I just returned from a multi generational family event with the oldest three generations. It was a fun and rewarding experience for a number of reasons which won’t interest you. I could not avoid thinking about my public legacy, it was in front of me. Afterward though I got to thinking about my private crossdresser legacy that none of my family is aware of. If all goes well they will never have to deal with it and only remember the public one.
Like my public legacy I want my crossdresser legacy to be about my accomplishments not appearance or wealth. I have nothing against being drop dead gorgeous or filthy rich its just that it didn’t happen! I started this website 8 years ago with the idea of helping other crossdressers along their way. I have learned a great deal from others over the last four decades that they passed along freely. Even some younger girls enriched my knowledge by solving some problems I encountered. I have incorporated their contributions in some of my posts to share the benefits with others.
YOUR CROSSDRESSER LEGACY
Each of us will leave a crossdresser legacy of some sort when the time comes that we assume room temperature. I believe each of us can contribute something to our fellow crossdressers before that time comes. You don’t have to write a blog or book, you need only help others. I doubt most crossdressers realize this but it can be as simple as attending a meeting. Chance encounters can have very rewarding outcomes for one or both people.
I am out in the mainstream public monthly with the goal of normalizing crossdressing. Hopefully by setting the best example I can. I don’t expect them to jump for joy. However, if I succeed in having a conversation with them, they know a lot more afterward. If they believe that we are harmless to them, it is a successful outcome. I consider it successful if they simply want to coexist in harmony. I know there are many others out there doing the same thing and you can too. I think it is a worthy goal, each of us if done right will make for a great crossdresser legacy.
I understand that many of you will never feel comfortable hanging out in mainstream places. Its not for everyone but you can contribute in other ways. The easiest is by supporting what others are already doing. A lot of volunteers go to great lengths to create places for you to go meet other crossdressers. If you support them by attending regularly they will be successful. Local clubs have dwindled over the years from lack of attendance. In the mid 1990’s there were 3 crossdressing conventions per month, most vanished from lack of attendance.
Your crossdresser legacy can be the support you give these events and those you help along the way. It can be a simple makeup tip or resource that is a great help to someone. In many cases just another crossdresser to talk with in person becomes a life changing experience.
Great article article Micki and very note worthy. My thing,as you know, is helping other girls get over the fear of going out in public and like what you’re doing I get to meet girls that I probably wouldn’t have met otherwise. It is indeed very rewarding just watching them go from being very apprehensive at the start to a confident women totally enjoying being out in public. The best part is seeing that smile on their faces. The icing on the cake is I usually end up with a very close friend for life.
Trish ❤️
Thanks, I put you in charge of Canada keep up the good work.
great picture of you Micki at the Bellagio!!!!, Brenda
Thanks Brenda
Micki
Well written, like me , I don’t think you have ever met a stranger, I didn’t realize your blog was already 8 years old , time does creep by , I think as we get older we learn from the many people we encounter at many different places we have gone out to , as well as such a large variety of people we have talked with , as I reflect back on time , I am happy to see the trail we have left , I hope that I have contributed to society in a positive way , it’s very rewarding when a stranger comes up and say hi I remember you from a Lecture you did when I was in College, or you talked with in a hotel lobby , or at a restaurant, I am thankful to call you my friend, I still enjoy the journey
Susie
Hi Susie,
I agree its been a great journey but it ain’t over yet! I look forward to more of our outings in the future. I still need to speak to a class someday to fill out the legacy.
Micki
Speaking to a class can be rewarding in several ways, , you never know what kind of questions you will get , early on , the second speaking engagement I attended was with Joann , it wasn’t just a class , it was at a large auditorium that had about 500 , Students Plus multiple Professors and School staff, with a few within the school system that it was part of , as you are well aware of Joann and the way she approached things , I think it was a test for me , to test me to see if I met her standards