Tag: Crossdresser Wives

CROSSDRESSER’S MEET CIVILIANS

CROSSDRESSER’S MEET CIVILIANS

Crossdresser’s interact with civilians from time to time and some more than others. If you go out in public crossdressed like I do meeting civilians is a certainty. You may not have a conversation experiencing only eye contact but you need to think about how to handle it. Long ago I took the look them in the eye and smile approach which has always served me well. Last Friday night was no exception but the outcome surprised me just the same. Seven of us were in town for the monthly Saturday night CHIC meeting so we we headed over to a favorite restaurant for dinner. Like our other venues it is a mainstream upscale restaurant where we are definitely in the minority. That said, we are well known by the owner and staff which sends a signal to the other patrons that we are accepted. COOL!

BFF Ashley, my guest Sherri and I arrived via UBER greeting Mario the owner out front when we arrived. After we hugged I introduced him to Sherri who had never been there before. Then we joined the others who were at the bar but opted to go to the table early due to lack of bar seating available.

I followed the hostess to our table taking a seat at the end looking out the window to the courtyard. There was a 50ish couple seated at the window in my field of vision so eye contact with the woman was inevitable. It was time for a crossdresser interaction with civilians.  I smiled at her several times but she was expressionless. It was more like she was observing rather than communicating with her eyes so I got involved with my group conversation. Her male companion looked over once then looked away with no expression obviously unimpressed. In situations where I don’t have a feel for what the civilian is thinking I end the contact.

Crossdresser's interact with civilians

Conversing with my gurlz I lost track of time when I was surprised by a gentle touch on my shoulder. The expressionless woman was telling me how she loved my hairstyle and how great a choice it was for me. She told me how the color was perfect and the cut was flattering for me. I thanked her for her compliments and she said good night. Even though it started a bit mysterious my crossdresser interaction with civilians worked out wonderfully.

The picture above was taken Friday night back at our hotel where Sherri and I went to the patio bar for a nightcap. It was taken by two ladies we met on the patio as we were leaving. That makes two crossdresser interactions with civilians in the same night. This encounter was different because although I saw them sit behind us with two other younger women we had no contact. I was not even aware that the younger ones had left. When we stood up they spoke to us and I was so surprised I don’t even remember what they said.  They were curious about us and had questions which we did our best to answer. We pretty much covered everything heterosexual married crossdresser, DRAG QUEENS, Gay, Transgender’s Transsexual’s my club CHIC. They left very well informed civilians.

Saturday night it was more crossdresser interactions with civilians but nothing like Friday. I received compliments on my new wig debuting on that night but not on a par with the night before.

Crossdresser's interact with civilians

The wig I am wearing above Saturday night is actually darker in the back than Friday’s. Its deceptive because both of them are very light in the front so they look very similar.

Saturday night was special though on several levels beginning with our group being larger than normal with 20 attendees. We took up the whole west end of the restaurant with a long table. I have intentionally blurred the faces of those who have not given permission to post pictures of them. Seven of the attendees were wives accompanying their crossdresser husbands.

Crossdresser's interact with civilians

When I sat at the bar before dinner it was next to the same woman I did a year ago. She naturally remembered me DUH! I stand out but I remember her because she was Asian with an accent and a low voice. Both crossdresser civilian interactions with her were challenging because of my hearing and her accent but we did well.

So in two consecutive nights I had three wonderful crossdresser interactions with civilians. It was very rewarding and I went to bed with a smile on my face that night.

Enjoy,

 

CROSSDRESSER NAILS

CROSSDRESSER NAILS

Crossdresser fingernails are a must have to achieve that fabulous female presentation. They add that extra unmistakable feminine touch which completes your elegant look.  For many years I used a process where I glued my nails on with DAP Contact cement featured on my CROSSDRESSER FAKE FINGERNAILS PAGE. It worked well for the most part but there were some drawbacks. Recently I read an article on crossdresser nails written by one of my CHIC Sorority sisters Erica. She shared a process she uses to attach her nails using press on gel tabs that stay on for days. I was intrigued because years ago I used Sally Hansen press on tabs that lasted minutes so I dumped them.

This old dog might be able to learn a new trick and be well served to give her process a shot. I ordered some and took them with me to Las Vegas last week. I wanted to try them out but brought my contact cement with me just in case.

crossdresser nails

CROSSDRESSER FINGERNAIL TEST

I put them on Monday night and was really impressed with the holding power of the gel tabs. Not one problem with lifting or loosening throughout the evening. I decided to leave them on all night because we were going shopping the next day and see how many got through the night. In the morning they were all there just as tight as the night before.

So far so good but putting on my shape wear, butt pads, and breast forms would be a real test. No problems at all although putting on make required some adjustments to my routine. I was actually ready ahead of schedule getting ready then went to lunch and shopping. Back at the hotel I changed clothes to go out that evening and my crosssdresser fingernails were intact. I even was complimented by a gentleman at the bar over my lovely nails.

Crossdresser Fingernails

I’m hooked Erica’s process for crossdresser fingernails and tossed my contact cement after ordering more tabs. I have also updated my CROSSDRESSER FAKE FINGERNAILS page to show my new technique.

Thank you Erica!

crossdresser fingernails

 

CROSSDRESSING ISOLATION

CROSSDRESSING ISOLATION

Crossdressing isolation is common in most of our stories but the pandemic has exacerbated the problem. For us more seasoned crossdressers it was especially hard having known it growing up. Then finally letting the genie out of the bottle later in life. Now with the pandemic we were being thrust back into the bottle again. Crossdresser isolation for younger people was possibly worse because they did not know what to expect. They were being shoved into the bottle for the first time.

Besides the not crossdressing there was the lack of socializing in general because of the shutdowns. losing human interaction impact is still being calculated especially with the younger less mature kids. Social gatherings were difficult if not impossible even with family members.

Crossdressing isolation was less of a problem for my sorority sisters in CHIC who are a crafty bunch. We only missed two club meetings the entire pandemic because restaurants in Long beach reopened with the same restrictions everyone else had. They would not do groups larger than 6 people and had outside seating only. So three of us made reservations for 6 people each at the same time with no problems until we showed up. The manager figured out that something must be up when 12 crossdressers and 6 wives show up at the same time. Not to mention that they instantly became friends chatting their heads off. Tonya asked if we could be seated together but he refused saying that would be an illegal group. Even though there were about 20 other diners on the patio seated at tables of four we did not push it.

CHIC had to cancel our Christmas Party like everyone else that year but member Tonya was determined to pass out the gifts she bought for everyone. She was wearing a long coat most of the evening until she started playing Santa Baby on a recorder. She then dropped the coat to reveal her Santa Clause dress and put on her hat.

crossdressing fun
Santa Baby

 

That broke the ice with the civilian customers seated on the patio with us. From then on it was 3 crossdresser groups combined with 20 civilians for a total party. Crossdresser isolation was a bit more manageable after that night and we were fortunate to have so many restaurants in Long Beach with outside dining.

Unfortunately crossdressing isolation never improves for those who never go out. They settle for dressing alone in the basement. Some are lucky enough to dress in a hotel room when traveling on business but its still a lonely existence. Some are married and have never told their wives out of fear she will leave while others have a DADT (Don’t ask don’t tell) arrangement. Still others have an agreement with the wife to lie to her about the CD’s outings. I read a post on Kandi’s Land blog yesterday where lying and DADT were being discussed. It reminded me how lucky I am. My wife has known since we met and has been on many trips with me to conventions and weekend trips with other couples.

Thinking about the subject prompted me to add some content to my CROSSDRESSER HUSBAND page. I thought it might be helpful for wives to know that crossdressers have many interests other than girly stuff. Crossdressing is only a part of them and there is much more going on that is more mainstream. The wife who reads that page is going to have to believe me. I knew all of the people whose occupations and sports that I reference on the page. I have found it truly fascinating over the years that so many of these guys have done and do such cool stuff. The fun thing is nobody who knows them would ever guess they wore dresses. After seeing them in civilian clothes and then dressed as a woman I know I know more crossdressers than I am aware of. I would never have suspected any of these guys crossdressed. I’m betting the same goes for all of us especially the wives. They may have known one at work or school and had no clue.

I hope possibly if a wife reads my page she will gain something from it that helps in some way.

 

Enjoy,

 

CROSSDRESSER GROUP OUTINGS

CROSSDRESSER GROUP OUTINGS

Crossdresser group outings are always fun not only because you are with your sorority sisters but because sometimes your group is well received by the other restaurant patrons. Saturday night the ladies of CHIC went to a place I have been before but left after dinner not going into the bar afterward. This meeting the bar was almost empty after dinner, so we decided to have some drinks. This night’s restaurant I am very familiar with having been both there and their other location. In the past I would not have recommended going there because their clientele I thought would not be open to us gurlz. That has all changed and they actually look forward to us coming with our group of 18 to 20 ladies. Truth be told I think we are sort of free entertainment, but everyone treats us very well. We always enjoy our outings there. Sports are huge at this place and there are memorabilia from both college and professional sports as you see in the picture below. Makes me feel like such a jock standing there.

Crossdresser group outings are great but the duos are many times more enjoyable than the big group. I think it’s because you are more approachable when there are only two of you. The bigger group is sometimes intimidating for the public. Friday night before the club meeting there were just two of us. My BFF Ashley and I and she took this picture in the hotel lobby before dinner. We went to the same restaurant that we had the CHIC Club Christmas Party in December. We had a great relaxing dinner not rushed in any way by our server. He understood that we don’t see each other that often.

As always, I’m looking forward to our next sorority meeting in a few weeks.

ENJOY,

 

CROSSDRESSER TRAVELING

CROSSDRESSER TRAVELING

Crossdresser traveling is fun especially when you have back to back outings with friends. I keep looking for ways to make the task easier and a little better organized. In a previous post I showed my three different colored bags for eyes, foundation and misc. It worked pretty well but I was always going back and forth between them which wasted time. I started looking for a way to improve my crossdresser traveling experience and hopefully reduce the time to get ready by eliminating some moves. After perusing Amazon (where else) I found a bag that looked promising and bought it.

 

CROSSDRESSER TRAVELING

In order to replace my three bags an extra large bag was needed so it holds everything in one place. It eliminated the extra time and steps back and forth retrieving needed items. The left picture is the first level when you open the case with eye shadow in the mesh zippered pockets on top. 3 large pockets just below that then a mesh pocket for large flat items like false eyelashes.

When the zippers below the large flat pocket are opened they expose the lower portion of the case pictured to the right. I did not use the partition system than came with the case but some plastic boxes instead. That allows me to open them and place on the counter when needed then put back in the case. I am able to do all of my makeup and hair without moving more than one step in either direction.

I am still tweaking how and where everything goes but have reduced my get ready time again by about 45 minutes to an hour.

The small plastic boxes are from Office Depot or Staples and come in many different sizes but I picked these because they fit well in the case. They fit better when the lids are placed in different directions so they offset and seat better in the case.

 

Enjoy,

 

 

 

MATURE CROSSDRESSING ADVENTURES

MATURE CROSSDRESSING ADVENTURES

Mature crossdressing adventures adventures are something that I look forward to each month. In addition to my monthly CHIC club meetings I occasionally sneak in a trip to Las Vegas or somewhere fun. This month I was able to put together a mature crossdressing adventure with my BFF Ashley in Las Vegas. We took advantage of the weekday rate at the Palazzo Resort for a few days of shopping. The Fashion Show Mall with tons of stores is right across the street from the Palazzo. Its a quick safe walk over the bridges to the mall and we usually start with lunch at one of the many restaurants there.

Over the last year I have been more and more disappointed with what stores were offering and this trip was the worst yet. The Fashion Jewelry section was desolate with displays half or more empty. Ashley pointed out that the inventory is probably sitting on a ship offshore waiting to be unloaded. The clothing and shoe situation wasn’t much better with the displays spread farther apart to disguise the lack of inventory. On a positive note my wife was happy I spent very little money again this trip.

I made up for the lack of shopping with my mature crossdresser adventure dinner excursion to Majordomo Monday night. I have wanted to go there for sometime for the steaks but ended up ordering Chilean Sea Bass.

mature crossdressing adventure

One of the hostesses was kind enough to snap this picture for me at the restaurant entrance.

Tuesday night at Del Frisco’s Double Eagle restaurant was another bucket list place for me. I had been to the one in Dallas but never the Las Vegas location so I was looking forward to it. Dallas was VERY conservative when I was there in the 90’s but I did not know what to expect with Las Vegas. It looked like the same thing in Vegas because everybody was nicely dressed due to their dress code requirements. Not really sure how conservative the patrons were but we were treated very well received and given a nice booth. Our servers very professional and attentive with the food very good. It was nice to be at a place where we were not the only well dressed women in attendance.

  Photo of Del Frisco's Double Eagle Steakhouse - Las Vegas, NV, United States

We very much enjoyed the food and service at Del Frisco’s and I am sure we will be back for another mature crossdressing adventure.

 

ENJOY!

 

CROSSDRESSER PERCEPTIONS

CROSSDRESSER PERCEPTIONS

Crossdresser perceptions go both ways which is to say how we perceive those we interact with along with how they in turn perceive us. The Friday before our monthly CHIC meeting I went to dinner with my BFF Ashley at a restaurant in Orange County California. Historically we have avoided it for many years because Orange County was a pretty conservative area and we felt uncomfortable going there. We did not really know what the crossdresser’s perception would be with the mainstream clientele conservative or not. We went once before in November and it went well so we did it again this month.

Photo of Spaghettini - Seal Beach, CA, United States. Welcome to Spaghettini!  We can't wait to serve you.

I arrived by myself via UBER very early and was cheerfully greeted by the hostesses using all the proper pronouns. That is notable in that I always use my male voice when dressed. The hostesses took it all in stride and continued calling me Mam. They offered to seat me early in the area that I had requested on my reservation but I declined. I sat in the chair pictured lower right side above on a busy Friday night. I got to see the public’s crossdresser perception of me. Those who reacted were positive and those who didn’t seemed indifferent going about their business. Its safe to say everybody notices me because I dress for myself so its way different from casual California lifestyle.

Not many women wear a black velvet suit with an embroidered flower on the jacket and high heels on a Friday night. I think their crossdresser perception of me was positive regardless if they approve. I got several compliments on my outfit from women I encountered. Our server was very attentive without being a bother and did not rush us to order or leave after dinner.

Saturday night was the CHIC meeting at one of our regular places in Long Beach and we had a private room so crossdresser perception wasn’t possible. I have been there so many times I don’t even think about it because its predictable. The crowd is getting younger as time goes on and they are typically more accepting of crossdressers. Should the the they have any questions the restaurant owner and his staff know all of us very well and can fill them in on our story. I requested outside dinning because some in our group are very concerned with the Omicron. They moved us inside to a private room. The high for the day was 61 and the low expected in mid 40’s which in Long Beach. That can be very cold being just blocks from the ocean.

The picture above was taken in the lounge section of the room we were in Saturday night. My wife has been encouraging me to stop wearing so much black so I wore brown tones this month.

Crossdressing in public has come a long way over the years and the perception of us has changed to a far more positive one. Myself and the other ladies of CHIC always try to present the best possible image when out in public.

 

Have fun!

 

 

 

CROSSDRESSER SOCIAL CLUB

CROSSDRESSER SOCIAL CLUB

Crossdresser social clubs were once fairly prevalent but have declined consistently year over year since they heyday of the 1990’s. That said there still seems to be considerable interest in them based on my website clicks. CROSSDRESSER CLUBS ranks # 6 in popularity over the other pages and posts. I am very curious as to why clubs have vanished if there is so much interest in them.

CROSSDRESSER SOCIAL CLUB

Last Saturday was my crossdresser social club CHIC’s monthly meeting and we had 16 of us attending. That number includes 5 wives who are always part of the fun. We had the whole upstairs floor of the restaurant for the group which was great because there are no time limits on us.

In the picture below I am wearing a navy jacket with a multi white / navy skirt outfit . The jewelry I am wearing was featured in a previous post and was made from two necklaces from Macy’s.

CROSSDRESSER SOCIAL CLUBS

crossdresser jewelry

Crossdresser socializing is what CHIC is all about and some of our outings lend themselves to it better than others. This weekend being upstairs with 6 booths to choose from allowed some to table jump during the evening. That allows for sitting in small intimate groups and socializing until the dinner gets served. Because we have no time constraints it allows for more socializing afterward also. This month we had a new applicant so the upstairs table hoping allowed all of the members and wives an opportunity to meet the prospect. The small group allows others at the table to hear the answers of others questions and formulate their own accordingly.

When dinner concludes we usually have a contingent of members go down to the bar below and mix with the civilians. Its something I look forward to because we are well accepted and I have had some very nice conversations there. Crossdresser socializing is not restricted to just other crossdressers. I had to pass this month though because I was not feeling up to it but look forward to next time we go there.

 

Happy Thanksgiving!

 

 

 

 

CROSSDRESSING AT DIVA21

CROSSDRESSING AT DIVA21

Crossdressering at DIVA21 is behind us now and I think the organizers of DIVA Las Vegas did a great job pulling it off after last years was cancelled. I’m not sure about the headcount but there seemed to be quite a few crossdresser’s there. Even though there were two events going on a the same time DIVA Las Vegas and Wildside there was no conflicts. I think the highlight of both events was the costume party Saturday night where both groups attended together. I attended as a military officer which looked like a general but had Sargent stripes so I’m quit sure.

 

CROSSDRESSING AT DIVA21 COSTUME PARTY

 

crossdressers at DIVA21

 

Crossdressering at DIVA21 was different this year because it was changed from Spring to Fall and landed right on the Halloween weekend. I think the most fun I had was sitting at the back bar with the civilians dressed like a general. I got lots of compliments on my costume but nobody saluted me.

 

CROSSDRESSING AT DIVA21 1ST NIGHT

 

My 1st night crossdressing at DIVA21 was Thursday and after shopping in the afternoon I came back to the hotel and changed for dinner. Cleaver & Butchered was the restaurant and they had about 20 of us there. They gave us our own room in the back and the food and service were very good. The only downside was they would only do two checks for 20 people so the girl sitting to my left had to try and decipher who had what and collect the cash for the ten people on our side of the table. The good news was the count came out on the money so we tipped a bit extra.

I’m still working on my photography skills and made the mistake of having the bar manager take this shot of me wearing a favorite suit. I had to tweak the colors and lighting because the background was too dark to show the suit. The lights in the cabinet behind me confused the camera I think. The suit is still a favorite and will try again to take a picture with a better background.

 

CROSSDRESSING DIVA21 COSTUME PARTY

 

CROSSDRESSING AT DIVA21 2nd NIGHT

 

The second night of crossdressing at DIVA 21 I had dinner with 7 of my CHIC sisters at Giada’s in the Cromwell Hotel. I’ve been there before with good and bad results but, this time they were great. Our waiter was very attentive and the food was awesome with my friend Tonya getting the fresh made pasta. When I say fresh I mean like in Italy where they don’t use the dry stuff but make from scratch every day, Tonya loved it.

 

crossdressers at DIVA21

 

 

I wore my new snake skin jacket from Venus over a black sleeveless sweater dress. It was a good choice as a got a lot of compliments on it. Surprisingly it was not uncomfortably hot which, I was concerned about in that the fabric does not breath. I guess having an open front gave it the needed ventilation.

I’m looking forward to the mask mandates ending possibly with the new therapeutics currently going through approvals. Wearing a mask indoors not only is uncomfortable but it really screws up your hair. I solved the makeup \ lipstick smearing issue with my MAC lipstick and my mask basket. Unfortunately I have not gotten around the mask steaming up glasses and making you face sweaty.

I’ll keep working on that one.

Have fun!!

 

 

 

 

CROSSDRESSER ACCESSORIES

CROSSDRESSER ACCESSORIES

Crossdresser accessories are where the fun begins for me because I like to experiment. I like to think of my dressing style as classic but I am also trying new things to see how I like the look. Eyelashes are great crossdresser accessories for putting some glam in your style for the night and my latest discovery I am in love with. I bought my first pack of magnetic eyelashes as an experiment about 9 moths ago. I had used the Ardell glue on lashes for decades but never mastered the technique for putting them on. So I tried some magnetic ones and liked them right away. I did not care for the assortment though because half of them are too radical for my conservative style. About 6 months ago I discovered a 7 set package for around $10.00 on Amazon and a company called GXO BEAUTY. These were great for day to evening crossdresser accessories and thankfully I bought more before they ran out of stock. I don’t know if they will ever be back so I went on the hunt again.

CROSSDRESSER ACCESSORIES FALSE EYELASHES

crossdresser accessories

Not one to wait and see I went back to Amazon searching for a replacement with all one style instead of the assortment. It wasn’t long before I found something even better although a little more expensive with 2 fewer pairs. They are a different crossdresser accessory more on the glamorous side and they look so pretty on. I especially like the way they taper from the inside getting longer as the go to the outside of the eye. The Arishine magnetic lashes

crossdresser accessories

CROSSDRESSER ACCESSORIES JEWELRY

Jewelry accessories are a mainstay of every woman’s closet and are used to define her look for the day. Finding jewelry off the rack for crossdresser accessories can be a challenge. It can be done though with a little work and an imagination. Pictured below are two necklaces I bought on sale along with some needle nose pliers and lobster clasps. My intention was to make a larger necklace to fit me along with a bracelet and some earrings. It takes two of each style necklace in order to have enough links to make all three items.

crossdresser jewelry

I always end up making changes along the way like with the blue and gold set below. I decided to dump the bracelet idea with this project because the links are not very strong. This is sometimes an issue when converting necklaces because they are designed to be worn around the neck. Weight is a concern so they are sometimes made light to be more comfortable. There isn’t much chance they will snag on something and break. This necklace was designed to look heavy but the backs are hollowed out to make them lighter. Odds are I would be lucky to get a couple of wearings out of it before noticing it fell off somewhere.

crossdresser jewelry

I had better luck with the silver necklace below which was heavier material so I could make all three items. The bad news is that the earrings are too heavy and I will look like Dumbo by the end of the night.

crossdresser jewelrey

I have not made up my mind yet what to do with this set which I am probably not going to wear. Possibly I will just toss it into my jewelry making box and incorporate the links into a future project. I never stop looking for closeout sales on jewelry and can pick some of it up for about $10.00 per necklace. I buy the earring hooks and lobster caws at Michael’s craft store in person or on Amazon online.

 

Enjoy,