Every crossdresser I believe has a genie in a bottle although they may not recognize it at first. Some who like it or not are classified under the Trans Umbrella believe there is a woman trapped inside them. I am not in a position to dispute that but know it is not the case for me and I suspect many other heterosexual crossdressers. I do have a crossdresser genie in there though and she gets her way eventually every time.
Over the years I came to realize that purging does not work, it doesn’t go away, and life is much more stress free if I just manage my crossdressing. That means controlling exactly when my crossdresser genie comes out. For me it is a desire to express my feminine side which in my case is ultra glam on the highest level I can achieve. My crossdressing genie dresses me very well I think and look forward to each adventure.
I am very fortunate that my wife is on board with my crossdressing and regularly consults on the outfits that I choose along with some of the events that I have put on over the years. I especially rely on her input when it comes to entree’s for dinners, appetizers, deserts etc. I think it was she who first coined the phrase crossdresser genie for my dressing because she noticed my mood changes during the month. She recognized that I was more critical and negative about things when it has been a long while between my crossdresser outings.
She brought that to my attention saying I needed to let the genie out of the bottle and plan a crossdressing outing soon. From that time on planning for my crossdressing opportunities became a priority and we collaborate on ways to accomplish it integrating it into our schedule. I am the one who keeps our schedule so she gets with me before agreeing to invites from friends and relatives. Because I schedule to let my crossdresser genie out well in advance I can accommodate changes that my wife requests from time to time. She is happier and genie and I are ecstatic.
The crossdresser genie plan that works for me might be different than what would work for others. The important thing in my view is that you address the need to let her out. For me it is calming to know when I will be able to indulge my need to feminine side. It is frustrating when you leave it to chance then things keep getting put in front of it. If your wife is supportive or even if you have a DADT arrangement with her possibly she will appreciate your attitude change for the better.
