Hearing politicians being addressed as the honorable this or that got me to thinking. With all the lies I hear coming from both sides do they deserve that title? Its a non partisan issue so I’m not getting political here and I do have a point to make. Most every crossdresser I have met over the years is what I would describe as an honorable crossdresser and deserving of that title.
I am not referring to the act of crossdressing itself but rather the crossdressers themselves. Depending how long you have been at it and what ever your journey is you went through a point of self loathing and shame we all heap on ourselves. No matter what our lifetime accomplishments are and how we lead our lives its still with us. It is a cage of our own creation that we willingly put ourselves in based on our perception of what society thinks of us.
For the most part I feel that I have always conducted myself honorably and my crossdressing activities are part of that conduct. I consider myself an honorable crossdresser especially being honest with those I encounter while crossdressed with no deceptions. I am always honest and forthright with the people I meet making it obvious from the beginning who I am, an honorable crossdresser.
Based on my experiences my guess is that many of my readers lead an honorable life too so the term should apply to them also. Typically your crossdressing hurts no one even though it might not be popular with those around you provided they know. It is difficult for them to understand as it is for us at times but your not taking food out of anyone’s mouth just taking some time to let the genie out of the bottle for a while.
UNDERSTANDING HONORABLE CROSSDRESSER’S
It is hard for wives to understand when the man they married is so typical of most men hard working, successful, kind, generous, loving, a good husband and parent to their children is a crossdresser. There is just that one little thing he does but if he is an honorable man he is an honorable crossdresser too. It’s helpful I think if people look at it the way I do which is I am never going to understand everything that goes on in the world so its pointless to try. Instead I try to respect peoples choices without judgment which frees me to pursue what is important to me. Like seeing someone in an art gallery tilting their head from side to side looking at the woman’s portrait trying to appreciate the artists work. I walk by glance at the picture and think to myself shes ugly why did he paint her, but you can’t take me anywhere!
If people just respect our decision to present as a woman when out in public without an agenda that involves them the world will be a better place for us. When I encounter someone while dressed in public the first few minutes set the course from there on. Using my regular voice causes them to evaluate me more closely and because there is no deception we can proceed with a normal conversation. Odd as it may seem it has been years since anybody asked me why I crossdress. Mostly its about the restaurant, the food or something going on around us. That said its on us to present in a tasteful classy manor showing a positive image of crossdressing to gain what ever acceptance possible to be considered an honorable crossdresser. The first step is to give yourself a break and stop beating yourself up over something that you will never understand or control. Accept that fact and move on with a plan to take care of your needs and lead a better more stress free life.
If you are an honorable man be an honorable crossdresser also and hold your head high with a positive attitude. Once you can put the shame behind you your confidence will follow and freedom is out there. When you walk into a room like you belong there because you do!
You can find some more though provoking information on Kandi’s post earlier today on another topic near and dear to me.
Micki
Very well written, it has a lot of meaning to and for a lot of people, I would also consider it to be thought provoking, keep up the good work
Susie
Thanks Susie I hope people think about it.
All I can say is “what an excellent post Girl, very well said”. Although I prefer to be taken as a woman I’m not so vain as to be hurt should someone use the wrong pronoun. I, in 56 years of crossdressing, have never had anyone send any of colour comments my way. As you say Micki, I just want to present the best image of a woman that I can and hopefully leave a good image of a cross dresser with those who I come in contact with along my journey.
Trish ❤️
Micki dear,
You are a crossdresser of the highest honour and a noble ambassador to us all. I hold the belief that we are our own best advocates and should always conduct ourselves with the knowledge that others will judge us all by our demeanor.
Though I do use a femme voice while dressed, were I ever to be asked or questioned I would respond that I am a trans girl. I too am not out to deceive, and would just use the term I think best describes me. Most of my interactions with the world have been right positive, and I think a lot of that has to do with how I conduct myself and treat others.
Keep being you Micki: the classy lady we all admire!
Best wishes!
Norah
all the above good but I ponder one thing which is related:
Anita Bryant just passed. She was the leading person in the anti-homosexual movement. But now it appears that society,the politicians,the clergy have given homosexuals a pass which is a good thing. But now anything trans related is a dumping ground. No pass for us??