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LAS VEGAS HALLOWEEN CROSSDRESSING

LAS VEGAS CROSSDRESSING

Crossdressing in Las Vegas for Halloween is something I dreamed of as a kid but was afraid for many years. That all changed about 20 years ago when a few of us took a chance on San Francisco being tolerant or possibly accepting of us. They were and we went back every year since until this 2020 when COVID 19 got in the way. Friends there advised against doing it this year so we opted for Las Vegas Crossdressing instead. We spent three nights there and had a wonderful time masks and all dinning at great restaurants and shopping during the day. The weather was amazing with the high at 80 and the lows around 60.

 The Palm - Las Vegas - Las Vegas, NV, United States. The Palm Las Vegas at The Forum Shops at Caesars.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

NIGHT #1 THE PALM RESTAURANT

The first night we went to The Palm restaurant at the Forum Shops in Caesar’s Palace. Great food and service and we were treated like ladies seated in a nice booth with a view of everything. For my first night of Las Vegas Crossdressing I wore my new zebra skirt that fit perfectly. I paired it with a black zippered jacket I already had. The Micki Finn mask is real not Photo Shopped I had it made for the trip.

THE FORUM SHOPS AT CAESARS

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

NIGHT #2 DELMONICO’S

The second night was at Delmonico’s Steakhouse between the Venetian Hotel where I was staying and the Palazzo where Ashley stayed. Delmonico’s is a favorite every time we go to Vegas not just for the food and service but the location also. We were seated at a great table next to the wine room with a nice view of the restaurant. Our server was attentive, fun and did not rush us through the dinner.

DELMONICO STEAKHOUSE

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

CROSSDRESSING LAS VEGAS

Trips for Las Vegas Crossdressing always include lots of walking long distances on hard tile floors for the most part . That’s why I pack my fold-able ballet slippers in my purse and change a short distance from my destination. This night I opted for my leopard jacket over a sleeveless dress. I forgot to have Ashley take a picture of me at the restaurant so I had to take this one in my suite on the timer.

MY VENETIAN SUITE ENTRY

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

NIGHT #3 COSTA di MARE

Our last night a special occasion because of Halloween and we were in Vegas so we went to a new restaurant. It is the Costa di Mare located in the Wynn Hotel and was exceptional. It was quite possibly the best food and service I have ever had. Although it came at a price similar to the GDP of a small country. The hostess gave us a choice of taking the elevator or the stairs and I jumped on the elevator. I wish I had taken the stairs because it is the grand entrance to the lower level dinning room. We took the elevator option because the black patent pumps I was wearing were 4.5 inches tall. I ordered them by mistake and love them but they are too high for Vegas. I did not want to make my Las Vegas Crossdressing entrance going end over end down the stairs.

Photo of Costa di Mare - Las Vegas, NV, United States
COSTA DI MARE DINNING ROOM

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Our servers were terrific with a head waiter showing us the large fish cart displaying the fresh catch of whole fish, lobster, scallops, and octopus. We opted for the chefs recommendation that was a assortment of items from the cart. The fish we selected was a mild flaky salt water fish carved perfectly by one of our servers. Neither of us found a bone on our plates. Ashley talked me into giving octopus another try after my Hawaiian experience years ago. Selecting it from a buffet I chewed for half an hour on what seemed like an inter-tube! Costa di Mare sold me on octopus because it was tender and very flavorful. I guess the buffet is not the best place to get it.

THE PALAZZO SHOPS

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Wynn had more security than any other hotel on the strip putting us through electronic wand sensors and purse searches. There has been some violence on the strip in recent weeks so they are on the lookout for problems. Most of what I have read about was late at night so I was not too concerned. One takeaway from the experience is that the American people want their life back! The Strip was packed the streets, the casino’s, the restaurants, and even the Showtime Mall across the street. Everybody everywhere was wearing a mask which, was mandatory so I guess people are sick of staying locked up.

 

Already planning the next trip!

Enjoy

Micki Finn

MATURE CROSSDRESSING HISTORY

MATURE CROSSDRESSING HISTORY

Crossdressing history comes in two parts, one is the personal crossdresser’s history.  The other is part of the collective history of crossdressing men wearing dresses over the ages.

Younger crossderesser’s will have a relatively short history but, are none the less part of the collective history of crossdressing. The younger crossdresser’s are the inspiration for this post. It also pertains to others regardless of their age that have recently made the leap to explore crossdressing.

CROSSDRESSING FEAR AND TREPIDATION

Crossdressing in public isn’t what it used to be and the young and newly launched gurlz benefit from the efforts of those who came before. Long before Caitlyn Jenner drew so much attention to the subject when she came out to the world others were pushing the envelope. Some at great personal cost like divorce, job loss and in some cases jail. The farther back in history you go the worse it was.

30 years ago I would have been extremely uncomfortable going into the 555 Steakhouse dressed as a woman. It is an upscale restaurant in downtown Long Beach near the convention center. The 555 is always crowded liquored up convention folks. Getting the cold shoulder from the management and frowns from the customers  would have been my expectation and that would be the good part. Fearing being asked to leave or having customers request being moved were also a consideration. My worst fear though would be to have had some dunce pull my wig off and play catch with his boozed up buddies.

Please understand my paranoia of the 555 Steakhouse was in no way based on the establishment but, my fear of society in general in those days.

Last month I made a reservation at the 555 online for 10 people on the Friday night before our club (CHIC) Christmas Party. I did not notify them in advance that we were going to be crossdressed. I did years ago out of consideration for the restaurant. The reason being that they know me there. Micki has eaten their many times in large and small groups being treated as a lady every time. I think I am in their computer system so they know what to expect when we arrive. That Friday night the place was really crowded but our food & service were exceptional. Other than we were dressed better than most of the women there nobody paid us much attention.

MATURE CROSSDRESSER HISTORY

I have posted before on mature crossdressing history when I wrote about a book my friend John C. Gunn authored called I’m Dressed Your Not.  John went by the name Lane when we met at a CHIC meeting about 30 years ago. She is in her 90’s now and I and others learned a lot from her especially the fingernail technique I use. Another post I did was about Laverne Cummings who would be about the same age as Lane had she not passed a couple of years ago.

I recently came across some information on the internet that took me back to the early stages of my crossdressing history. It along with seeing how different things are nowadays for younger and newly launched crossdressers are what inspired this post. Possibly after reading it those with less crossdresser history will gain an appreciation for those who came before and blazed the trail.  

CROSSDRESSER DOCUMENTERIES

I came across a series of YouTube crossdressing videos by JoAnn  Roberts from the mid 1980’s along with a tape from the Phil Donahue television daytime show.

MATURE CROSSDRESSERING HISTORY

JoAnn passed in 2013 but not before making a significant impact on the crossdressing history of many of us.

She started her own publishing company and began producing LadyLike Magazine.

crossdressing history

In 1985 she wrote and published Art & Illusion, A Guide to Crossdressing.

crossdressing history

She was also one of the founders of the Renaissance Transgender Association, Inc. This was all done in an era where you could easily lose your job on just the rumor that you were a crossdresser.

Her courage and others like her eased the path for others by educating the public on crossdressing.  In 1995 she was a partner in the online website Trans Gender Forum later named TG Forum.

It was TGForum and JoAnn that hosted the 1st CHIC website that I built almost 20 years ago. JoAnn was very patient with my lack of knowledge of websites back then.

Below are the links to the All dressed up series.

 

All Dressed Up and Nowhere To Go TV Documentary With JoAnn Roberts 1

 

All Dressed Up and Nowhere To Go TV Documentary With JoAnn Roberts 2

 

All Dressed Up and Nowhere To Go TV Documentary With JoAnn Roberts 3

 

All Dressed Up and Nowhere To Go TV Documentary With JoAnn Roberts 4

 

All Dressed Up and Nowhere To Go TV Documentary With JoAnn Roberts 5

 

All Dressed Up and Nowhere To Go With JoAnn Roberts 6

 

Enjoy,

 

Micki Finn

CROSSDRESSERS PASSING

DIVA LAS VEGAS 2019

Crossdressers passing is a popular topic across the INTERNET and the world in general. I don’t worry about it and have discussed my thoughts in another post dealing with acceptance vs. passing.

DLV logo

I attended DIVA Las Vegas 2019 this year but only attended a few  evening events. My days were spent shopping at the Miracle Mile Shops and the Fashion Show Mall crossdressed of course. Did I pass? Was I one of the DIVA crossdressers passing among the crowd? I will never know because everyone treated me as the lady I was dressed as. They addressed me with the correct pronouns, greeted me with a smile and in general gave me good service. I was surrounded by hordes of people  all over town doing what people do in Vegas.

DAYTIME SHOPPING

The first day at the Miracle Mile I wore a black denim jacket with lace accents sewn on. Blue jeans and clack suede flats. The second day at the Fashion Show Mall I wore black jeans with a buckskin faux suede jacket and black suede flats again. Nobody gave me any significant looks or attention. I did get looks mind you but considering everyone else was in shorts and thongs can’t judge one way or the other. Was I read or a crossdresser passing? Did they look because I was a nicely dressed woman? Could being over dressed cause them to look longer? Who knows? Based on their demeanor I will say they accepted a crossdresser for how she was dressed and moved on.

DINNING WITH CROSSDRESSER FRIENDS

Crossdresser Dining

I joined Wanda & Susan friends from CHIC on Tuesday night at Ruth’s Chris Steakhouse for dinner followed by cocktails at the Cromwell Hotel.

Crossdresser cocktails

Wednesday after shopping I had a 5:30 dinner reservation at Stack Steakhouse in the Mirage Hotel.  I dined with four CHIC members who were attending DIVA Las Vegas 2019.

crossdressed at Stack Las Vegas

Dinner was earlier than normal because Wanda had gotten us tickets to the Terry Fator Show. The show was at the Mirage so it was a short walk to the theater.

Thursday night was the DIVA Las Vegas farewell dinner at Off The Strip.

Las Vegas CrossdressingI attended with four CHIC members  and met two prospective members. I also had dinner with Cassandra and Susan from the Rose City “T” Girls in addition to Michelle the current Vanity Club President. CHIC members Wanda and wife Susan joined for a picture below.

Micki Finn and friends

A fun week for sure and if you have never attended DIVA Las Vegas you might want to try it. They have a big sister program for newbies.

Micki

 

CROSSDRESSER COLORS

CROSSDRESSER COLORS

Crossdresser colors you say! What is that? Years ago I found out quite by chance at California Dreaming a San Francisco crossdressing event. I was wandering around the vendor area looking at all the wares available when I came upon the Donna Fujii Cosmetics booth. There wasn’t much going on during the day in that most everyone was in the city shopping. As I was talking to the lady in the booth she asked if I wanted my colors done. I replied crossdresser colors? She explained that everyone should know their colors especially crossdressers. 

COLOR CONSULTATION

I sat down in the chair and she explained the difference between cool colors and warm colors. My skin is medium and I was wearing a dark brown wig so while my skin says warm my hair said cool. She started with cool and placed a piece of silver metallic cloth on my shoulder and asked me to look at my face especially my makeup.  She then placed a gold metallic cloth on the other shoulder again asking me to look at my makeup. When she then removed the silver cloth it seemed like my makeup changed looking much more complimentary or  warmer. She advised switching to warm tones like blond wigs and warm palette colors for makeup.

Clothes such as red really pop when worn with a blond wig.

Crossdresser in red
Micki Finn crossdressed in red jacket.

Finding anybody wearing much color is difficult today women, crossdresser’s or anyone else. Yes black is slimming but gets old seeing everyone dressed that way.

HAIR AND MAKEUP

The most important colors to get right are makeup and hair so if possible get the makeup right for your skin then do the wig color and style. The ideal would be to try on wigs dressed with your correct makeup on. Shorter styles are easier to work with because you don’t get distracted with the style and concentrate on the wig color complimenting your makeup. I think you will be surprised pleasantly and please purchase a wig if you take advantage of the Solon’s expertise.

Another possibility is to attend a crossdresser convention / conference where there is a wig stylist exhibiting  but again if at all possible purchase something from them. Diva Las Vegas this spring should have a wig company working with them.

CROSSDRESSING FOR HALOWEEN

CROSSDRESSING FOR HALOWEEN

Crossdressing for Halloween is probably the ultimate fantasy for every crossdresser at least when they first begin anyway. I think like me everyone thinks it would be the safest way to venture out for the first time crossdressed in public. Although I thought of it I went out dressed for many years before finally going to a Halloween party. It was safe given by a crossdresser and her wife in their home. I got ready in my home and my wife sneaked me out the door keeping watch for neighbors.

HALOWEEN 2018

After many years one of the CHIC members threw a Halloween party last weekend, Of course everyone was crossdressing for Halloween. My wife talked me into wearing a “Queen of Harts” costume. She was not attending with me so I was to go alone. That is not a big deal other than I was not staying at a motel. Motels often let you park right outside your door so you only have a few steps to get in the car. I was staying in a high rise Marriott hotel on the 7th floor.

Crossdressing For Halloween

THE ELEVATOR

I have stayed in this Marriott many times and am comfortable with it. The staff knows me and I think they are always interested in what I will be wearing each night I am there. I am always overdressed and I think the ladies approve of my taste.

Saturday night was different because my wife goaded me into getting dressed in my costume at the hotel. That meant I was going to be driving to the party dressed in it. I wanted to rent rent a second room just for that night to get ready but had trouble selling her on the cost.

CROSSDRESSING MARRIOTT

All dressed and ready to go I ventured out of my room and down the hall to the elevator as the Queen of Harts. I was probably only 20 feet down the hall when I heard a door slam behind me. I would have company in the elevator going down and he showed up 2 seconds behind me. Fortunately he asked if I was going to a party and I said yes, to which he said well you look great. I thanked him and we got into the elevator.

Lucky me!

The usually quiet lobby was full of people checking in for a big wedding that night so I gave them something to talk about and left.

The party was about a hour away and was great fun but I left a little after ten. after changing into a more contemporary jacket, skirt and heels.

Another great crossdressing adventure.

Micki Finn

CROSSDRESSING ALONE

CROSSDRESSING ALONE

We have all done it, everyone pretty much starts out that way unless someone dresses you as a joke or experiment. Most of us indulged in our fascination with women’s clothes all by ourselves. Many men will always be crossdressing alone away from prying eyes and the possible negative repercussions of others.

21ST CENTURY CROSSDRESSING

Thankfully there is much more acceptance of crossdressing today and there isn’t the stigma that existed in years past. I go out today to all kinds of mainstream businesses and entertainment venues without getting much more than a glance. It wasn’t always that way though.

GROWING UP

I grew up crossdressing alone and just had an article published in SisterHouse based on my early crossdressing experiences. Actually lack of experiences would be more accurate combined with lack of knowledge of crossdressing. You can follow this link the the article GROWING UP ALONE.  Tasi says it is somewhat sad in the beginning which is true but don’t feel sorry for me I have moved far beyond that time.

GROWN UP

crossdressing alone

I am firmly invested in 21st century crossdressing and only look back only to share with others especially the younger ones what it could have been like for them.

Forget about using the ladies room you were more worried about being the scourge of the community and shunned by virtually everyone. Mothers would not want their children playing with you and you would never get invited to a birthday party.  If discovered you would be immediately mistrusted and you’re motives questioned. It was against the law to impersonate a female in public and you could be arrested. I guess they assumed you were trying to trick some unsuspecting lad into being attracted to you.

Follow the link to SisterHouse for more growing up in mid 20th century California and crossdressing alone.

Enjoy,

Micki

 

CROSSDRESER WIVES IN SAN FRANCISCO

Crossdresser Wives

Crossdresser wives sometimes accompany their husbands out in public in fact some are quite comfortable doing it. Last weekend a group of CHIC members all rendezvoused in San Francisco for weekend of fun crossdressing. There were 5 crossdressers and 3 wives joining their crossdressed husbands.

San Francisco Crossdresser wives

The Redwood Room

Tonya (seated) and I are posing with the big chair in the Redwood Room near Union Square. Both our wives were with us but were camera shy but not us. We had just come out of the Redwood Room at the Clift Hotel after enjoying a nightcap. It was our first night in town and we enjoyed a leisurely dinner at Jardinière with other crossdressers wives and their husbands.

Dining Out

We were there a total of 3 days and dined at The Big 4 on Friday night and Farallon on Saturday night. All of us Crossdressers and crossdresser wives went to see Beach Blanket Babylon after dinner. Crossdresser Micki Finn

Shopping

The days were spent shopping for most of the ladies at Macy’s, Nordstrom, Sephora and other lady destinations.  All of the stores are Trans friendly and go out of their way to give you the help you need. This is especially true trying on clothes in the changing rooms where sales clerks will find an empty room for you. They will also check on you to see if you need a different size so you don’t have to keep getting dressed in between trying clothes.

Compromises

I do not dress during the days when my crossdresser wife joins me for outings. It is part of the compromise we worked out decades ago because she is more comfortable under cover of night. However I do shop dressed during the day on outings that my crossdresser wife does not attend which, is the majority of the time.

Traveling T Gurl

I go to San Francisco several times each year in addition to Las Vegas, Seattle, Portland and other cities without her so I get plenty of shopping in throughout the year.

PASSABLE VS. ACCEPABLE FOR CROSSDRESSER’S

PASSABLE

Passable vs. Acceptable is the question that prompted me to update my  CROSSDRESSER PASSING IN PUBLIC  page. Summer is almost behind us and my thoughts have drifted toward getting dressed again after a summer of doing guy stuff.

passable vs. acceptable

Micki is planning a new road trip and in that process security is always an important factor. Because passing is something I am not able to do. I don’t attempt to pass as a woman when I am dressed en fem. Micki made a decision many years ago that it is not practical for me to pull it off.

PASSABLE VS. ACCEPTABLE

That is not to say that I don’t put a maximum effort to look as glamorous and feminine as I can.  I just chose not to attempt to deceive people into thinking I was a real woman.

passable vs. acceptable
Ladies Room Break

The real me is far more interesting  and fun than the hybrid I would be creating.  Given the choice of being passable vs. acceptable as a crossdresser I choose acceptable crossdresser.

Most importantly  there is no guarantee that I will be accepted when out and about which is why I take precautions to minimize my risk of danger.

SAN FRANCISCO CROSSDRESSING DAY 2

San Francisco Day 2

Day 2 of my crossdressing San Francisco trip started slow because I had some work to do so I worked in my room until noon then, got some lunch down the street. We only planned on shopping in Union Square  area  so we could do that in one day Saturday. Ashley was getting in around 2 then would be getting ready until around six.

We met in the European Bar downstairs for cocktails (Read Cosmo) at 6:00PM. Tonight we were having dinner at Boulevard restaurant in east San Francisco at 7:30PM so we had plenty of time to relax before calling UBER.

Boulevard

Boulevard has become a favorite for both Ashley and myself along with everyone we have taken there. The hostess greeted us warmly and took us to our table in a great location.

Crossdressing in San Francisco

Dinner

San Francisco CrossdressingAshley ordered the  Angus Filet
Wood Oven Roasted
Uptown Succotash with Fava & Romano Beans
Vidalia Onion & Truffle Vinaigrette
White Sweet Corn & Summer Truffle Hushpuppy
Roasted Beef Jus with Summer Savory 

Crossdresser Micki FinnI chose the Berkshire Pork Prime Rib Chop
Wood Oven Roasted
Caraway Spaetzle, Sauerkraut, Bacon & Gruyere
Blueberry Apple Butter with Smoked Cinnamon
Tokyo Turnip & Wood Oven Spring Onion
Roasted Pork Jus with Apple Balsamic

Both entre’s were outstanding which is part of why we love the place. The other is the decor of the more than a century old building.

San Francisco Crossdressing

I would be remiss if I failed to note that the service at Boulevard is excellent and we are always treated as elegant ladies with never a missed pronoun. We have several staff that we make a point to speak with regardless of who is serving us that night.

Micki Finn
OVERDRESSED AS ALWAYS

Needless to say we look forward to our next evening at Boulevard which is already in the planning stages for San Francisco this fall.

Enjoy,

Micki Finn

SAN FRANCISCO CROSSDRESSING DAY 1

San Francisco Crossdresser

San Francisco is one of my favorite crossdressing destinations and I was able to squeeze a trip in this month. Summer always creates problems with my dressing schedule so this was a last minute deal. My BFF Ashley flew up to meet me for the weekend but I was on my own for Thursday night.

Night 1

Thursday  afternoon my early fight got me to the hotel around 2:00PM. My luggage shipped ahead so it was waiting. After a quick lunch it was back to my room to start the magic. Plenty of  of time for my 7:30 dinner reservation at Jardiniere in  downtown San Francisco. Crossdressing in San Francisco

I finished the process early enough to visit the European Bar overdressed as usual downstairs to get them warmed up for my Cosmo.

Just after 7:00PM I broke out my phone and ordered my UBER Coach to Jardiniere for dinner.

I have been going to Jardiniere crossdressed  for a long time alone and with others and it is one of my favorites.

They know me there so it is no problem dining alone in my cozy booth upstairs. I started with the Warm Bread Salad then followed with the chicken padron, meyer lemon, eggplant, black garlic.

Jardiniere caters mostly to the San Francisco theater crowd so by 7:30 they are off to the performance and the restaurant is not so busy. The slower pace gives me time to interact with the servers and have an unhurried meal.

I skipped desert preferring to head back to my hotel for my night, night Cosmo. The alarm went off  at 5:00AM that morning  so I wanted to make it an early night getting some rest for the shopping extravaganza Friday.

Day’s two and three will follow this post with more San Francisco  fun dining and shopping adventures.

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Enjoy,

Micki Finn

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