked like a parade float when I went to Diva Las Vegas this year but did not care. I have been dressing up not down since I was a little boy and have no plans to stop now. Being dressed to the hilt is what I enjoy so that’s the way its gonna be. I accept the label of Glamour Puss proudly!

Overdressed

Last weekend I went out in Long Beach Friday, Saturday, Monday and Tuesday nights and overdressed every single night.

overdressed crossdresser

Friday night I met friends at a very hip mainstream restaurant in downtown Long Beach.

Saturday night was our CHIC club meeting night so I joined 14 other members at a different main stream favorite.

Monday & Tuesday nights I went solo at favorite pubs on Naples Island near Long Beach.

I did not fool anyone not passable and do not care nor did anyone else. My Uber driver greeted me opened the car door and took my hand when I exited the car. Present like a lady, act like a lady, and be treated as a lady.

Get dressed!

             Go Out!

                      Have fun!

Micki Finn

 

CROSSDRESSER WIG WASH

CROSSDRESSER WIG WASH

Crossdresser wig choices vary but, it is important that you get it right preferably the first time. I didn’t and it took years for me to get to a point where I am finally satisfied with my wig style.

Thinner

I recently changed to a shorter look for several reasons the first of which was the short sides and high top make my head look thinner. Maybe its just my face but the look is thinner which is more feminine.

Styling

The second reason is that short wigs are easier to style making traveling much easier with them. Crossdresser wig washing is also simple to do with my wigs.

The third is better ability to travel under the radar if I want to blend in a little better. I am not talking about passing but, a crossdresser wig can make you stand out from a distance. Big hair and long styles attract  more attention than shorter styles especially blonde and red.

I discovered Godiva’s Secret Wigs last year and ordered a shorter style called Freedom in Nutmeg-F color. I subsequently ordered another in Creamy Toffee-R witch stands for dark roots for a softer look.

Click on the video below for a demonstration on wig care and styling.

 

Just think about being on a crossdressing adventure in Las Vegas when the wind kicks up blowing dust everywhere. When you finally head up to your room your wig is flat and looks dirty. You only have one more day in town and not time to get is cleaned and styled.

If you are traveling with the wig hangers like the ones I use and covered in my post HAVE WIG WILL TRAVEL you could do a quickie wash then hang it in the shower to dry.

crossdresser wig washing
Plastic Wig Hanger

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The great thing about Godiva’s Wigs is that after drying you can just shake them out and easily style them with your fingers,

 

 

CROSSDRESSER CLUBS

Over the past 15 years or so I have noticed the decline in the number of crossdresser clubs and or support groups around the country.

CROSSDRESSER BATHROOMS

CROSSDRESSER BATHROOMS

2 PEE OR NOT TO PEE

crossdresser bathroom
Ladies Room Break

Using the Ladies room?

Crossdresser bathroom? Not really, it was the  ladies room at the hotel I was staying at and yes I did go in.  The problem never escapes us and is always a delicate situation to handle. Diva Las Vegas is just three weeks away and everyone who attends the event is going to have to make some decisions on where to take care of business. San Francisco, Portland, Seattle and long Beach California are places that I feel comfortable using the ladies room while crossdressed. Crossdresser bathroom doesn’t exist as an option so you have choices to make depending on where you are when the need arises.

Crossdresser Bathroom 

The picture above was taken on the second floor of the hotel in a very low traffic area. My own room is my first preference but if I am away from my hotel I  look for the most isolated ladies room I can find. Most hotels don’t have a crossdresser  bathroom but, if they have banquet or large meeting rooms bathrooms will be close by. If no events are going on the bathrooms are usually open and empty. Gender neutral is a great option but they are few and far between and I have only seen one or two in my travels.

Crossdresser Bathroom

Even if the ladies room is empty when you go in don’t dally, read a magazine, or re do your makeup. In and out is the best approach to avoid problems with women who might take issue with you being there. I am not sure about the laws in Las Vegas so I will try to use my room most of the time just so I don’t have to worry. I don’t pass as a woman and most CD’s don’t no matter how good they think they look so I don’t take chances. Las Vegas has no shortage of meeting facilities so that would be preference number two. I also keep my eyes open when walking around to find suitable places before the need arises

Have fun and be safe,

Micki Finn

HIGH HEEL COMFORT

HIGH HEEL COMFORT

I have been wearing high heels for many years and pretty much putting up with the pain along with having my foot look like a boat when I take them off . My toes are smashed together in a triangle like the bow of a boat and bent upward until I walk a few feet barefoot.

BRACELET ENVY

BRACELET ENVY

Crossdresser Jewelry

If you are like me there have been many disappointing shopping excursions looking for crossdresser jewelry. Have you ever discovered an awesome bracelet only to find that it only comes in size 7 1/2 inch and won’t fit? Most crossdresers need  your 8 to 8 1/2 inch length to fit their wrist.

It got me to thinking how I could make bracelets that would fit a crossdressers wrist. It occurred to me that it might be easier to just buy a 7 1/2 bracelet and extend it. I knew Michael’s crafts stores could probably fix me up and the did with some rings and lobster claws did the trick.

G Braclett

The above women’s  bracelet was purchased on sale from Macy’s and I added a ring and lobster claw to make it  crossdresser jewelry.  I carefully pried the split ring open and ran it through the loose lobster claw then closing the ring again. Then I opened the existing lobster claw on the bracelet and clipped it to the ring I just installed on the other claw. The extension gives me almost a 1 inch extension.

You can also buy a bargain sale necklace and cut it into smaller pieces making two bracelets. An 18 inch necklace should make two 9 inch bracelets with room to spare.

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These links were almost 1/8th inch so I had to break out the bolt cutters to split them

2 Braclett

The necklace yielded two 8 1/2 inch bracelets after adding the rings and lobster claws. In some cases you can just clip an additional lobster claw to the existing one to get the length. The added length gives us that little extra and it belongs in every crossdressers jewelry box

 

 

SUMMER CROSSDRESSING

For many crossdresser’s summer means presenting a fuzzier version of your girly self. Most of us  opting for pants to cover your legs instead of skirts. For a married crossdresser shaving  sometimes it is not optional and it is best to comply. Crossdressers shaved legs might not bother the crossdresser but wives have very valid concerns. Bare legs would be obvious and she would probably decline invitations for BBQ’s and other outdoor activities. That is not fair to her not to mention if  kids are involved.

Wearing  Pants

Depending where you live the summer might only last a couple of weeks and then you can go back to your smooth hairless look. Trust me your lady will really appreciate it. Besides most women these days are wearing jeans or some other form of long pants so this is your chance to look CHIC.

In my case she is not the one who decides my  stopping shaving my legs and other areas. I am an outdoor person and enjoy outdoor sports and other activities during the summer months. I want to enjoy myself without being concerned about people noticing my crossdresser shaving legs.

Don’t get me wrong I think about crossdressing the whole summer.  That is why when the weather cools and the days grow shorter there is a little bounce in my step that turns into a sway once the heels go on. I usually have a little coming  out party sort of by taking a trip to San Francisco for a couple of days shopping. Immersion therapy I call it after my summer dry spell.

For those who share my situation cheer up it won’t be too much longer and can still shop online during summer.

Counting down with you,

Micki

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FEMININE CURVES FOR CROSSDRESSER’S

FEMININE CURVES FOR CROSSDRESSER’S

I must admit to a greater sense of confidence in my appearance when wearing the Veronica 6 when out at more public places like restaurants and events.