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CROSSDRESSER PHOTO’S

CROSSDRESSER PHOTO’S

Crossdresser photo’s are very popular with some crossdresser’s and avoided by others. I was one who resisted them until I launched my blog which pretty much requires them to get any interest. Because of my lack of enthusiasm for pictures I never developed good skills in taking them shooting many to yield a few good ones. One big problem with my crossdresser photo’s attempts was lighting and focus especially with my iPhone. Most pictures came out grainy at night unless I used the flash indoors. I was told that the iPhone had a feature that automatically makes decisions on lighting. I bought a small camera to haul around with me which was better but a hassle to carry around just for a few crossdresser photo’s.

By chance I received an e-mail announcing the iPhone 13 with 3 versions to choose from. The iPhone 13 pro grabbed my attention because of the new camera that:

Reveals more detail in dark areas.

Captures 47% more light.

Optical image stabilization for better photo’s.

crossdresser photo's

I took the bait and ordered the 13 pro hoping for better crossdresser photo’s. The picture below was taken with flash indoors in elevator lobby of my hotel.

crossdresser photo's

I’m standing in front of a mirror that takes up the entire wall with two recessed lights above. I have done this before but discarded the crossdresser photo’s because of poor lighting and grainy detail. Every picture I took with the iPhone 13 Plus came out just like this one clear and sharp.

I’m still playing with the phone discovering other cool stuff but what was immediately noticeable was the battery life. It’s incredible much, much, better than my previous model iPhone. The only downside at this point is my Amazon Music does not work in the car until Apple fixes the bug in the operating system.

I’m looking forward to taking crossdresser photo’s at DIVA Las Vegas the end of this month.

 

Enjoy!

 

 

CROSSDRESSER ACCESSORIES

CROSSDRESSER ACCESSORIES

Crossdresser accessories are where the fun begins for me because I like to experiment. I like to think of my dressing style as classic but I am also trying new things to see how I like the look. Eyelashes are great crossdresser accessories for putting some glam in your style for the night and my latest discovery I am in love with. I bought my first pack of magnetic eyelashes as an experiment about 9 moths ago. I had used the Ardell glue on lashes for decades but never mastered the technique for putting them on. So I tried some magnetic ones and liked them right away. I did not care for the assortment though because half of them are too radical for my conservative style. About 6 months ago I discovered a 7 set package for around $10.00 on Amazon and a company called GXO BEAUTY. These were great for day to evening crossdresser accessories and thankfully I bought more before they ran out of stock. I don’t know if they will ever be back so I went on the hunt again.

CROSSDRESSER ACCESSORIES FALSE EYELASHES

crossdresser accessories

Not one to wait and see I went back to Amazon searching for a replacement with all one style instead of the assortment. It wasn’t long before I found something even better although a little more expensive with 2 fewer pairs. They are a different crossdresser accessory more on the glamorous side and they look so pretty on. I especially like the way they taper from the inside getting longer as the go to the outside of the eye. The Arishine magnetic lashes

crossdresser accessories

CROSSDRESSER ACCESSORIES JEWELRY

Jewelry accessories are a mainstay of every woman’s closet and are used to define her look for the day. Finding jewelry off the rack for crossdresser accessories can be a challenge. It can be done though with a little work and an imagination. Pictured below are two necklaces I bought on sale along with some needle nose pliers and lobster clasps. My intention was to make a larger necklace to fit me along with a bracelet and some earrings. It takes two of each style necklace in order to have enough links to make all three items.

crossdresser jewelry

I always end up making changes along the way like with the blue and gold set below. I decided to dump the bracelet idea with this project because the links are not very strong. This is sometimes an issue when converting necklaces because they are designed to be worn around the neck. Weight is a concern so they are sometimes made light to be more comfortable. There isn’t much chance they will snag on something and break. This necklace was designed to look heavy but the backs are hollowed out to make them lighter. Odds are I would be lucky to get a couple of wearings out of it before noticing it fell off somewhere.

crossdresser jewelry

I had better luck with the silver necklace below which was heavier material so I could make all three items. The bad news is that the earrings are too heavy and I will look like Dumbo by the end of the night.

crossdresser jewelrey

I have not made up my mind yet what to do with this set which I am probably not going to wear. Possibly I will just toss it into my jewelry making box and incorporate the links into a future project. I never stop looking for closeout sales on jewelry and can pick some of it up for about $10.00 per necklace. I buy the earring hooks and lobster caws at Michael’s craft store in person or on Amazon online.

 

Enjoy,

 

 

 

 

 

CROSSDRESSING FUN WITH FRIENDS

CROSSDRESSING FUN WITH FRIENDS

Crossdressing fun with friends is the best especially when they are your fellow CHIC club members. Our latest crossdressing adventure was in Long Beach again at one of our favorite restaurants. Tonya, one of our members is always conjuring up fun stuff for us to do like her Santa Baby event last month. Saturday night this month it was Elvis for a night if singing, dancing and lots of laughing.

CROSSDRESSING FUN WITH FRIENDS & ELVIS

Tonya had confided in me that she was wanting to have some crossdressing fun with friends again. Tonya wanted it to be a surprise so I said nothing. After dinner around nine Elvis walks through the door and the wheels came off. Most of us were somewhat reserved at first being ladies and all. But in a short while we were all singing with Elvis.

To some crossdressing fun with friends includes dancing which about half our group did. Not me, I have not danced since seeing Elaine dance on Seinfeld years ago and recognized my moves. After about an hour Elvis left and one of the members inspired by the singing moved over to the piano. It was a Baby Grand in the corner and she treated us to some fabulous classical music. Crossdressing fun with friends comes in many forms singing, dancing and just hanging out.

The show went on when our bartender took a turn at the piano treating us to some of his favorite songs. How neat to be entertained by such talented people which makes me wonder what happened with me?

For myself and a few others CHIC meetings are actually CHIC weekends as some travel from out of town. Others just want more crossdressing fun with friends so they also make a weekend of it. We stay at hotels and go out both Friday and Saturday nights. Sometimes the Friday night group is as large as the Saturday night group.

 

FRIDAY CROSSDRESSING DINNERS

We have some favorite places for our Friday night crossdressing fun with friends and we go often enough that we are becoming part of the

ambiance. One of our favorites has a back room we call the clubhouse or lounge and we go there several times each year.

crossdresser fun with friends

The picture above was taken Friday night at the lounge and I think I look pretty relaxed in it.

Years ago we only went to mostly Gay restaurants or private back rooms when home parties became scarce so back rooms are not foreign to us. Now days we have the option to dine with the other customers but sometimes choose the private room for a more intimate dinner. The atmosphere is more relaxed and the conversation better without the loud voices from the bar.

We always have a small group of us that is not ready to go home so we go mingle at the bar with the other folks. That way they get to have some crossdresser fun with friends too its just that we are better dressed. I think we are also having more fun then they are.

crossdresser fun with friends

The above picture is very relaxed also like after multiple Cosmos ingested but I like it because it reflects my mood at midnight.

I call it “Take the F*#&king picture already”!

Its time to call it a night.

 

Enjoy!

 

MATURE CROSSDRESSERS FACE TAPING

MATURE CROSSDRESSERS FACE TAPING

MATURE CROSSDRESSERS FACE TAPING

 

Mature crossdressers face taping is a great way to get rid of the dreaded TURKEY NECK. I did a post last October called CROSSDRESSER FACE TAPE where I talked about a face tape technique.

 

mature crossdressing face taping

I used the Secret Lift Pro system for over a year and it worked most of the time but the rubber band broke occasionally on the top one placed on my temples over my head. I had less success with the one placed on the back of the neck. It came loose a lot when I turned my head. Every time they failed my Turkey Neck cam back instantly so I needed something more reliable for nights out.

 

 

I started searching on the internet and found a much better mature crossdressing face taping solution on Amazon. I tried this last weekend in Long Beach and it worked great. The straps below are designed for COVID 19 face masks but work perfect for lifting the face skin. They cost $10.99 for the 45 piece assortment and will probably be a 50 year supply in that they appear very sturdy.

CROSSDRESSER FACE TAPING PROCESS

 

mature crossdressing face tapingThe first night I selected the strap on the far left. I opened the adjuster to the maximum length then cleaned the temple area right under my sideburns with alcohol. Then I coated the area with New Skin liquid bandage letting it dry.

 

Next I cut a strip of 3M medical tape long enough to cover the temple area I prepared plus 1 inch extra. I placed the tape on my temple area letting the extra curl back away from my head. Taking the strap by the end I attached it to the tape on my temple. Then I ran the strap over the top of my head and attached the other temple the same way. Just like wearing headphones.

It worked great all night with the strap staying in place but stretching when I spoke or chewed dinner. One problem with just taping your face is that it typically does not stretch. If it pulls your skin too tight it can blister. Its fun trying to explain the blister in such a strange place to friends and family.

UPDATE APRIL 2021

I later found that the tape on the ends was hard to remove when the sticky glue built up on it. I went back to the drawing board for a

mature crossdressing face taping solution and found it at Home Depot. I bought a small sheet of acrylic plastic so I could cut it into small squares and glue them to the existing ends of the straps.

I cut the sheet into roughly 1 inch squares then sanded all the edges to remove sharpness. I glued them with clear Liquid Nails onto the flat side of the straps. The upper strap on the right shows the adjustment buckle facing upward which is the side that you glue to. That way the strap lays flat against your head and the strap pulls smoothly. The taping process is the same I just added the plastic tabs for better holding power.

 

8 in. x 10 in. x 0.050 in. Clear Non-Glare Acrylic Sheet by OPTIX

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The strap stays in place all night and you clean it with alcohol before you use it again. The plastic tabs offer a larger holding area for the tape so they stay put all day or night.

 

No More Turkey Neck!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

CROSSDRESSING FUN

CROSSDRESSING FUN

Crossdressing fun can happen in many ways depending on your definition of fun. One of mine is getting together with my CHIC sisters and their wives every month for a night out. It is always a great time and this last February’s meeting was one of the best. February meeting was a challenge because of the COVID shutdowns in California. State restrictions made it very hard to find a place to go out as a group. It was my responsibility as the 2021 president of CHIC to make sure the meetings happened. I planned the meeting myself and was able to find a place at a hotel with an outside patio. It had plenty of heaters and 2 fire pits. Its not the kind of place we normally have our crossdressing fun but you take what you can get! I had another CHIC member make a reservation for 6 people at 7:30 PM. My thinking was that would have us finishing dinner around 9:00 PM and they would not rush us out afterward. Very few people eat that late as a rule so it would be to their advantage to let us stay.

The host manager was in shock when we showed up and was a little on the cranky side because we ended up with 13 instead of 12 but we worked it out. I was concerned the night was going to be a real dud because the menu was limited to sandwiches and salads. They sat us a two tables about 30 feet apart so were walked back and forth visiting and so far it was going OK.

CROSSDRESSING FUN

THEN!

After dinner Tonya peeled off her full length coat and Santa Baby appeared then everything changed.

 

crossdressing fun
Santa Baby

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

CROSSDRESSING FUN IN PUBLIC

 

CHIC had to cancel its Christmas party this year like everyone else and Tonya had secretly planned to give everyone fun gifts at the party. Not to be deterred the gifts were delayed but Tonya as Santa Baby delivered them in February. It was a hoot and all of the other patrons were loving the whole concept with Tonya as the star.

Crossdressing fun

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My pink practice golf balls Tonya gave me will be put to good use and might slow my swing down.

crossdressing fun

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I am not sure what Wanda, (pictured with Tonya) got but all the gifts were poking a little fun at the recipient. Raquel usually shows up late to meetings so she got a clock. All the numbers in a pile at the bottom and across the top it said “What difference does it make I’m always late anyway”

The great news was that they did not kick us out after dinner. Partly I think because the other patrons came over and joined our party. They loved the Christmas in February. They had tons of questions about who we are and what we were up to.

I think the restaurant made more money along with the server tips that night than they have since before COVID struck.

 

CROSSDRESSING FUN UPDATE

 

I was a little worried that the CHIC members who made the reservations would not be welcomed back because we took over the place that night. This month I found out when I met CHIC sister Erica at the patio for a drink before Tonya picked us up for the Friday night outing. When we approached the previously cranky manager he greeted us with a smile and said “welcome back ladies”. When our server showed up he was all smiles and asked if I wanted another Cosmo?

It might have made a good impression the night of the party when I asked the manager for some trash bags. I told him I wanted to collect all of our trash extra trash from the gift wrapping. We collected all of it so the staff only had to worry about plates and glasses.

Sometimes its the little stuff that makes a difference.

 

Have Fun!

 

 

 

 

 

CROSSDRESSING IN PUBLIC

CROSSDRESSING IN PUBLIC

OUT & ABOUT CROSSDRESSED

 

Crossdressing in public is much more common now than years ago when I started and my comfort level has increased significantly. In the old days sunglasses were a must and you always hurried everywhere thinking it was harder to hit a moving target. You spoke in whispered tones if you spoke at all trying to avoid attention. Fast forward to 2021 and crossdressing in public is a whole different world. My girlfriends and their wives from CHIC pretty much go everywhere we want in Long Beach from burger joints to high end venues with no issues. Its been a long road but I am making up for lost time now adding daytime shopping to my crossdressing weekends.

 

CROSSDRESSED IN PUBLIC WITH THE PUBLIC!

I was in Long Beach for the March CHIC meeting and went out to shop and visit my seamstress passing on the pedicure this trip. Once again shopping was a total bust and I came away empty handed but the seamstress visit was another story. During the COVID shutdown I never stopped shopping just because I could not go out. What resulted was a large cache of stuff needing alterations so that was my mission this trip. I wore faded jeans and a leather jacket along with 2 inch heel thongs in addition to a brown wig so I would not stand out. Crossdressing in public during the day is much different than the evening because the light is more telling and you encounter more people.

My seamstress greeted me as I walked in with 5 skirts and a jacket walking immediately into the dressing room about 10 feet inside her shop. I changed into a jacket and one of the skirts and came back out for the fitting. I then repeated the process with the other skirts leaving the jacket on until finished with all the skirts. Between skirts 4 and 5 while in the dressing room I heard some guys enter the store with one doing all the talking. He was very jovial and joked with the others along with the seamstress, trying to coax her into sewing a patch on his vest while he waited. She told him she was too busy right now to which I silently said YEAH! then he said I’ll give you an extra $20.00. Things got quiet after that and I assumed they left so I came out of the dressing room wearing the orange skirt with the black top and tan heels. That’s when I met the guys from the motorcycle club/gang standing in front of me smiling and looking back. I did not know if it was an Oh Boy! we’re going to kill you smile or they needed glasses. The loud one said hello and I responded with my softest hello without sounding obvious. As I looked over at the seamstress yep! she was sewing the patch on for him and I was relieved once I saw the vest. It was like the ones Hell’s Angels wear but the rocker on the top said something different meaning they might not be killers. I turned to face the mirror as she handed the vest to him and our eyes met, he told me that I looked beautiful in that dress. I thanked him with as neutral a voice as I could muster. NO I DID NOT TELL HIM IT WAS A SKIRT AND JACKET NOT A DRESS! We were on good terms so far and I did not want that to change. I gave them time to leave the area then got in my car and left myself.

 

CROSSDRESSED IN PUBLIC LESSONS!

 

So what did I learn from my encounter? Don’t be afraid just because you run into a motorcycle gang when you are dressed like a women. They might not see or hear well enough to figure out you are a guy dressed as a woman like these guys were.

 

CROSSDRESSED IN PUBLIC FOR DINNER

crossdressed in public

Six of my CHIC friends and I met for dinner Friday night at one of our favorite restaurants. I really needed my Cosmo or more accurately Cosmo’s after my seamstress / biker adventure. My wife tells me I wear too much black so I decided to ditch it that night and opted for a navy jacket with a new navy multi skirt .

The wig in the picture is new also and I love it. Similar to my others but much more hair and a bit longer. It looks white in the picture because of the flash but it is actually a frosted brown color.

Can’t wait to see what adventures my April trip will have for me.

 

Enjoy!

 

CROSSDRESSER SHOPPING

CROSSDRESSER SHOPPING

Crossdresser shopping is not new to me but although I have done it for many years I have never done it in Long Beach. San Francisco, Portland, Seattle, Las Vegas, Atlanta and Texas yes but, Long Beach no. I guess it goes back to my early years when crossdresser shopping was extremely rare. Crossdresser’s were not accepted and being asked to leave a store was a real possibility maybe by a policeman. Things are different now so I got to thinking about getting a pedicure. I used to do it all the time in San Francisco years ago and then go shopping.

Of course I wore my new mask a Christmas present from my wife and my lipstick was perfect.

I use the 4Ocean frame inside that keeps it from smearing my lipstick and it does look fabulous.

crossdresser shopping

 

 

 

 

I made an appointment with a local nail shop for 1:30 pm Friday and got ready earlier than usual. There wasn’t time for a sit down lunch so it was Chicken McNuggets in the car then off to the nail shop. Turns out I was a bit early and the place was empty so they took me right away. I got in the chair and she went to work taking off my old polish then the pedicure.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

CROSSDRESSING PEDICURE

I picked Marylin Monroe red and loved the way they looked. I wore black thong sandals so the polish would not smear inside closed toed shoes. They had a comfortable 2 1/2 inch heel. I was also going to the seamstress afterward for some alterations then some crossdresser shopping at Macy’s.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

WELL DRESSED CROSSDRESSER

Next I was off to the seamstress to get some jackets taken in after losing a few pounds. Then I was off to Macy’s and the MAC counter inside for some crossdresser shopping to replace the eyebrow pencil that broke earlier. The MAC counter was empty so I was served right away got my pencil and left. I regretted it later because it was the perfect time to have the artist explain MACS new creamy powder foundation to me.

My crossdresser shopping adventure was very relaxed as Macy’s was not crowded so I was not rushed. That said I bought nothing again so my spending drought continues until the current trend passes. Tailored jackets are not trending now, active wear is so unless I want sweatshirt type styling I am out of luck. It might be related but fashion jewelry inventories seems to be shrinking possibly because nothing goes with sweatshirts and tennis shoes.

How I yearn for the days that Macy’s added 3 to 4 new tailored skirt suits to their website every Friday. Also leading up to Easter was a high heel extravaganza every year with feminine high heel sandals worthy of my pedicure.

Maybe this summer will bring some change to the fashion world hopefully more toward elegant VS sloppy.

I wish!

 

Enjoy,

 

 

 

CROSSDRESSER BODIES

CROSSDRESSER’S BODIES

Crossdresser bodies need a little work and some more than others, mine included! Shapeware is needed for many of us in addition to the hips and breast padding to achieve our feminine shape. I have tried most of them and will continue to but, have found one combination that really works great when used together. Honeylove products came to my attention a while back and was really impressed with their products and great service.

I purchased the high cut panty because like most crossdresser bodies I don’t need the thigh compression. It has a criss cross mid section to compact the tummy as seen on the black tank. The tank also has the compression front shown above in black and the beige tank. I only included the beige picture to show the length which is not clear on the black.

CROSSDRESSER BODY

The combination I use for my crossdresser body starts with my Nude SPANX Thinstinks Girl Shorts.

I purchased them in size 1X so the legs would not be tight but, pads are compressed against my hip. I need the compression because my 20 year old Classic Curves Gel pads are somewhat heavy compared to the foam ones. The shorts keep them firmly in place all day and night without slipping. I don’t feel the weight of the pads because of the constant light pressure against my body.

Once the pads are adjusted I put the tank on along with the PALS silicone breast pads from Super Gel Products. Not quite 20 years old but still kicking and you cant beat the price. I pull the bottom of the tank down all the way then put on the high cut panty. I tuck the tank into the panty which is critical because when tucked in and the panty straps are in place it won’t move. No riding up or down and it feels like a one piece garment and works no matter how long your torso is.

Because all of the garments are compression they eliminate or minimize bulges everywhere. This is the best combination I have found for my crossdresser body and is comfortable to wear. I wore it out in Long Beach in August & September evenings in the high 70’s with no discomfort. The panty and tank are partly made of mesh which undoubtedly helps dissipate the body heat.

You don’t need a bra especially if you order the tank a little tight to hold the breast forms in place. This combination leaves the seams pretty much invisible for a much better look under tight fitting or body con clothes.

My days of tight clothes are behind me but I have lost a little weight so some old stuff fits again along with the stuff that never did but I kept anyway.

crossdresser bodies

I wore a new long jacket over my midi python skirt for a taller thinner look. The jacket kind of hung on me and I spent most of the night pulling the skirt back up to my waist. The good news is that I have to go shopping in a big way. The bad news is I will have to part with some of my old stuff. I am not good at that part.

 

Enjoy!

 

MICKY FINN

NEW TO CROSSDRESSING

Crossdressing beginner is a just added a new page that is designed for the person with absolutely no crossdressing experience. It occurred to me that depending on ones upbringing they might have no clue how to start crossdressing. CROSSDRESSING BEGINNER hopes to give the reader a basic understanding of what is involved starting with evaluating the body they have. There are 6 stages to the evaluation which explain the importance of each one. I have included excerpts from each step to give you a better idea what they contain.

1. FACE

  • The biggest problem crossdressing beginner men have to deal with is the face which is what people spend the most time looking at. Just coating it with makeup does not accomplish anything unless it is done properly.

2. BEARD

  • The darker the hair the harder it is to cover requiring heavier base makeup to cover.

3. BODY 

  • The body you have also dictates what kind of female shape you can get because you need to add padding for hips and breasts. Doing this right saves not only lots of money but time also.

4. STYLE

  • I don’t know any crossdressing beginner who starts out wanting to dress like their grandmother but I suppose its possible. Your age plus or minus a decade is a good rule of thumb unless you are a fetish dresser in which case their are no rules.

5. HAIR

  • Choosing a wig is right up there with the face in importance because its one of the first things people are going to notice about you.

6. MAKEUP

  • The makeup foundation product matched to your smooth skin (true foundation) gives you a great base to start the pretty process.

The CROSSDRESSING BEGINNER page will give the new crossdressering beginner some things to consider before making decisions on how to go about starting to crossdress.

The other pages on the site will further their understanding and knowledge helping them to put their best female presentation.

CROSSDRESSER NEWS

CROSSDRESSER TRAVELS

It’s been a little while since I posted anything because I have been having too good a time traveling and dressing. Sometimes both at the same time which is always fun and sometimes exciting like my last CHIC dinner in Long Beach. I got ready early because I wanted to take some pictures before going out which deviated from my normal routine. So after getting absorbed with photo fun I realized I had to get going or I would be late for dinner which I was in charge of coordinating. I shut everything down and after summoning UBER I walked out of my room. As my door closed behind me I instantly knew the room key was on the night stand, not in my purse. It’s been years since I have had this happen which I attribute to my routine but I deviated. I opted to continue on to the dinner and deal with the key issue later when there would not be so many people around the Marriott front lobby desk.

The dinner was fun and we stayed a little longer than usual with some of us going to the bar for more drinks. I bid my friends farewell not long after because I had a golf game the next day and needed to be sharp. UBER showed up on time so I was off to me (mam/sir) moment with the night manager. When I walked up to the desk a young fellow greeted me with a hello mam can I help you. I replied in Dukes voice that I left my key in the room and needed another to which he replied with a request for my name and ID. After providing both he looked at my ID handed me a duplicate key and said “good evening sir” I knew it was coming and replied thanks you too.

WEBSITE UPDATES

After having some conversations with the new President of CHIC it was decided that their site needed some updating. I agreed to do it and ended up changing the whole direction of the site with a new format without the blog. I think it is better now with a cleaner look and the addition of the club logo along with the member testimonials. You can check it out at the CHIC website . I had so much fun that I did my website as you can see with a different look and for the first time an official logo.

Enjoy,

Micki Finn