TRIBAL CROSSDRESSING

I have found that mature crossdresser’s tend to enjoy the benefits of belonging to a crossdresser club. I have also found that clubs are not as plentiful as they once were. There are several reasons for this one of which is the grim reaper picking off members as we get older. Another is younger folks don’t socialize that way. Therefore the influx of new members isn’t sufficient to maintain the clubs roster. Instead of standing by watching local clubs vanish some are exploring more of a regional approach. Joint outings or meetings are being done to connect like minded crossdressser’s. It’s not a new approach as I can remember one that my club CHIC did in the early 1990’s. It was with a now defunct Orange County club nearby. That is the only time in 30 plus years that it happened which was unfortunate.

My guess is that tribal crossdressing is to blame possibly on several levels. Losing members to the other club resulting in the demise of one club is probably the biggest. Another is losing control of your club. Fast forward to 2025 and they are losing members anyway so that fear is off the table. Joint meetings make more sense now and provide a benefit most don’t think about which is expanded contacts. Instead of attending your first crossdressing event not knowing anyone and stumbling around by yourself contacts can be very helpful. Because you have attended a joint meeting you might find someone you already know is going.

I am personally involved in a joint meeting taking place next week which kind of came about in reverse. The individuals first met at the DIVA Las Vegas event in 2023. That is where I met my friend Paulette and we coordinated the Ruth’s Chris dinner on Wednesday night together.

It’s also where I met what I called Paulette’s Posse now known as the Desert Flowers club from Phoenix Arizona.

After DIVA Paulette and I kept in touch and got the idea for La Bella 2024. An invitation only formal dinner event for crossdressers. La Bella was a great success mainly because of participation by three clubs and their members. The majority came from the Rose City “T” Girls, Portland Oregon, Desert Flowers from Phoenix, and CHIC, Long Beach. The Vanity Club International was also represented with two members attending. I received a lot of positive comments on the quality of the people that attended.

As a result of the La Bella 2024 interaction between club members I am attending a joint meeting next week. The Rose City “T” Girls are hosting a joint weekend with members of CHIC in Portland Oregon. I had nothing to do the project which was a result of other peoples conversations. Crossdressers met other crossdressers they had something in common with and decided to meet again. The blending of members resulted in a conversation and what looks to be a fun event.

While the initial contact between Paulette and I started at DIVA, Portland is a club event. The majority of club members met at private event La Bella 2024 but are going beyond that. The nice thing is that everyone who attends the Portland event will have a new friend. The the next national event they attend or think of attending might not be a lonely one.

I’m not aware of the guest list for next weekend but, two members of the Vanity Club International are attending. Myself (VC 632) and Susan Miller (VC 571) are also members of CHIC and Rose City respectively. I think there will be more joint events going forward. Especially if clubs somehow let crossdresser’s attending conventions like Keystone know they will be there. I know when attendees are aware people they know will be attending its more fun for them.