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CROSSDRESSER BODIES

CROSSDRESSER’S BODIES

Crossdresser bodies need a little work and some more than others, mine included! Shapeware is needed for many of us in addition to the hips and breast padding to achieve our feminine shape. I have tried most of them and will continue to but, have found one combination that really works great when used together. Honeylove products came to my attention a while back and was really impressed with their products and great service.

I purchased the high cut panty because like most crossdresser bodies I don’t need the thigh compression. It has a criss cross mid section to compact the tummy as seen on the black tank. The tank also has the compression front shown above in black and the beige tank. I only included the beige picture to show the length which is not clear on the black.

CROSSDRESSER BODY

The combination I use for my crossdresser body starts with my Nude SPANX Thinstinks Girl Shorts.

I purchased them in size 1X so the legs would not be tight but, pads are compressed against my hip. I need the compression because my 20 year old Classic Curves Gel pads are somewhat heavy compared to the foam ones. The shorts keep them firmly in place all day and night without slipping. I don’t feel the weight of the pads because of the constant light pressure against my body.

Once the pads are adjusted I put the tank on along with the PALS silicone breast pads from Super Gel Products. Not quite 20 years old but still kicking and you cant beat the price. I pull the bottom of the tank down all the way then put on the high cut panty. I tuck the tank into the panty which is critical because when tucked in and the panty straps are in place it won’t move. No riding up or down and it feels like a one piece garment and works no matter how long your torso is.

Because all of the garments are compression they eliminate or minimize bulges everywhere. This is the best combination I have found for my crossdresser body and is comfortable to wear. I wore it out in Long Beach in August & September evenings in the high 70’s with no discomfort. The panty and tank are partly made of mesh which undoubtedly helps dissipate the body heat.

You don’t need a bra especially if you order the tank a little tight to hold the breast forms in place. This combination leaves the seams pretty much invisible for a much better look under tight fitting or body con clothes.

My days of tight clothes are behind me but I have lost a little weight so some old stuff fits again along with the stuff that never did but I kept anyway.

crossdresser bodies

I wore a new long jacket over my midi python skirt for a taller thinner look. The jacket kind of hung on me and I spent most of the night pulling the skirt back up to my waist. The good news is that I have to go shopping in a big way. The bad news is I will have to part with some of my old stuff. I am not good at that part.

 

Enjoy!

 

MICKY FINN

CROSSDRESSING BALANCE

Crossdressing balance came into mind this week for several reasons so I thought I would write something on it. Everybody has to balance family time with work time along with other pursuits and crossdressing is no exception. Summer typically results in a crossdressing imbalance for some because warm weather and shorts preclude shaving legs for many. In addition there are lots of activities that crowd out gurly time. Personally I re balance my crossdressing mid September when I try to makeup for lost time dressing during summer. The hair comes off in two weeks and travel plans are being made so next is packing my outfits.

CROSSDRESSING BALANCE

There is more to crossdressing balance than hairy summers in shorts and the beach though. While crossdressing is important its not my only interest hence the need to balance it with the other activities. I just returned from another Duke & Rocco adventure that involved and out of state golfing trip with my BFF Ashley AKA Rocco. I use the name Duke. We traveled through four states playing 5 great golf courses in the process. We have known each other for 30 years after meeting at a Texas “T” Party at lunch with our wives. Since that time we have become great friends and belong to the same crossdressing club.

BALANCING THE CROSSDRESSING

Ashley gets out dressed more than I do because my crossdressing always involves traveling so cost and time are a factor. I achieve crossdressing balance by setting aside a long weekend each month that coincides with the monthly CHIC get together. I can dress 24/7 during that weekend but typically don’t preferring evening over daytime dressing. The exception is when we do a Las Vegas or San Francisco trip where gurly shopping moves up in priority. Its not that we don’t play golf we just alternate golf in the morning followed by dressing that night. The next day we shop en fem followed by dressing, dinner and many times a show. You can see the balance golf, gurly shopping, dinner & show.

crossdressing balance

 

COMPARMENTALIZING YOUR CROSSDRESSING

Crossdressing balance and compartmentalization also apply to myself and others I have known. In my case I compartmentalize my crossdressing with an all or nothing mind set. If I am going to crossdress it is all of nothing dressed completely head to toe. Its once a month and fully dressed or not at all. I know others who wear panties or other women’s garments under their male attire to work or other daily activities. They say its the feeling or sensation of the garment against their skin they enjoy. Me too but, its just going to make me want to dress so I avoid wearing them.

Wives and girlfriends also appreciate balance and compartmentalization because it gives them a better insight into what is going on and what to expect. It also lets them plan around or with your activity.

Micki Finn

CROSSDRESSING IN LAS VEGAS

CROSSDRESSER IN LAS VEGAS

Crossdresser in Las Vegas is back and yours truly was there with my BFF Ashley from CHIC to get it started. After 3 months of solitary confinement we were ready for a crossdressing adventure it was just a question of where. When Vegas reopened and the Venetian announced their discounts it was a done deal for us. They opened on the 4th and I got there on the 6th late in the afternoon to get the lay of the land. Our plan was to dress Sunday, Monday and Tuesday nights with golf in DRAB as Duke and Rocco Monday & Tuesday during the day. Crossdressers in Las Vegas in not that unusual but I am pretty sure there were only ones doing it that week. Rest assured we were the best dressed ladies anywhere in town as there was a sea of shorts tank tops and thongs to compete with.

CROSSDRESSER PASSING

Maybe Ashley the night she wore jeans but definitely not me overdressed absolutely as always! We were noticed for sure but nobody really cares so they observe, smile then drink some more. Some people wore masks but not in the casino’s and restaurants along with the bars. I did not devote the time it takes to put Ms. Micki together to wear a mask so did not. All servers and resort personnel wore masks at all times along with taxi drivers. There was constant cleaning everywhere all the time so Vegas is on it big time.

DINING OUT CROSSDRESSED

Crossdressed in Las Vegas may be back but not everywhere with some casino’s not open yet and mainly the anchor stores open in the mall. Others were scheduled to open June 12th and were getting ready. I think by the 4th of July everything will be open again.

 

Ashley suggested we stay within the Palazzo and Venetian hotel where we were staying to avoid having to mask up for UBER. Taking her suggestion I booked CUT by Wolfgang Puck at the Palazzo for Sunday night where we got an awesome booth. The server asked if it was a special occasion and I replied yes, my first Cosmo in 3 months! The servers although masked were wonderful treating us as ladies never missing a pronoun.

Ccrossdressing in Las Vegas

On Monday after golf was Italian night so we walked over to Canaletto restaurant in the St. Marks Square section of the Venetian Canal Shops. There weren’t any acceptable tables outside so we opted for one inside. The only available one outside was right next to the hostess station so we would be in a fishbowl all night. We were not comfortable with kids staring at us all night. YES KIDS! They were everywhere with parents escaping to Vegas for the inexpensive hotel rates and dragging their kids along masked or not. No wonder the divorce rate is so high in America. Maybe seeing gurlz Crossdressed in Las Vegas will convince them to leave the kids at home.

Anyway, we had a great Italian dinner and of course more Cosmo’s before calling it a night because of an early tee time Tuesday morning.

Crossdressing in Las Vegas

 

Tuesday night we went to Smith & Wollensky just off the Canal shops at the Venetian for an amazing steak dinner.

I had a bit of a fashion emergency when I wore the snake skin pumps for the first time. I broke them in using my freezing technique so they felt OK walking around my house but the tile at the Canal shops was a problem. They loosened up after a while and the heel started slipping which has never happened before. Thank goodness I keep a thin pair of ballet flats in my purse to switch. I did put the pumps back on for the grand entrance into the restaurant. It was a bit slippery walking on their tile floor but I made it to our booth which was the farthest one in the back.

 Crossdresser in Las Vegas

They did not rush us so we took out time even chatting with the staff as the night progressed. We called it a night around 10 so we could leave early the next day for home.

 

CROSSDRESSED IN LAS VEGAS OBSERVATIONS

The town is coming back to life each day and more venues open each day. When I arrived Saturday afternoon the Sephora store next to the Venetian still had plywood over the windows. Monday afternoon they were gone and employees were stocking the shelves. There was a sign on the door stating they would reopen June 12th. The Fashion Show Mall  had Macy,s, Dillard,s, and Nordstrom’s stores open with a few smaller ones on Sunday. More smaller ones opened on Monday and the same at the Venetian Canal Shops. I expect this will continue daily until everything is open. I know many were waiting to see what the demand was before opening and were shocked at the bookings. The Palazzo and both Wynn hotels changed course quickly

Pack your bags ladies Vegas beckons!

Micki Finn

 

 

 

NEW TO CROSSDRESSING

Crossdressing beginner is a just added a new page that is designed for the person with absolutely no crossdressing experience. It occurred to me that depending on ones upbringing they might have no clue how to start crossdressing. CROSSDRESSING BEGINNER hopes to give the reader a basic understanding of what is involved starting with evaluating the body they have. There are 6 stages to the evaluation which explain the importance of each one. I have included excerpts from each step to give you a better idea what they contain.

1. FACE

  • The biggest problem crossdressing beginner men have to deal with is the face which is what people spend the most time looking at. Just coating it with makeup does not accomplish anything unless it is done properly.

2. BEARD

  • The darker the hair the harder it is to cover requiring heavier base makeup to cover.

3. BODY 

  • The body you have also dictates what kind of female shape you can get because you need to add padding for hips and breasts. Doing this right saves not only lots of money but time also.

4. STYLE

  • I don’t know any crossdressing beginner who starts out wanting to dress like their grandmother but I suppose its possible. Your age plus or minus a decade is a good rule of thumb unless you are a fetish dresser in which case their are no rules.

5. HAIR

  • Choosing a wig is right up there with the face in importance because its one of the first things people are going to notice about you.

6. MAKEUP

  • The makeup foundation product matched to your smooth skin (true foundation) gives you a great base to start the pretty process.

The CROSSDRESSING BEGINNER page will give the new crossdressering beginner some things to consider before making decisions on how to go about starting to crossdress.

The other pages on the site will further their understanding and knowledge helping them to put their best female presentation.

CROSSDRESSING DIVA LAS VEGAS

Cross Dressing 101 is a page I created for those who are new to crossdressing to guide them along the journey of going out en fem. However it is written to include anyone interested in picking up some techniques they might not be aware of.  Cross Dressing 101 will get you ready but the decision to go out. It’s a decision only the cross dresser can make for themselves. Having said that sometimes a little push is needed to get them across the threshold which can be intimidating. Some years back there were conventions that you could attend in large hotels where you could dress in your room. Then you could venture downstairs to meet new friends. There was no Cross Dressing 101 back then so you just went downstairs no matter how bad you looked.

CROSSDRESSING 101 HELP

Thankfully there was always somebody that looked worse than you but the good news was there was a fix. In those days there were several hundred crossdressers all in the same hotel. That many captive prospects made it very profitable for vendors to set up shop. Once you made it downstairs to the vendor area you would start with Jim Bridges (Hollywood studio makeup artist) for makeover. Jim would strip off what makeup you had which was most likely all wrong for your skin type. He would educate you and apply the correct shades based on your age and skin tone. Jim had wigs but if not the right one he would borrow one from the wig ladies to complete your look. When you left Jim’s chair you were looking the best you ever could. Also  armed with instructions on how to do it yourself. I think in most cases you left with the new wig you were wearing (purchased) thanks to Jim. Jim also did seminars on makeup because it was impossible to remember everything he told you during the makeover. From there it was just steps to the jewelry folks to accessorize the outfit you needed to wear that night. Extra large shoes were available and some clothing along with some corset makers.

Cross dresser 101

Unfortunately there are only a handful of events going on now that are similar in some ways but much smaller. The only one that I have attended and would recommend to a cross dresser 101 girl is Diva Las Vegas. It is different from the old convention formats with no vendor area or seminars downstairs but help is available. Their version of cross dresser 101 is to have appointments available at the malls for makeovers and some independent services that cater to cross dressers. The MAC  CROSSDRESSER MAKEUP counter at the mall on the strip is very popular and the artists are great along with being extremely cross dresser friendly. Amy at Just You  is a full service male to female cross dresser store close by where you can get pretty much everything you need.

Diva Las Vegas this year has been re scheduled from the original March dates to October 27 thru Halloween the 31st. Being that Halloween is the official cross dresser holiday it should be fun. There are many wives who attend with their crossdresser husbands who make it a vacation. There is probably no better time for a wife who fears being outed when seen with her crossdresser husband. Halloween is a good to go out with him in costume as a princess or Alvira. Last year I went to the CHIC Halloween party as Captain Morgana (Captain Morgans Rum) and there are many online costume stores to chose from.

CROSS DRESSER 101 VEGAS

The main reason I recommend Diva for crossdresser 101 girls is because of Diva’s Big Sister program. It is intended to help those needing someone to assist them getting around Diva. I have talked with many CD’s that want to attend but don’t know other crossdressers so feel intimidated going out alone. We have all had times like that especially in the beginning if you can remember that far back! The key is to sign up for the event NOW and ask for a big sister when you do. It is first come first served and they go fast so if you want one its better to do it right away.

I think when Las Vegas opens up again there will be a rush like a tidal wave some rooms could be a problem.

Be Safe! Get Dressed Have Fun!

MICKI FINN

CROSSDRESSING HUSBAND

CROSSDRESSING IN PLACE

Crossdressed husband along with crossdressers in general are in a bummer situation right now. The shelter in place restrictions are putting a real crimp in our dressing adventures. For us mature crossdressers it takes us back to the beginning of our dressing career. A time when most of us were pretty much closeted only being able to go out in carefully orchestrated outings. You were doing pretty good to get out a couple of times per year if the planets all aligned.

Crossdresser’s wives have much to deal with in general but in light of the current shelter in place orders you can add a caged lion to her load. When her crossdressed husband cannot let the genie out of the bottle he is apt to be a little irritable. Many a crossdresser’s wife wisely ship him off to a hotel for the night to deal with the she devil in him. There are plenty of rooms available most places but not much fun when you can’t socialize with anyone.

 

Crossdresser husband

HEY WHERE IS EVERYBODY?

Things have kind of gone back a few decades with regard to the ability to go out with today’s restrictions. I don’t know which is worse, being a younger crossdresser and being confined to your house for the first time. Or being an older crossdresser who was in the closet for years then out and about freely then back in the closet again. My view is the latter is the worst situation and I know many agree especially those that were planning on going to Diva Las Vegas this year. The event was cancelled along with the Keystone Conference because of the virus shutdown. I had a first as the Palazzo Hotel cancelled my reservation for last week instead of me cancelling them. They closed the entire hotel and casino which has never happened in Las Vegas.

It’s not helping to have another couple of weeks to wait for the virus to go away. I am an optimist so I am planning my next adventure. I can tell you that this crossdresser husband is going to make it count so Las Vegas will be the likely destination. In the mean time I am making French Manicure fingernails to keep me busy and focused until I can launch again.

Hang in there ladies it will be behind us soon.

Best wished to all and be safe!

 

Micki

CROSSDRESSER NEWS

CROSSDRESSER TRAVELS

It’s been a little while since I posted anything because I have been having too good a time traveling and dressing. Sometimes both at the same time which is always fun and sometimes exciting like my last CHIC dinner in Long Beach. I got ready early because I wanted to take some pictures before going out which deviated from my normal routine. So after getting absorbed with photo fun I realized I had to get going or I would be late for dinner which I was in charge of coordinating. I shut everything down and after summoning UBER I walked out of my room. As my door closed behind me I instantly knew the room key was on the night stand, not in my purse. It’s been years since I have had this happen which I attribute to my routine but I deviated. I opted to continue on to the dinner and deal with the key issue later when there would not be so many people around the Marriott front lobby desk.

The dinner was fun and we stayed a little longer than usual with some of us going to the bar for more drinks. I bid my friends farewell not long after because I had a golf game the next day and needed to be sharp. UBER showed up on time so I was off to me (mam/sir) moment with the night manager. When I walked up to the desk a young fellow greeted me with a hello mam can I help you. I replied in Dukes voice that I left my key in the room and needed another to which he replied with a request for my name and ID. After providing both he looked at my ID handed me a duplicate key and said “good evening sir” I knew it was coming and replied thanks you too.

WEBSITE UPDATES

After having some conversations with the new President of CHIC it was decided that their site needed some updating. I agreed to do it and ended up changing the whole direction of the site with a new format without the blog. I think it is better now with a cleaner look and the addition of the club logo along with the member testimonials. You can check it out at the CHIC website . I had so much fun that I did my website as you can see with a different look and for the first time an official logo.

Enjoy,

Micki Finn

 

MATURE CROSSDRESSING HISTORY

MATURE CROSSDRESSING HISTORY

Crossdressing history comes in two parts, one is the personal crossdresser’s history.  The other is part of the collective history of crossdressing men wearing dresses over the ages.

Younger crossderesser’s will have a relatively short history but, are none the less part of the collective history of crossdressing. The younger crossdresser’s are the inspiration for this post. It also pertains to others regardless of their age that have recently made the leap to explore crossdressing.

CROSSDRESSING FEAR AND TREPIDATION

Crossdressing in public isn’t what it used to be and the young and newly launched gurlz benefit from the efforts of those who came before. Long before Caitlyn Jenner drew so much attention to the subject when she came out to the world others were pushing the envelope. Some at great personal cost like divorce, job loss and in some cases jail. The farther back in history you go the worse it was.

30 years ago I would have been extremely uncomfortable going into the 555 Steakhouse dressed as a woman. It is an upscale restaurant in downtown Long Beach near the convention center. The 555 is always crowded liquored up convention folks. Getting the cold shoulder from the management and frowns from the customers  would have been my expectation and that would be the good part. Fearing being asked to leave or having customers request being moved were also a consideration. My worst fear though would be to have had some dunce pull my wig off and play catch with his boozed up buddies.

Please understand my paranoia of the 555 Steakhouse was in no way based on the establishment but, my fear of society in general in those days.

Last month I made a reservation at the 555 online for 10 people on the Friday night before our club (CHIC) Christmas Party. I did not notify them in advance that we were going to be crossdressed. I did years ago out of consideration for the restaurant. The reason being that they know me there. Micki has eaten their many times in large and small groups being treated as a lady every time. I think I am in their computer system so they know what to expect when we arrive. That Friday night the place was really crowded but our food & service were exceptional. Other than we were dressed better than most of the women there nobody paid us much attention.

MATURE CROSSDRESSER HISTORY

I have posted before on mature crossdressing history when I wrote about a book my friend John C. Gunn authored called I’m Dressed Your Not.  John went by the name Lane when we met at a CHIC meeting about 30 years ago. She is in her 90’s now and I and others learned a lot from her especially the fingernail technique I use. Another post I did was about Laverne Cummings who would be about the same age as Lane had she not passed a couple of years ago.

I recently came across some information on the internet that took me back to the early stages of my crossdressing history. It along with seeing how different things are nowadays for younger and newly launched crossdressers are what inspired this post. Possibly after reading it those with less crossdresser history will gain an appreciation for those who came before and blazed the trail.  

CROSSDRESSER DOCUMENTERIES

I came across a series of YouTube crossdressing videos by JoAnn  Roberts from the mid 1980’s along with a tape from the Phil Donahue television daytime show.

MATURE CROSSDRESSERING HISTORY

JoAnn passed in 2013 but not before making a significant impact on the crossdressing history of many of us.

She started her own publishing company and began producing LadyLike Magazine.

crossdressing history

In 1985 she wrote and published Art & Illusion, A Guide to Crossdressing.

crossdressing history

She was also one of the founders of the Renaissance Transgender Association, Inc. This was all done in an era where you could easily lose your job on just the rumor that you were a crossdresser.

Her courage and others like her eased the path for others by educating the public on crossdressing.  In 1995 she was a partner in the online website Trans Gender Forum later named TG Forum.

It was TGForum and JoAnn that hosted the 1st CHIC website that I built almost 20 years ago. JoAnn was very patient with my lack of knowledge of websites back then.

Below are the links to the All dressed up series.

 

All Dressed Up and Nowhere To Go TV Documentary With JoAnn Roberts 1

 

All Dressed Up and Nowhere To Go TV Documentary With JoAnn Roberts 2

 

All Dressed Up and Nowhere To Go TV Documentary With JoAnn Roberts 3

 

All Dressed Up and Nowhere To Go TV Documentary With JoAnn Roberts 4

 

All Dressed Up and Nowhere To Go TV Documentary With JoAnn Roberts 5

 

All Dressed Up and Nowhere To Go With JoAnn Roberts 6

 

Enjoy,

 

Micki Finn

CROSSDRESSING FOR CHRISTMAS

CHIC CHRISTMAS PARTY

Crossdressing for Christmas this year was the culmination of the years planning for all the members of CHIC.  I was very pleased to see so many of the members and crossdresser wives wearing gowns this year. The picture below was my contribution for this year and I absolutely loved it.

 

Crossdressing for Christmas

CROSSDRESSED FOR CRHISTMAS

When I saw this dress at Macy’s in November I scrapped my plan to wear the blue cocktail dress I bought earlier in the year. I thought the sequins on one side and not the other looked glamorous. The rhinestone shoe ornaments on my black suede pumps topped off the whole look for me that night.

 

Crossdressing for Christmas

CHIC CHRISTMAS PARTY

This event has pretty much 100 percent attendance for CHIC members and wives. Our party is in the wine cellar private dinning room below the main restaurant. It starts with a hosted champagne cocktail hour with servers passing  a variety of hors d’oeuvres as everyone mingles.

 

PRIVATE DINING

Dinner is a sit down affair with wine donated by a member and started with a pasta ravioli appetizer. Salad followed then the main course with a choice of veal scaloppine piccata, Salmon steak with shaved apple and fennel  or, vegetable risotto followed by an assortment of pastries for each table.

CROSSDRESSED AT CHRISTMAS

After dinner the cameras come out and its picture time for those wanting pictures of them crossdressed at Christmas time. Not everyone wishes to participate so we do it in a special corner of the room away from the rest.

I did not have permission to publish Lady “L”s picture so I covered her face.  It was easier than trying to cut her out and piece the picture back together.

Sadly we must wait until December 2020 to wear our formals again unless something comes up for New Years Eve.

Have a safe fun new year all!

 

Micki Finn

 

 

 

 

CROSSDRESSER CHRISTMAS PARTY

CROSSDRESSER CHRISTMAS PARTY

CHIC Christmas Party for our local crossdressing club is just around the corner. It is the highlight of the year for all the members of the club. The party is dress to impress time from elegant dresses and skirt suits to formal gowns. Some shop all year while others rush to the finish line. My shopping is done and I opted for a formal this year after a dressy suit last year pictured below.

 

Crossdresser Christmas Party

CROSSDRESSING PARTY

CHIC Christmas Party is attended by pretty much every member of the club and member wives make a special effort to attend this event. Because some members live great distances from Long Beach their wives only attend this one meeting. It gives them a chance to catch up with crossdresser wife  friends.

FOOD AND FUN

The evening starts with club sponsored cocktails and hors d’ oeuvres in the bar of the restaurant. The venue is a popular mainstream long Beach restaurant so we are mingling with the general public. It is never a problem and attracts a bit of attention as we are better dressed than most patrons.

Wine and more hors d’ oeuvres await downstairs in our semi private lounge room where the picture above was taken. Around eight or eight thirty we sit for dinner and desert until about 11:30 when the night officially ends. The CHIC Christmas party may end but not the partying as some will head to the bar upstairs or across the street for more libations!

There will most likely be other Christmas Parties going on that night also as in the past. The ladies attending the other party are typically very complimentary of our cross dressed members. They appreciate the time and effort we put into our makeup and hair. Gowns also get a lot of attention being that you usually don’t seem them other than on TV.

The party is just days away and I can’t wait to start the process. Pictures to follow in a few weeks.

Micki      

 

 

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