CROSSDRESSER TOLERANCE

It seems like there isn’t a day that goes by without a news story about transgender people. There are pro and con results from them shaping public opinion in the process. Crossdresser tolerance is being impacted by all of them even though we are not specially mentioned. Like it or not we are locked under the umbrella term transgender. By crossdresser tolerance I am referring to the way I and others have been treated over the years by the general public. In my case the treatment has gone from fairly good decades ago to great today. I know I am not alone with this experience as others regularly document their outings on the internet as well. I can only refer to crossdresser tolerance because my experiences are different from others under the umbrella.

My subscribers know from reading this blog that 100% of my time out crossdressed is done in the mainstream environment among the civilians. I don’t think I have been to a DRAG show in 20 years or a bar, restaurant or anything associated with the Trans world. I can count my mainstream negative encounters on one hand and they are all years ago. I attribute my success to choosing the right place where the type of people I encounter is predictable. The people I sit across from at say a Morton’s Steakhouse as opposed to the Biker bar are vastly different.

The odds of crossdresser tolerance are far better at Morton’s because the customers are less likely to cause a ruckus regardless of their opinion of crossdressers. They are more likely to observe, form an opinion good or bad and move on with their meal. I am convinced based on my own observations that their opinions are subject to change based on how others are reacting to me.

A couple of years ago my BFF Ashley and I were meeting for dinner in Las Vegas at Del Monaco Steakhouse. I made the reservation and she was running a little late so I went ahead and picked up the reservation. The hostess was seating people and there wasn’t anyone at her station when I arrived so I waited. There was a big event at the convention center at the Venetian and lots of well dressed people were arriving behind me. Years ago I would have been very nervous in that situation but now I am confident and at ease. When a group of people came up behind me I glanced behind me and exchanged smiles with them except one woman on my right. She was just looking at me expressionless. I hoped she was checking me out like women do looking at my outfit. She was very attractive in a dress and heels.

When the hostess returned and ask if I had a reservation I replied yes, Micki Finn party of two for 7:00PM. She acknowledged and said welcome back miss Finn are you both here? I looked back over my shoulder to see if Ashley was there yet glancing at the woman as I did. Her eyes were so big you couldn’t cover them with a dinner plate and we locked eyes for a second. Seeing Ashley I turned back and told the hostess she was. The hostess then told us to follow her to MY table and I glanced again briefly at the woman as I walked past. I was careful to just glance past her as not to make her feel uncomfortable which would lead to a negative feeling for her. Just long enough to get a read on her attitude. Hearing my deep male voice might have been a shock for her even though she knew I was not a real woman. I know what they talked about at their table that night.

Once the hostess seated us at a booth as I requested others had watched us walk in and be seated also forming their impressions. I always enjoy what happens next as the servers come over welcoming us enthusiastically with correct pronouns. Their acceptance of us tends to change the attitude of those watching when I look around the room. If they were thinking it was a big deal that two crossdresser’s just walked into the room they now know its only to them.

I am happy with the level of crossdresser tolerance I enjoy and know that the crossdresser acceptance I desire is my responsibility to achieve one person at a time. To that end I believe that what ever success I accomplish is based on my not attempting to deceive people. By using my male voice and looking people in he eyes when I speak to them with confidence they know what they are dealing with. That does not create the crossdresser acceptance but the honest sincere conversation we have usually does. Once people realize it isn’t contagious and they are not required to understand it because nobody does its disarming. That is when the conversation moves into what we have in common like wife, kids, travel, golf, boating, fishing, diving, or any other activity other than religion or politics.

The crossdresser acceptance comes when they end up thinking Micki is a nice person and kind of interesting that has some things in common with me. I am aware that everywhere I go dressed as Micki I represent all of us like it or not and do my best to make the best possible impression on the public.