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HALLOWEEN CROSSDRESSING

CAPTAIN MORGANA?

Halloween crossdressing is a favorite for the men dressed like women community  regardless of your preferred label.  Halloween is considered the national holiday of crossdressers everywhere. This year I chose the pirate costume and took the name Captain Morgana.

The Halloween crossdressing party was again this year at Wanda & Susan’s house again.  The members of CHIC gathered in their costumes from spooky or fun to sexy cat women for a fun evening. My wife picked this outfit for me this year and it fit great. The hat leather leggings and the bottle of Captain Morgan spiced rum was my touch.

PRE HALLOWEEN CROSSDRESSING FUN

Wanda lives some distance from our normal Long Beach haunts so some of us get hotels close to her house for the weekend. That leaves us an opportunity for Friday night fun or what we refer to as the FB4. Micki & Wanda at Agostinos Friday night you can see more pictures of Wanda’s adventures HERE.

This time I chose Augostino’s Ristorante Italiano for the dinner of nine ladies.  It is located across Pacific Coast Highway in Capistrano Beach and they treated us great. To say we were overdressed is an understatement with it being a casual beach restaurant no Halloween crossdressing.

Augostino’s closes at ten but we are just getting started so we went two doors down to the Sunset Grill for some cocktails and dancing for a few of the brave gurls.

We sat outside and enjoyed the cool breeze and sipped Cosmo’s listening to the DJ while watching the ladies dance. Once again we were severely overdressed but they did not mind or maybe they just thought we were Halloween crossdressing!

One thing that has definitively changed over the last twenty years is the public acceptance of who we are. People are treating us very well in most cases. It is just a matter of educating them and showing we are worthy of their respect and actually pretty fun if given a chance. This was evident when our gurls invaded the dance floor and the women already dancing turned around and started dancing with them.

 

Happy Halloween!

Micki Finn

CROSSDRESSER FACE TAPE

CROSSDRESSER FACE TAPE SYSTEM

CROSSDRESSER FACE TAPE

Crossdresser face tape is not new and I have written previously about my technique. I recently discovered a tape system online and gave it a try and I love it. Rather than using strips of tape sticking to my head band this system uses rubber strips with sticky tapes on the ends. It is not designed as a crossdresser face tape particularly. It is designed for women but because we wear wigs it actually works better for us.

CROSSDRESSER FACE TAPE

CROSSDRESSER FACE TAPING

This crossdresser face taping system works very well and starts by wiping your temples with alcohol to remove the oil and dirt from your skin. The don’t call for it but I dab New Skin liquid bandage over the cleaned surface once the alcohol evaporates. The I peel off the paper cover on one of the tabs and stick it to my temple pressing firmly. Then I stretch the band over my head to the opposite temple and press it on. The rubber center section of the band maintains a constant upward pressure  lifting your eyes, face and neck. It is in the eyes of the beholder but I think it takes 10 to 20 years off.

NECK TAPING

CROSSDRESSER FACE TAPE

Hopefully you don’t have the dreaded Turkey Neck but it pretty much comes with age male or female. For those of us with a little left after the crossdresser face tape we have crossdresser neck tape. I use the alcohol and New Skin process I described for the face tape. This time you place the crossdresser neck tape on the back of your neck in line with your jaw line.

CROSSDRESSER FACE TAPE

Go slow at first with either process because it you pull too much the tape will actually tear your skin. Blistering may be a better description as the top layer of skin separates from the lower layers.

CROSSDRESSING SEASON

DITCH THE PANTS!

Crossdressing season

Crossdressing season has arrived and its time to end my summer crossdressing. Whats the difference? I ditch the pants, shave my legs and arms, put on a skirt and enjoy the feeling!

CROSSDRESSING SEASON VS. SUMMER CROSSDRESSING

During the summer I am very active in outdoor activities with family and friends with shorts being the daily wardrobe for me. Long pants are a rarity even for dinners out. It is more comfortable for both my wife an I not to have to answer questions about my lack of hair. Labor Day is the turning point and not long after I groom for girly mode and put the shorts away until spring.

Crossdressing season is something I naturally look forward to all summer but I get by with slacks and of course heels during that time. It does not compare to feeling the breeze blow against my shaved legs over my stockings. I don’t think there is a better feeling of femininity for me aside from hearing my heels clicking on the tile or concrete. Makeup is great but once I finish doing my hair it is only noticeable to me when periodically checking it throughout the evening.

Crossdressing season typically runs from September to June however shopping season runs year round. I never stop looking for things to fill out my crossdressing wardrobe.

TRAVELING “T” GURL

Crossdressing season is when I do most of my traveling for my crossdressing adventures. This year I am very excited about a trip to Washington D.C. for  a Vanity Club event in September. This year two of my CHIC sisters have become Vanity Club sisters and will be pinned at the D.C. event.

I started shopping weeks ago for my trip wardrobe and will start packing my outfits shortly. The jewelry boxes are out and I am picking just the right accessories for each evening.

CROSSDRESSER WIFE SUPPORT

CROSSDRESSER WIFE   

Crossdresser wife support for your dressing is truly a gift. My wife has always been a great help with my crossdressing even though she chose not to actively participate in the beginning. Wigs, makeup, shoes, outfits and accessories are areas she has helped me with. Most things I willingly accepted but the short wig took decades for me to buy into.

Crossdressing  Wig

My wig style was pretty much shoulder length through most of my dressing career. Like a caring  crossdresser wife support she was constantly suggesting the shorter ones but I never liked how they looked on me. That changed a couple of years ago when we returned to our hotel from the CHIC Christmas Party. She took off the short wig that she was wearing and asked me to put it on. She wanted to  see how it looked on me as it was a complimentary color. I knew what she was up to but put it on anyway. She teased it up a little higher than she wore it and the look on my face said it all. I loved the way it looked but, the wig cap was too small for me. The two wins for her was I now was ready to explore the Micki in short hair concept along with she one the argument.

Godiva’s Wigs

I was fortunate to discover Godiva’s Secret Wigs online because they are great quality and come in large cap sizes. I have purchased several large cap wigs from them but what I call a short wig they refer to as medium which, refers to the length. The two wigs below come in large cap size but are medium length.

Freedom in Nutmeg F color
Trixie in Creamy Toffee color with roots

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

For a Traveling T Girl like myself there is a wonderful advantage to these wigs. I pack them in a large zip lock freezer bag with the wig turned inside out. When I arrive at the hotel I open them up, hold them upside down by the tag and shake hard 3 times. I style them later when I go out with my long fingernails. It only takes a couple of minutes and has cut down my time getting ready. 

Crossdreser wife support
Trixie wig Creamy Toast R (with roots)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

On trips where my wife accompanies me she takes over on the styling which always looks better than mine but, she has been at it longer.

She has also bought me numerous Betty Boop figures over the years because she knows Betty was my first love as a child.

Crossdresser wife support

Maybe Betty was the influence that made me dress in the 1st place.

If so,

Thanks Betty!

 

 

WEEKEND CROSSDRESSING

WEEKEND CROSSDRESSING

Weekend crossdresser pretty much describes the majority of us even those who have retired. I am no exception and joined some of my CHIC sisters for a couple of nights of partying in Long Beach California last weekend.

FRIDAY NIGHT CROSSDRESSING

The Friday night before our regular monthly CHIC meeting has turned into an additional weekend crossdressing outing. Originally it was just a few people some traveling from afar and others living local but a couple of years ago that changed. Younger couples joined the club and discovered the fun of spending a weekend crossdressing in the safety and acceptance of Long Beach.

A couple of months ago Wanda & I posed for pictures on a Friday night.

 

Mature Crossdresser's

Last Friday it was Erica Marie and I mugging it up at the same location as above only a different room.

 

Mature Crssdressers

Erica was smart enough to know she should go back to her hotel room or possibly it was her lovely wife prodding her. Either way she took the smart path and left leaving me with another sister to close the bar that night. I hate when I do that! Tons of water and a nap Saturday afternoon got me back on my feet just in time to get ready for that night.

Saturday afternoon  I started the wonderful process of getting ready for the evening. I already knew what I was wearing that night and was overdressed as usual so it was just makeup, hair and nails.  This night we added a few more sisters and wives to the weekend crossdresser event heading to the opposite side of town for a wonderful Italian dinner. We were 15 people in all more than half of which couples. The restaurant was on the famous and happening Pine Avenue section of Long Beach.

The evening ended with some pictures and hugs goodbye. This top got several compliments throughout the evening which made me very happy as I was a bit timid about wearing it.

 

weekend crossdresser

CROSSDRESER WIVES IN SAN FRANCISCO

Crossdresser Wives

Crossdresser wives sometimes accompany their husbands out in public in fact some are quite comfortable doing it. Last weekend a group of CHIC members all rendezvoused in San Francisco for weekend of fun crossdressing. There were 5 crossdressers and 3 wives joining their crossdressed husbands.

San Francisco Crossdresser wives

The Redwood Room

Tonya (seated) and I are posing with the big chair in the Redwood Room near Union Square. Both our wives were with us but were camera shy but not us. We had just come out of the Redwood Room at the Clift Hotel after enjoying a nightcap. It was our first night in town and we enjoyed a leisurely dinner at Jardinière with other crossdressers wives and their husbands.

Dining Out

We were there a total of 3 days and dined at The Big 4 on Friday night and Farallon on Saturday night. All of us Crossdressers and crossdresser wives went to see Beach Blanket Babylon after dinner. Crossdresser Micki Finn

Shopping

The days were spent shopping for most of the ladies at Macy’s, Nordstrom, Sephora and other lady destinations.  All of the stores are Trans friendly and go out of their way to give you the help you need. This is especially true trying on clothes in the changing rooms where sales clerks will find an empty room for you. They will also check on you to see if you need a different size so you don’t have to keep getting dressed in between trying clothes.

Compromises

I do not dress during the days when my crossdresser wife joins me for outings. It is part of the compromise we worked out decades ago because she is more comfortable under cover of night. However I do shop dressed during the day on outings that my crossdresser wife does not attend which, is the majority of the time.

Traveling T Gurl

I go to San Francisco several times each year in addition to Las Vegas, Seattle, Portland and other cities without her so I get plenty of shopping in throughout the year.

PASSABLE VS. ACCEPABLE FOR CROSSDRESSER’S

PASSABLE

Passable vs. Acceptable is the question that prompted me to update my  CROSSDRESSER PASSING IN PUBLIC  page. Summer is almost behind us and my thoughts have drifted toward getting dressed again after a summer of doing guy stuff.

passable vs. acceptable

Micki is planning a new road trip and in that process security is always an important factor. Because passing is something I am not able to do. I don’t attempt to pass as a woman when I am dressed en fem. Micki made a decision many years ago that it is not practical for me to pull it off.

PASSABLE VS. ACCEPTABLE

That is not to say that I don’t put a maximum effort to look as glamorous and feminine as I can.  I just chose not to attempt to deceive people into thinking I was a real woman.

passable vs. acceptable
Ladies Room Break

The real me is far more interesting  and fun than the hybrid I would be creating.  Given the choice of being passable vs. acceptable as a crossdresser I choose acceptable crossdresser.

Most importantly  there is no guarantee that I will be accepted when out and about which is why I take precautions to minimize my risk of danger.

SAN FRANCISCO CROSSDRESSING DAY 2

San Francisco Day 2

Day 2 of my crossdressing San Francisco trip started slow because I had some work to do so I worked in my room until noon then, got some lunch down the street. We only planned on shopping in Union Square  area  so we could do that in one day Saturday. Ashley was getting in around 2 then would be getting ready until around six.

We met in the European Bar downstairs for cocktails (Read Cosmo) at 6:00PM. Tonight we were having dinner at Boulevard restaurant in east San Francisco at 7:30PM so we had plenty of time to relax before calling UBER.

Boulevard

Boulevard has become a favorite for both Ashley and myself along with everyone we have taken there. The hostess greeted us warmly and took us to our table in a great location.

Crossdressing in San Francisco

Dinner

San Francisco CrossdressingAshley ordered the  Angus Filet
Wood Oven Roasted
Uptown Succotash with Fava & Romano Beans
Vidalia Onion & Truffle Vinaigrette
White Sweet Corn & Summer Truffle Hushpuppy
Roasted Beef Jus with Summer Savory 

Crossdresser Micki FinnI chose the Berkshire Pork Prime Rib Chop
Wood Oven Roasted
Caraway Spaetzle, Sauerkraut, Bacon & Gruyere
Blueberry Apple Butter with Smoked Cinnamon
Tokyo Turnip & Wood Oven Spring Onion
Roasted Pork Jus with Apple Balsamic

Both entre’s were outstanding which is part of why we love the place. The other is the decor of the more than a century old building.

San Francisco Crossdressing

I would be remiss if I failed to note that the service at Boulevard is excellent and we are always treated as elegant ladies with never a missed pronoun. We have several staff that we make a point to speak with regardless of who is serving us that night.

Micki Finn
OVERDRESSED AS ALWAYS

Needless to say we look forward to our next evening at Boulevard which is already in the planning stages for San Francisco this fall.

Enjoy,

Micki Finn

SAN FRANCISCO CROSSDRESSING DAY 1

San Francisco Crossdresser

San Francisco is one of my favorite crossdressing destinations and I was able to squeeze a trip in this month. Summer always creates problems with my dressing schedule so this was a last minute deal. My BFF Ashley flew up to meet me for the weekend but I was on my own for Thursday night.

Night 1

Thursday  afternoon my early fight got me to the hotel around 2:00PM. My luggage shipped ahead so it was waiting. After a quick lunch it was back to my room to start the magic. Plenty of  of time for my 7:30 dinner reservation at Jardiniere in  downtown San Francisco. Crossdressing in San Francisco

I finished the process early enough to visit the European Bar overdressed as usual downstairs to get them warmed up for my Cosmo.

Just after 7:00PM I broke out my phone and ordered my UBER Coach to Jardiniere for dinner.

I have been going to Jardiniere crossdressed  for a long time alone and with others and it is one of my favorites.

They know me there so it is no problem dining alone in my cozy booth upstairs. I started with the Warm Bread Salad then followed with the chicken padron, meyer lemon, eggplant, black garlic.

Jardiniere caters mostly to the San Francisco theater crowd so by 7:30 they are off to the performance and the restaurant is not so busy. The slower pace gives me time to interact with the servers and have an unhurried meal.

I skipped desert preferring to head back to my hotel for my night, night Cosmo. The alarm went off  at 5:00AM that morning  so I wanted to make it an early night getting some rest for the shopping extravaganza Friday.

Day’s two and three will follow this post with more San Francisco  fun dining and shopping adventures.

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Enjoy,

Micki Finn

CROSSDRESSING A LOOK BACK

CrossdressingCrossdressing 

Crossdressing has been around since the beginning of time and most everything that you read about the experience comes from someone born after 1950. I’m Dressed you’re not is a look back at the adventures and friendships formed over 6 decades of being out and about.  It is based on the experiences of John whom I have always known by her fem name Lane. Lane recently turned 92 years young and is still buzzing along.

Full Disclosure

I first met Lane at a CHIC meeting almost 20 years ago and immediately assumed she was the real deal. I figured she was married to one of the crossdresser’s attending the meeting. It was not until someone introduced me that I found out the she was one of us. In addition she was one of the founding members of CHIC (Crossdresser’s Heterosexual Intersocial Club) and it’s first president.

Friendship

The book jumps around somewhat but, the most important point is the long term (Non Sexual) crossdressing special relationships. It describes friendships between the people in the book. It is not written like a who done it mystery novel but, rather a collection of stories about what is was like dressing as a woman in the 1940’s, 50’s 60,70’s’ 80’s and through the 1990’s.

Most books on this subject written today are from Baby Boomers and start in the 1960’s at the earliest. Lane gives a 92 year olds perspective on what it was like to go out in public fully dressed as a women in the pre 1980’s era. Crossdresser’s in those days you could be locked up in jail for impersonating a female. Crossdresser’s just going to a club dressed as a woman was all you had to do to be arrested and prosecuted. Being caught dressed resulted in many divorces, lost jobs and ruined lives.

Younger readers might want to ponder that for a while!

The world assumed that you were trying to fool an unsuspecting men into sex otherwise why would you dress like a woman? Thankfully the world has changed today and things are far better for those who cross dress.

Those who came before the crossdresser’s of today pioneered the movement and passed on what they knew. It was Lane who taught me the technique I use for my false fingernails.

The stories she tells have been verified by others I have spoken with and are true. Most of us are envious that we cant but she was lucky enough to pull it all off!

Enjoy!

Micki Finn