The more adventures I log the easier they seem to come together and solitary crossdressing has some advantages that I really enjoy. After spending Friday night at the Craft Steakhouse and the comedy club Saturday night I went to familiar venue. The Bistecca Steakhouse at the Tuscany Suites hotel has become a must for me over the last year or so. The food is great and I am made to feel welcome each and every time I go there so solitary crossdressing is very comfortable. Kelli Perry and her TG Rocktober folks paved the way for me by having their event there each October so it is very crossdresser friendly.
SOLITARY CROSSDRESSING ADVANTAGES
I don’t want to give the impression of loneliness when I use the phrase solitary crossdressing because that is not the case at all and it can in fact be liberating. I am approached by people far more often when I am out alone as opposed to with another person or group. The overwhelming majority of encounters that I have had with the public are with middle aged women out by themselves. In many cases they are working a convention or show so their evenings can be boring. I think because I dress so much fancier than anyone else and use my male voice it might make them curious. They are the ones that initiate the conversation usually with a very safe vanilla question like do I know where there is a CVS Pharmacy nearby? All she needed to do was look on her phone map for the answer but it gets the conversation going.
I really enjoy these conversations because they deal with a wide range of topics and most of the discussion is not personal. There are the typical crossdressing questions that deal with marriage, kids, work, and do I live full time but once we finish that its on to the interesting stuff. I always work the fact that I am married early on into the conversation so everyone is on the same page. Religion and politics have never come up and I would change the subject if it did because it could ruin the conversation.
One easy topic especially when in Las Vegas is traveling because most everyone you meet in the strip area got there that way. Its something in common right away and a safe topic . Most people like to travel and I have been lucky enough over the years to do quite a bit of it to fun places so I can contribute.
Solitary crossdressing has some pretty good advantages at least for me.
I agree, and you have made me a convert. I find some of the most enjoyable times I have is when I am out solo. In fact, I have begun just getting in “Paulette mode” and going out shopping, with lunch at Panera being the highlight of my afternnon out.
Hi Paulette,
I know that you have never met a stranger either so its probably much easier for us to venture out but rewarding just the same. I look forward to each new adventure and what it brings.
same experience with middle aged women. wonder why they are so motivated
Hi Emily,
I suppose there are many different reasons why but in my case I think they are in town doing trade shows and are bored so go out and people watch. I stand out because of the way I dress along with my voice which pique’s there interest. I suppose they might never have had any contact with any trans oriented person and are curious.
Micki
Life is an adventure to be enjoyed , as you know I have been going out solo for many years , as you say the conversations are interesting especially with the middle aged women, as of lately I have ran into several ladies our age that have been fascinating to converse with , I was at Nordstrom Rack the other day and ran into a much younger CD’r , she went into shock when I said hi , then her wife came up and we had a nice chat , then ended up having lunch together, I think once she got over the shock and realized she could probably survive it was ok ,
Hug’s Susie
Good work Susie! I envy your encounter with the young couple I hope it helped them.
Micki
Most of my outings are solo and I am often pleasantly surprised by unexpected conversations. Usually it begins with a compliment, like, “I love your hair” or “ that’s a cute top” and goes on from there. It’s rare for my cross dressing or gender identification to even come up.
Hi Kim,
I get that also it varies depending on the individual.