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WOMENS CLOTHES FOR CROSSDRESSERS

Shopping for Women’s Clothing

Women’s clothing  for crossdressers is not as simple as it may seem there is much to consider depending what your goals are. Are you trying to pass as a woman in public or just blend in without attracting attention? Either way what you should wear depends where you intend to wear it. Summer in Las Vegas or winter in Seattle will be very different in addition to day or evening, casual or formal. Once you have all that sorted out now comes the difficult part which is what looks good on you.

Who Cares

Another school of thought is I don’t care how it looks I just want to wear it. Those in this category buy what they want, wearing it where ever they want, when ever they want. Maybe they are fetish or exhibitionist crossdressers so it is the article of women’s clothing that is important not passing. From my experience it takes them about a half hour to get ready to go out. If I see them coming I cross to the other side of the street and look the other way.

Daytime

My goal is to look good passable or not and want to achieve it every time I present in public. Most women wear toned down makeup for daytime along with lower heels or flats. Jewelry is minimal and not flashy. Pants are preferred with tank tops weather permitting over dresses and  skirts. A long sleeve blouse or light jacket over the top of the tank. Everything in the casual range like most everyone else. The fabrics and colors should be subtle and fit properly. For daywear looking good depends on your choices.

Crossdresser Micki Finn in womens clothes
Crossdressing in women’s clothing

I gave up passing a long time ago and concentrate on blending in to some degree . Maybe trying not standing out so much would be a better choice of words. I am under six feet but over 200 lbs. so I try to look thinner dressing in layers and dark colors. Light blue jeans  and white blouse with a dark open jacket is very slimming. The viewers eye will focus on the what blouse and the vertical lines created by the jacket.  I have switched to shorter hair teased high on the top making me a little taller but thinner too.

Micki Finn Crossdresser at the Warwick Regis Hotel bar in San Francisco California.
Micki Finn at the Warwick Hotel San Francisco

A long coat or sweater with jeans and heels gives a similar illusion. Daytime is pretty easy compared to night time.

Evenings

When crossdressed I am always in skirts and sometimes dresses with hose and heels. The skirt is usually a lighter color than the top or jacket. The top is usually solid black with a vertical zipper unzipped to the breast.  If I wear a blazer normally it is a one button so the deep Vee accentuates the vertical slenderizing lines.

 Micki Finn at the warwick Hotel in San Francisco prior to their remodel.
Micki Finn at Warwick San Francisco

Dark colors on the upper body make it appear slimmer while lighter colors on the lower body are only for contrast. Crossdressers typically are slender below even after adding hip pads. I always wear heels at night. Normally 3 1/2 inch heels and rarely 4 inch depending on the occasion.

Necklines

Some crossdressers have broad shoulders (ME) so dark colors on top will make them seem narrower. Horizontal stripes will make my shoulders seem wider so I keep the stripes below the waist. Square neck lines or off the shoulder looks create the same horizontal line problem  again. Scoop or Vee neck tops work great along with scarves, anything that creates a vertical line.

Fitted  or Tight 

I am guilty as charged your honor! Most everything I buy goes to the seamstress for alterations unless the designers size 16 W fits perfect. Most of the time it doesn’t so my seamstress pays her kids college tuition with my money. I buy my women’s clothes based on my shoulder width which is my widest point of my body. Everything else is altered based on that and my padding which, I explain on my FEMININE SHAPE FOR CROSSDRESSERS page.

Tight is different than fitted which contours the body leaving room where needed. Tight is absolutely form fitting which some call body con because it hugs every curve on the body. I can’t remember ever being able to get away with this look and am too old for it now anyway. If the crossdresser is built slender with little or no muscle definition many can get away even if they are older. Most men are muscular to some degree and if they are well defined this tight look will give you away. People will see muscles first and look closer to see if it is one of those body builder women. Most will see a muscular guy in women’s clothing. Fitted makes more sense unless attention is your goal.

Age Appropriate 

Designers of women’s clothing have a target market they expect to sell to so the colors, cut, patterns and over all style are geared to a certain group. The younger the woman the tighter the look and the more skin shows with the size range being  limited to smaller sizes. When the age increases less skin shows, the hemlines drop and the sizes increase along with the prices. I have heard it said that your age plus or minus a decade is a good rule of thumb and I think I follow it at least to some degree. I am over 60 so I might change my mind in a few years.

Impressions

When you are out in public dressed in women’s clothes people will form an impression of you based on what they observe. If you wish to influence that impression as I do then you will plan what you wear accordingly. In my case the goal is to have women be impressed by my sense of style in the clothing that I choose. To be appreciate my hair and makeup presentation knowing what it takes to get there. Finally to have an overall impression of class and elegance of me. Not saying I get there but that is what I work for none the less. Men notice too but are not interested in me or my presentation which is perfect because I have no interest in them either.

In contrast if I wore blue eyeshadow, bright red lipstick, a red and white tube top with horizontal stripes and a Kardashian style skin tight mini skirt. A pair of platform heels and fingernails that extend an inch beyond my normal nails. Topped off with a long platinum blonde wig cascading down over and beyond my shoulders. My target audience would most likely be repulsed and very likely angry thinking I was mocking them. Men might not be able to resist ridiculing me and feeling they had a license to do so based on my presentation.

I hope this is useful especially to those just venturing out for the first time and they find some women’s clothing they can feel good in.

Hold your head up, point your toes, be safe, and go enjoy yourself in the New Year.

Enjoy,

Micki Finn 

 

 

PORTLAND CROSSDRESSER ROAD TRIP

I have heard about the City of Portland Oregon being very crossdresser friendly from folks on YELP last year. I knew there were crossdressers there but  did not have a solid feel for it.

Ms. Micki became a member of the Vanity Club this year which opened access to crossdresser VC members in the area.  Carolyn a local member graciously agreed to meet me for diner on Friday night and gave me some pointers on the area.

Hotel Deluxe Portland Oregon front entrance where Micki crossdressed

Micki Finn takes to the road

I stayed at a hotel I had been scoping out for sometime and was not disappointed at all because it lived up to my expectations.

The Hotel Deluxe was built in the early 1900’s but is meticulously maintained. The Deluxe  promotes a theme of the glory days of Hollywood throughout the facility.

From the Deluxe lobby to the halls on every floor old Hollywood is the prevailing  thought every where you look. Pictures adorn every available wall and speak elegance everywhere.

The food was excellent and the service was quick in addition to friendly.

Once the doorman opens the front entrance you are greeted by impressive stairs leading to the lobby where the Hollywood theme takes over.

Entrance to lobby of Hotel Deluxe in Portland Oregon.

Micki was the only crossdresser there and as usual over dressed for the occasion.  I think given the theme of the hotel I should be looked at as an example of properly attire for a lady in the hotel. The weather was in the 50’s but most ladies were casual in booties and quilted coats. That doesn’t work for this  it’s always dress up time for Mz Micki.

Micki crossdressed and ready for the Driftwood room at the Hotel Deluxe

The Driftwood Room bar was of course my favorite place in the hotel with a very friendly staff.  The bartenders made sure that I never had an empty glass. ( God I love that) The bartenders also make a great Cosmo. The staff takes the time to chat and make sure that you are having an enjoyable experience. That is one of the big reasons I stay in Boutique hotels almost exclusively. The room reminds me of the fancy restaurants I went to as a kid in Hollywood.

The Driftwood Room

The Driftwood Room bar at the Hotel Deluxe Portland Oregon where I crossdressed
The Driftwood Room

 I just thought this elevator was so cool with Mother of Pearl inlays made from Abalone shells and deep black lacquer walls. I felt like such a star!

Classy and elegant elevator in the Hotel Deluxe

Stay tuned more adventures to follow!

Micki Finn

SUMMER CROSSDRESSING

For many crossdresser’s summer means presenting a fuzzier version of your girly self. Most of us  opting for pants to cover your legs instead of skirts. For a married crossdresser shaving  sometimes it is not optional and it is best to comply. Crossdressers shaved legs might not bother the crossdresser but wives have very valid concerns. Bare legs would be obvious and she would probably decline invitations for BBQ’s and other outdoor activities. That is not fair to her not to mention if  kids are involved.

Wearing  Pants

Depending where you live the summer might only last a couple of weeks and then you can go back to your smooth hairless look. Trust me your lady will really appreciate it. Besides most women these days are wearing jeans or some other form of long pants so this is your chance to look CHIC.

In my case she is not the one who decides my  stopping shaving my legs and other areas. I am an outdoor person and enjoy outdoor sports and other activities during the summer months. I want to enjoy myself without being concerned about people noticing my crossdresser shaving legs.

Don’t get me wrong I think about crossdressing the whole summer.  That is why when the weather cools and the days grow shorter there is a little bounce in my step that turns into a sway once the heels go on. I usually have a little coming  out party sort of by taking a trip to San Francisco for a couple of days shopping. Immersion therapy I call it after my summer dry spell.

For those who share my situation cheer up it won’t be too much longer and can still shop online during summer.

Counting down with you,

Micki

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FEMININE CURVES FOR CROSSDRESSER’S

Classic Curves International’s new Veronica 6 is now available for sale.CLCRV LOGO

Click here to get your curves

This new shapewear garment from Classic Curves is the next evolution of the Veronica line! It’s an outstanding piece of work as the testimony from Robyn Michaels states.

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I cannot begin to tell you how I much I love the new Veronica 6 Open Bottom Girdle.  But I will try!

The Veronica 6

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I love the romance and feminine glamour of vintage fashions from the 1950s and 1960s, especially my preference for wearing garter style stockings rather than pantyhose or thigh highs.  The new Classic Curves Veronica 6 has everything girls like us could want with an open bottom girdle.  The six garters keep the seams of my vintage nylon stockings nice and straight which is important for making a good impression when out clubbing and dancing the night away.  And the visual effect that the padding provides makes every dress style that much more alluring and feminine. 

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And I must admit to a greater sense of confidence in my appearance when wearing the Veronica 6 when out at more public places like restaurants and events.  Even women take notice of the “curves in all the right places”.  And the look is very “natural” and not artificial looking at all.  The attention to detail (delicate lace trim at the hem of the girdle) also was noticed and greatly appreciated by a gentleman admirer who appreciates a girl who dresses to impress. 

The Veronica 6 open bottom girdle is pin-up perfect, too!  Classic glamour from Classic Curves International…what more could I ask for?

Robyn Michaels

Fox Caitlyn Jenner Interview April 24th

 

Monday April 24th Caitlyn Jenner Crossdresser will be on the Tucker Carlson show at 8:00pm.

I will  be watching to see how Tucker approaches this subject on his inaugural show. Also to see  former crossdresser Caitlyn Jenner answers now that she is post op.

Caitlyn’s decision to transition is her business and I hope she finds happiness in life.

Transgender Labels

What concerns me is something she may not have any control over unless she specifically addresses it. That is her being a spokesperson for the Transgender Community. This I fear is the easy route for the media.  Caitlyn is definitely the most recognized Trans person in the world. Simply put her story is not everyone’s story. I hope that they don’tconveniently list me under the Transgender label.

There are many of us with no interest in Transsexual SRS. Many have put our crossdressing in a place where it is working for us. We are heterosexual crossdresser’s most married with family’s who dress one or two times a month. I hope they mention the different groups under that Transgender label.

I have seen many positive changes as a result of Caitlin’s going public. One  is a generally more acceptable feeling toward crossdressers with the public. People seem to have a more accepting attitude towards me when I am crossdressed in public. When transgender is the topic people are more positive aside from the women’s bathroom issue.

Maybe they think we are all former Olympic Gold medalists? NOT!

If it was somehow up to me to decide who should be the official spokesperson for the crossdresser community. I can think of no better representative than Caitlyn Jenner. I might not agree with every position she may take but I think she is doing good things for the community. 

Micki Finn

DIVA LAS VEGAS 2017

For the first time in a long time I decided to attend a crossdresser function and chose the Diva Las Vegas 2017 event this year. I have never been big on the idea of going out dressed in Las Vegas fearing rowdy and obnoxious drunks harassing me. Friends who have gone out there told me not to worry there is no problem dressing in Vegas. 

Nightlife

My friend Ashley knows the town well and got us a great rate at the beautiful Palazzo Hotel. I have stayed there before so I was worried that instead of drunks it would be stuffy people staring and pointing at us.  That was not the case at all with everyone being courteous and respectful. Even having a drink at the bar by myself was no problem. The restaurants treated us very well especially the staff at Aquanox and Del Monaco’s restaurants. I guess our hair was blonde but our money green.

The crowds on the street paid us no mind and the staff at Macy’s, Dillard’s, and Nordstrom’s were wonderful.

Shopping

The cosmetics  ladies at the MAC counter and others were great fun. It was rewarding to sit and watch beginners get their first makeover so intent learning. None of my fears came to fruition and I had a great time shopping and trying  on clothes.

We only signed up for the night time activities at Diva doing our own thing during the day which included shopping en fem and golf in DRAB. We take golf seriously so we don’t dress as ladies for that activity. To be honest we don’t act like them either.

Newcomers

Two of our sisters from CHIC also attended but, being their first crossdressing outing they went for the whole enchilada so we only saw them at night. It was fun watching them go full throttle experiencing everything that was going on.

The Event

The DVLV format takes some getting used to if you are accustomed to the typical conference/convention format. They have fixed schedules and all the activities are held in the convention area of a host hotel.

DLVG has no vendor area, seminars, speakers or vendors at the event. Some events have a cost but you only pay for those if you sign up for them. Instead there is shopping for whatever you want in town. The DVLG website gives you a list of places by category. They provide  guidance on what to expect from bars and stores.

Activities

The event is held at various locations all over Las Vegas and you can opt in or go on your own. There are three hotels participating from downtown to the strip with special DLVG rates.  Of course you can stay where ever you wish if you have a favorite hotel.

You choose which DLVG activities that are of interest and sign up for them online before the event starts. They have a group text that goes out to everyone that signed up for each event. You can have reminders sent to your phone for your activities an hour ahead of time.

There were crossdressers from New Zealand and Canada attending and I am sure other countries as well. I am not sure what the total number of attendees but it was over 100 for sure.

The organizers did a good job of taking care of the details and it was a fun time for everyone with no problems. From what I could see the public seemed to have no issues with the crossdressers and the hotels, bars, restaurants etc. were very accommodating to everyone.

The pictures from the event this year will be up shortly and you can see them and find out more about Diva Las Vegas here http://divalas.vegas/ You can sign up for their mailing list and find out about next year’s DVLV 2018.

MOBILE WIGS

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Crossdressers  going to Diva Las Vegas 2017 and taking a wig or wigs might find this interesting. It comes  from the late Jo Ann Roberts about 20 years ago. Shoe boxes help keep crossdresser wigs from getting squashed while packed in your suitcase. All you need is a plastic shoe box from any Home Depot type store that sells closet organizing stuff.

Packing

Wig Box

Mine measure 14 x 8 x 4 but if you wanted to put two or more wigs into one box you could increase the size but, I would not recommend that.

Remove a crossdresser wig from the head stand holding it from the hairline in one hand. Place your other hand inside the wig to support it.

Remove Wig

 

Place a  kitchen trash bag over it so that one of the bottom corners of the bag is directly over the top of the wig.

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Covered

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Set the bag on a table pulling your arm out carefully then curl the excess bag around itself gently letting the air out.You must deflate it so it  will fit in the shoe box.

Packed Wig

 

If done correctly when removed the wig will look just like it did when it was on the head stand. The box has sufficient room it it that the wig does not get crushed while traveling.

When you arrive at your destination remove the wig from the box and bag. Place it on a collapsible stand as pictured or another option is just to buy 1 quart sodas.

Yet another option is use wine bottles but then you have to hold the wig in one hand while drinking with the other. We blondes have trouble doing that many things at once. Especially in front of a mirror!

DIVA LAS VEGAS 2017

It has been dlv06smany years since I have been to any type of crossdressing event. Diva Las Vegas is different than those   rubber chicken dinners and endless recognition awards conventions. I have pondered Diva Las Vegas for some time because they say it is not like the conventions but rather a vacation. I have decided to  attend this year so I will know in about two weeks or April 1st.

It sounds like a lot of fun but will take some getting used to because it takes place all over town for a week. Diva management  has a texting system set up to keep everybody posted on events and changes. I like the idea that you can opt in or out of events leaving you time to do what you like. You can find out more at their website http://divalas.vegas/

Update

I attended the event and had fun although I did not participate in many events. My BFF Ashley and I chose to only participate in a few events and went out on the town on our own. We crossed paths with other attendees the whole week who seemed to be enjoying themselves. Opting for high end dinners, golf in DRAB and shopping in DRAG.

We chose to stay at the Palazzo hotel which is awesome as was the rate we got for suites. The hotel staff was awesome and the close proximity to the strip was very convenient. I could spend hours in the suites bathroom loving the mirrors especially.

TGIRL ROAD TRIP!

With Diva Las Vegas just 3 1/2 weeks away I thought traveling T girls might appreciate my recent wig case discovery.

The pictures below are of my wig on a 13 inch head to give you an idea of how much space there is inside the wig case. Use 18 inch head for long wigs and 13 or 15 for smaller heads. I purchased this size because I hate my old boxes that are only are only 12 inches tall. The hair gets smashed down when traveling and I have to puff up the top of the wig every time. Using a 13 or 15 inch head with the 21 inch wig box gives me plenty of room so the top stays looking great.

I also appreciate when checking into a hotel on one of my T Girl road trips not having bright pink boxes. These boxes look like regular luggage and don’t attract much attention.

Sometimes I ship my luggage ahead to the hotel and pack my wigs differently to save space. I put them in plastic boxes you can read about on another post of mine. That keeps them clean and untangled . When I arrive and unpack there are no Styrofoam heads so I use the closet hangers you can read about here. They hang in the closet out of the way and neatly styled.

I got mine from Amazon.com but you can also go to Dini direct at  http://diniwigs.com  . 

I ordered through Amazon but the boxes were shipped direct from Dini. 

The only drawback that I found with these wig cases is you have to keep them upright to avoid flattening. In a car that is easy but if you check them as luggage they might lay them down. If that happens the foam head can shift and the wig falls over. You can end up with one side of your wig flattened.

Wig Travel Box – 21 Inch – Purple/Black – With 15 Inch Styrofoam Head

(18″) and 15″ Head

Tall Wig Case
Dini 21 inch Wig Case

Continue reading TGIRL ROAD TRIP!

CROSSDRESSING 101 FOR THE BEGINNER

Crossdressing 101 is a new page on the Micki Finn website that should be of interest to new crossdressers. T Girls just venturing out or thinking about it will find it helpful. I could not remember any website pages over the years that addressed the beginning crossdresser.  Wannabe crossdressers with  absolutely no experience in dressing up not knowing where or how to start.

Remembering all of the trial and error mistakes I personally made  trying to figure it all out. The huge cost of those experiments along with the disappointment with the bad outcome.  The wigs that made me look like I had a poodle on my head in one case and a vampire in the next.  The dress that made me look like a parade float. I thought it would be a great help for beginners to avoid all of the fun and fast track their way to being beautiful.

WHY

Why is something that I am trying to explain in the Crossdressing 101 page. Thy why is more important than the how because properly applying the wrong foundation the correct way will produce bad results. Even if you followed the instructions perfectly you were doomed from the start. This is especially true with eye shadow where women and crossdressers put on a shade they see on someone else. The why in eyeshadow is to make your eyes more attractive sometimes dramatic. It should compliment your hair and skin tone. Blonde hair with blue eyes looks best with brown shades or shadow which highlight the eye color. Blue eyeshadow looks terrible on blondes or pretty much anybody. People see the blue eyelid and lose the eye all together. Jaclyn Hill is my favorite source when it comes to eye makeup.

CROSSSDRESSING 101 is aimed at the beginner but should be informative for everyone and possibly it be helpful t the old pro’s also.

I hope you enjoy it and let me know if I missed something.

MIcki Finn