CROSS DRESSING & MICKI FINN
Crossdressing has always been part of me from almost the beginning. Living my life as a mature heterosexual married cross dresser I thought about the many challenges and struggles I experienced over my lifetime. Launching a website to help other crossdressers benefit from those experiences seemed like a good idea. Over the years there was much trial, and error involved in learning how to better present as a woman.
Mickifinn.com is dedicated it to helping other less experienced crossdresser’s become the beautiful lady they want to be avoiding the costly errors along the way. I want them to look their best, feel their best, and gain the confidence to go out in public enjoying the experience. I am not talking about being a passable crossdresser though. That is in the eye of the beholder of which I have no control. You can read more of my thoughts on passing in my PASSING CROSSDRESSER page.
FEBRUARY 2020 UPDATE
When I first created this site there was nothing in it on crossdresser wives or crossdresser husbands. Now that it has been almost 3 years the site has been up, and I have seen great interest on those topics I decided to add information on them as well. I believe it is crossdresser wives that are using both terms seeking information on crossdressing. It is also possible that girlfriends of crossdressers are also seeking information before committing to marrying a crossdresser.
Based on some of the emails I receive quite a few women are not told of his crossdressing until after the marriage sometimes decades later. They are contemplating what to do next, go or stay? What will it be like being a crossdresser wife? I can’t answer that question but possibly give her an idea of what crossdressing is all about.
There are 3 posts published regarding the crossdresser wife or crossdresser wives.
CROSS DRESSER WIFE SUPPPORT AUGUST 2019
CROSSDRESSER WIVES IN SAN FRANCISCO OCTOBER 2018
CROSSDRESSER WIVES HAPPY VALENTINES DAY FEBRUARY 2018
In addition to the posts there is a page dedicated page CROSSDRESSER WIVES.
Because this whole site pretty much deals with crossdressing men many or whom are husbands I have not done any posts on crossdressing husbands. There is a dedicated page to CROSSDRESSING HUSBANDS.
I did not expect age to be an issue with crossdresser’s, but age does make a difference. Depending on when in life you started it has an influence on the crossdressers style of dress. This is not an absolute however especially for fetish crossdresser’s. The majority of MATURE CROSSDRESSERS I have encountered over the years dress pretty much their age appropriate plus or minus a decade. There are exceptions for those who look younger because of FACE TAPING or plastic surgery.
There are two posts on mature crossdressing MATURE CROSSDRESSER’S and MATURE CROSSDRESSER’S MAKEUP MIRRORS.
Other posts such on FACE TAPING or makeup also apply in that I wrote them based on my experiences and techniques as a senior crossdresser.
CROSS DRESSER LABELS
The term cross dresser is my preference because it simply implies that you have crossed over dressing in the other genders clothing. It does not preclude crossing back to your original gender. I am a heterosexual cross dresser comfortable in my body and have no desire to change my sex. Transvestite is a more clinical term and takes you down the psychology road, which is boring, so I won’t go there. The most popular term these days is sort of an umbrella term Transgender. I am not fond of it because for the last twenty years I keep hearing different definitions. Trans or Transiting implies a destination which is typically associated with the desire to change sex.
Finding then joining a crossdresser group was a turning point in my journey as a heterosexual crossdesser. It has been a rewarding experience being a member of CHIC a Long Beach California crossdressing club. CHIC is an abbreviation for Crossdressers Heterosexual Intersocial Club founded in 1975. I have been a member for almost 30 of their 45 years of being a successful social outlet for crossdressers and their wives. Sadly when I chose to join CHIC there were about 6 other crossdresser clubs in Southern California but only 2 survive today. There were also nightclubs or bars in most big cities where you could always find crossdresser’s gathering on weekends but most of them have disappeared also. There are many advantages to joining a social club such as help with makeup, wigs, clothing, hip and breast padding etc. In addition there is help with going out in public whether it is the first time at all or just to a mainstream dinner establishment. In CHIC’s case it is also a safe place to bring your wife because of their screening process in addition to the high attendance of other wives. It is also comforting for both member wives and those applying to know that they will not be shocked by what they see at a meeting. This is because meetings rules require dressy and classy not trashy and members adhere to those rules without exception. Most of the membership qualifies as mature crossdressers so trashy dressing gives way to classy more conservative styles.
Recently I became aware of the TEA Awards or Transgender Erotica Awards. It is basically a porn award show. I don’t wish to have part of their label attached to me which is another reason for rejecting the Transgender label.
In the interest of keeping things simple any male who wants to dress like a woman is my goal. Drag Queen, Transsexual, Transgender, Crossdresser, or Transvestite. Males wearing makeup and women’s clothing are my target audience regardless of sexual preference. Hopefully you find my site both educational, interesting and entertaining.
You won’t find anything sexual about this site and there are no nude pictures or anything regarding dating. The above stated goal is the focus of this site.
Because it is my goal to keep this site positive you will not find any political commentary from myself or anyone else here. Hopefully everyone can focus on looking beautiful and leave the rest behind.
You will find techniques of interest to cross dresser’s that I have learned from others in addition to discoveries made on my own. None of the techniques you will find on this site are to be construed as a recommendation in any way shape or form. It is what I do myself and it is up to you to decide if it works for you. Staring with CROSSDRESSING 101 FOR THE BEGINNER where you can find what you need to get started. It is intended to provide information on how to get started crossdressing bit those already dressing might benefit from it also. From there you can explore more on the site depending on your level of experience.
Cross dressing is an art and a lot more than standing in front of a mirror in a dress. This page GETTING DRESSED and the ones attached will give you information on cross dressing. From building a feminine silhouette complete with sexy curves to ideas on what to wear. It will take you in the direction of passing as a woman in public if that is your goal. Whether you pull that off will depend on many factors some in your control and some not. The PASSING CROSSDRESSER page will give you my thoughts on passing.
CROSS DRESSER MAKEUP
Cross dresser makeup advice is the most sought after information I have experienced over the years. Makeup techniques for crossdressers differ from genetic women because the male face typically has masculine features. Things like square jaws and beard shadow need to be disguised to make them appear more feminine. Contouring is a great way to hide male features by using darker foundation colors to create the illusion of shadows. They create an illusion with the shape and size of the face. In the makeup pages you will see a lot of information along with some links to professional artists that I have learned from.
CROSS DRESSER PADDING
There is more to looking like a woman than makeup though and there are pages that deal with the feminine form. They describe padding that give the cross dresser the curves needed to look feminine. In order to look your best you need the proper female proportions. There are guidelines to discover what that is in the FEMININE SHAPE FOR CROSS DRESSERS section. Once you have determined your dress size you will know what padding to buy to accomplish it. This is a very important decision because it is probably the single most expensive investment for crossdressers. If you get the padding correct you will possibly be able to purchase womens clothes off the rack. That will avoid having to have a seamstress alter your clothes. If you can find a good one they are expensive adding to the cost of your clothes.
My hope is that you find this information helpful and that you achieve great results that you are happy with. That way you can get cross dressed and confidently go out and have fun. It took me decades to figure out what was not shared with me about cross dressing. I can easily say I spent thousands of dollars invested in the wrong stuff. I wish I had someone who could have told me I look fat! O.K. maybe not fat but my shoulders give me away in that top. It is my gift to you in the hope that it helps you look more feminine. Please share the information or the website address with others to help them along their feminine journey.
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